Why do people overwhelm themselves?
Posted 8/6/15
Hello!


I was curious why people have everything planned to a t! I try to go on dates, make plans with friends but their entire week/month sometimes is supposedly full? I don't understand why people overload on college courses, work, volunteer, exercise, etc. Is it because of the iphones and apps everything needs to be scheduled? Whatever happened to just leisure time to kick back and relax on a weekend, or just have a chill day with friends and not stress/worry about where we are going or what we are getting to eat.


Just noticing this a lot in people younger than me where they are pushing themselves really hard (which can be good in a sense) but then they will turn around and before they know it, they didn't really appreciate or enjoy anything in the moment, because they were already planning their next move.


I notice this when it comes to friends and dates the most. I can ask someone, "Hey are you up for a Chicago Cubs game? Free tickets in the bleachers" these are the answers I would get, most being C and rarely none saying D.

A- I would love to but already have plans. sorry!
B- I am not a sports fan.
C- I will get back to you ......... (let me check if anything better is happening)
D- I'm in!

Rarely does anyone say yes or commit to anything nowdays. I generally get C. I don't understand what happened to good ol spontaneous living!

Is anyone here spontaneous or is everything planned in your life?

Nothing wrong if you are not, but was just curious.
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Posted 8/6/15
I think it's mostly pressure, pressure to be seen doing supposedly productive things 24/7. Also, the pace of modern life... it seems like everyone around me is always "on the go", always doing something, especially if you live in a big city.

The thing is that they'll get burnt out / worn out and probably end up as a nervous wreck eventually. I know... I've been there.

Other than my job which is scheduled (I have to be in the office at some point during the day, lol) and things that I've already decided to do at the weekend with people, I'm generally free - if someone asks me to do something on the day and it's not something that I'd find totally boring as hell then I'll usually go along. So I guess I'm a mixture of both?

For example, I am meeting a friend on Saturday but we have absolutely nothing planned so even though it's a scheduled meet, our actual activity will be spontaneous with whatever people feel like doing on the day.
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Posted 8/6/15
Being Spontaneous I think might be slowly dying away especially if you have kids sometimes its tough but then I make myself do stuff on a whim cause you never can tell what your future holds you could drop dead tomorrow
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Posted 8/6/15

mikedabomb22n1 wrote:

Hello!


I was curious why people have everything planned to a t! I try to go on dates, make plans with friends but their entire week/month sometimes is supposedly full? I don't understand why people overload on college courses, work, volunteer, exercise, etc. Is it because of the iphones and apps everything needs to be scheduled? Whatever happened to just leisure time to kick back and relax on a weekend, or just have a chill day with friends and not stress/worry about where we are going or what we are getting to eat.


Just noticing this a lot in people younger than me where they are pushing themselves really hard (which can be good in a sense) but then they will turn around and before they know it, they didn't really appreciate or enjoy anything in the moment, because they were already planning their next move.


I notice this when it comes to friends and dates the most. I can ask someone, "Hey are you up for a Chicago Cubs game? Free tickets in the bleachers" these are the answers I would get, most being C and rarely none saying D.

A- I would love to but already have plans. sorry!
B- I am not a sports fan.
C- I will get back to you ......... (let me check if anything better is happening)
D- I'm in!

Rarely does anyone say yes or commit to anything nowdays. I generally get C. I don't understand what happened to good ol spontaneous living!

Is anyone here spontaneous or is everything planned in your life?

Nothing wrong if you are not, but was just curious.


Wtf? Cubs are in first -people are stupid this is the year you break the streak- Go Cubbies
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Posted 8/6/15
People are afraid of dying.

They want to do all that they can before they disappear forever.
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Posted 8/8/15 , edited 8/9/15
How about Option E. "Nah I don't want to spend 10 hours with you watching a baseball game, surrounded by a bunch of drunk loud people".

Sometimes people have plans, but maybe the issue is that you're overly spontaneous and spring things on them. It's much easier to get people to agree to things in the future than "right now." If I get into the mindset that I'm going to spend Saturday sleeping and watching anime, and don't even expect to leave the house, a call from you inviting me to an event Friday night for Saturday morning is way less appealing, since I've already made up my mind. It becomes kind of intrusive even.
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Posted 8/10/15
People live the way they do (each to their own) and i choose not to stress. I don't care if someone around me thinks that i mustn't have a life because i don't go drinking or that i don't post stuff that i've done in the online world.

Besides others may care more about their ego in comparison and have a urge to do as much as possible. Which isn't wrong either.
All i know is that it's not a life style for me. I do what i have to, meet with my family and a very few friends. Rest of the time i really enjoy doing things on my own.
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Posted 8/11/15

Chameleont wrote:

People live the way they do (each to their own) and i choose not to stress. I don't care if someone around me thinks that i mustn't have a life because i don't go drinking or that i don't post stuff that i've done in the online world.

Besides others may care more about their ego in comparison and have a urge to do as much as possible. Which isn't wrong either.
All i know is that it's not a life style for me. I do what i have to, meet with my family and a very few friends. Rest of the time i really enjoy doing things on my own.


I agree with you here. Most of my friends fill their free time with drinking, going in clubs, etc.
From time to time I join them for a drink, I sometimes schedule them to come over or I go to their place.
But I mostly spend my free time enjoying manga, video games or anime.
To be honest, sometimes I wish I could be more like them, I'd probably have more friends.

In the end, both ways are ok, as long as it makes you happy.
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Posted 8/13/15
The only thing I've overwhelmed myself with is my summer anime watching schedule this year m8
It's already hard enough work to manage my schedule just with that, so I'm pretty spontaneous with all the other decisions in my life
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Posted 8/13/15 , edited 8/13/15

Kanudelgruber wrote:

People are afraid of dying.

They want to do all that they can before they disappear forever.

Ironically, this mentality leads people winded up completely broken and exhausted of whatever life they could have left in them more often than not.

Carpe Diem is often interpreted in a way that makes me wonder whether people know the difference between being active, and suffering from ADHD. If we were to consider it the way that people like, it would basically be like saying our ancestors lived meaningless lives, and if that's the opinion of someone fair enough, but personally I believe our ancestors to be on top of things, and our modern generation completely lost in all of our futile efforts at filling voids.

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Posted 8/13/15
Plottwist: I am overwhelmed because I have too much free time.
Posted 8/21/15

animegirl2222 wrote:

Plottwist: I am overwhelmed because I have too much free time.


I can totally relate to and agree with that!!! LOL!!!

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