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Ugly and ugliness
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AiYumega wrote:

Why do so many obviously not ugly people think they're ugly? It seems to be a pandemic, of younger people especially, so wrapped up in Botox that they forget ugliness is a rare, super rare thing. You may not be drop dead gorgeous, but there's a misuse of the word "ugly" for sure.

There's a such thing as more attractive, yes. But just because someone looks better than you doesn't mean you're ugly. I see it on sites where people get judged for their appearance. The comments don't help, but that's the Internet I guess.



I also think personalities are uglier than appearances




What do you all think?



I think you hit it right on the head, honestly, especially with the younger generation (my generation).

I'm still in high school, and there's so much pressure from these obnoxiously skinny teen girls and obnoxiously ripped teen guys on Instagram or the likes that it alters what a lot of us see as "beautiful." I'm not that bad with my self-esteem, however I know people that probably see me as "ugly" even when I feel I'm not entirely that because of social implications nowadays.

Also, it get's worse the lower down the age pole you go. I know like 5 girls, all my age (16) or younger, that self-harmed. Even though self-harm's a whole new topic I have plenty of opinions to talk about on, it certainly is a direct influenced by thread topic to some amount of degree.
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OP summed it up nicely: true ugliness is rare. Most people look fine most of the time. While some might be more attractive than others (especially if they put the work into cultivating that attractiveness), not many people could be said to be unattractive to the degree that more legitimate standards of value like personality are undermined by it.

Beauty isn't a static thing in the first place. Facial expression has a substantial impact on how attractive a person is perceived to be in the moment, so get happier and you'll look better. That's why self-confidence is considered to be so important when it comes to this.
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Beauty and Ugliness is in the eye of the beholder. I also think that it is rare to look ugly. There's plain or not being the latest typical look. I've seen some I'd think of as plain just smile which suddenly made them become attractive. I also find people become attractive or more attractive the more you get to know them.

Yes a lot of people especially adolescents struggle with self esteem issues. I don't think you could judge attractiveness solely on getting turned down for some dates or getting dumped. You'd have to really look at who you're trying to socialise with and who you are identity wise. You could be making the mistake of choosing incompatible people and got into that habit.
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Confidence or the lack thereof feeds directly into your body language and that in itself usually determines whether or not you are ugly. It can become a bit of a self-feeding loop where you feel ugly therefore you are ugly.

For me I'd say I look as good as I feel. If I'm full of energy and really flying around out there I will carry myself properly and look just fine... but if for whatever reason I under-perform to my expectations I lose confidence and it shows.

What can be taken from this though is that you need to find that one (or maybe more) thing that empowers you and take control of it.
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personalities can be fixed/hidden/fake/improved.

some features can't be fixed/hidden/fake/improved.
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I think people say they don't care about appearance when they do. For me i love women with a great personality but i also have to be physically attracted to them and my standards aren't high. We also have all that media bullshit on what good looking people are which probably hits lots of peoples self esteem.
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I don't look at people and see "ugly" the way some others do. I notice if a person is not what I would consider beautiful but that doesn't equal "ugly" in my mind. It just means that person wasn't born looking like something. I usually shrug my shoulders at it. We are born as who we are born as. It's not like we can choose it. So much of what people today call beautiful is really just "marketable". I don't think the whole botox and nose job thing makes a person beautiful either. Often times it makes them plain. Sometimes it's the little flaws in a person that makes them beautiful. Too much plastic surgery takes these flaws out of people and this can make them less attractive than they were when they started out. What it does make them is marketable. That doesn't mean they are what we would call "beautiful" though. It means they look good on the screen and in pictures according to today's standards. I think most of the old beauties from the 50s and 40s like Marilyn Monroe, were truly beautiful. Sometimes I come across a picture of a model who has had plastic surgery and I think she is truly beautiful but that's pretty rare.
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Coz if I say I'm pretty, people (well I guess mostly the more attractive ones) will look at me like I'm crazy for thinking that way and I'm so narcissistic. If I say I'm ugly well then at least people wouldn't think I'm too full of myself and expect less from me. Kind of like that.

One more thing is that, I actually think I was pretty... Until I hit puberty and started having breakouts which made me less confident about myself.
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