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Story about this guy & his girlfriend being in a open relationship
Posted 8/4/15 , edited 8/4/15
Open relationships are fine. I would be fine with one especially when its under the terms of what this couple had. Which is basically just use protection. And the dates they went on were pretty much a one time thing it seems & all they did was sleep together.

I can't see myself in one, honestly. Since I feel I'd be too picky anyway tbh.
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Posted 8/4/15
Sounds like NTR to me
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Posted 8/4/15
karma truly is a bitch

i wouldn't have an open relationship but i don't mind other people having one since it doesn't affect me anyways
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Posted 8/4/15 , edited 8/4/15
Wont knock anyone who has them but open relationships aren't for me.
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Posted 8/4/15 , edited 8/4/15
Man, that's hysterical! I really hope that since then, they've broken up. She deserves someone that treats her right both when they're right next to her and when they're away.

Open relationships definitely wouldn't be for me but I have friends that are in them and it works for them. It takes an awful lot of trust, honesty, etc etc to be able to have one and have it work.
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Posted 8/4/15

anzn wrote:
This guy wasn't satisfied with his big girlfriend, & wanted to go out and date more hotter women so he asked her if they could have a open relationship. She agreed to it. And she ended up dating & sleeping with tons of hot men while this guy couldn't even get one woman to date him.
So he wanted a closed relationship again because he thought it was unfair lmao.
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Also, how do you guys feel about open relationships by the way?


I'm a proponent of open relationships, and all of my relationships except one have been open.

I think the guy did the right thing to start with. He didn't sneak around. I guess he might have been manipulative or applied an uncomfortable amount of pressure, but if the ultimatum was a genuine expression of his feeling and not just used as ploy, well, I get that.

His claim that the outcome was "unfair" is nonsense. I can sympathize with his disappointment but to whine about how "unfair" things ended up is, well, whiny.
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Posted 8/4/15
If you want an open relationship go ahead but for me personally it takes two to tango
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17 / M / CS Colorado
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Posted 8/4/15
Call me old fashioned but id rather not have the whole neighborhood sleeping with my gf....
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Posted 8/4/15

Kitahoshi_Hazel wrote:


Kylar_Stern wrote:

Honestly, I think it takes a special type of person to be in a healthy open relationship. Personally I couldn't ever be in one, I would imagine that I view sex and intimacy differently than the required type of person in an open relationship would.


I feel this way too, that I'm not as great as a person would need to be for an open relationship. I would be too jealous and possessive. I would probably lose my husband because I would become an unpleasant person. I think that the person on reddit didn't think about that possibility. He also didn't realize that dating people is actually a lot of work on top of maintaining your primary relationship. I know I don't have the energy nor the desire to date a new person.

Besides all that nonsense, I wouldn't want an open relationship because of the health and safety issues. I think it's great that some people can do this, but I just don't have it in me. I would only ever have a third partner who was seriously committed, and even then that sounds like a lot of work and time that I could just stay in and watch my husband play Dark Souls.


I don't think I'd be possessive or jealous but I definitely understand why a person could feel that way. I would imagine once a person makes the decision to get into an open relationship they would have to cognitively discard those feelings of jealousy and possession. The guy in the redit post forgot one of the important things about nature, and that is that 9/10 the male pursues the female. There will be 10 to 1 men barking up his gf's tree than women to his, with that in mind if his chick is suddenly open to getting with a bunch of guys her success rate will be exponentially higher. Ultimately if this fella was getting as much action as she is then there wouldn't be an issue. He let his selfish ambitions get the best of him and now he's paying for it, hopefully he walks away from the experience having learned something. The health reasons wouldn't bother me as much as me just thinking its gross. She'd have to use mouth wash and shower a couple times before I'd touch her lol. I completely agree with you though it'd be way to much work.
Posted 8/4/15
So why could't he use a sex dating site ? I mean if all you wan is more sex variety. Then will in't be more efficient and faster use a sex site ?

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Posted 8/4/15
Personally i'm not one for open relationships but this guy needs to move on he made a mistake he can't take it back.
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Posted 8/4/15
When i commit,i really commit. I could never be in an open relationship. I don't think the concept is bad if both members want it. They want to be together but want to sleep with other people? Go for it.

I know people who just swap for the night.
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20 / F / Texas, U.S.
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Posted 8/4/15
As long as both are in complete agreement, and they're not interfering with OTHER relationships, why not?
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Posted 8/4/15 , edited 8/4/15
To each their own but I couldn't ever see an open relationship being a thing for me.

Honestly if you aren't physically and emotionally satisfied by an individual, maybe they aren't the one for you. Just my 2 cents, but I would want to love someone both body and mind before getting committed in a relationship, as I know that it a successful relationship isn't a walk in the park, it takes work.
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Posted 8/4/15
As long as its safe sex and there arent any std's going around its fine I guess
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