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Words can only go so far as to answer you question.
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Love is sacrifice
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It's 4 am and I feel like going into something deep but I have no one to talk to about it xD

My question to you all is, what is love? From a young age, we are told by our parents, "You must love us, you must love your siblings, and you must love God. And you must do it voluntarily and not because I told you so." Or when a couple gets married, they are expected to love each other unconditionally.

But is this a fallacy? In my opinion, love that doesn't flow freely, and is forced, is not authentic, therefore is no longer love. Every single one of us knows this yet mysteriously we choose to ignore it, because it goes against the "rules" of life, as if their were any rules to begin with. Somehow, society has come to the conclusion that human nature can't be trusted because it might disappoint us.

Because if you put your trust in someone and love them, you come to the risk of having your heart broken or them not fulfilling your expectations. Or in the earlier example, you fear that if you don't force yourself to love your parents, there runs the risk that you won't love them. But I feel like this risk has to be taken. Consider the alternative, you force yourself to display unauthentic love, which is nothing more than an act, and you spend your whole life full of resentment and unhappiness to force something that isn't there.

In the exact same way, you can go to a school to learn how to draw manga and art perfectly, but if you don't have something to express, you can never make a good story. Or if someone goes to school to learn the techniques to make music. You can learn all the techniques, but you can never teach someone how to be creative, because creativity is love and it can only flow out freely.

That's why the arts are really important, yet schools minimize the arts and have less and less classes about them.
As Alan Watts said, "Love that is not expressed, will come out in the form of self destruction."



In one way you are right and in another way you are wrong.

First, what is creativity? creativity is the same as beauty for me, it is in the eye of the beholder and there are many different types of creative people. Those who learn art and lack creativity probably has not met their inspiration yet. To be creative you have to be inspired and some people are born with that skill already whereas others have to practice hard or need some help to find inspiration.

Love 'flows freely" but how? can you love a stranger like that? I don't think so. You have to know the person first and if that person treats you in a way that makes you feel content, safe, understood then you will surely develop something as well. This is why I think you can learn to love because when you are shown love you are learning it. Love should be mutual.

Other times it comes freely like the unconditional love of a mother towards her son. it is called unconditional because no matter how bad the son is, no matter the mistakes he makes, no matter the many unmet expectations...the mother will not hesitate to forgive him, accept him with open arms and die for him.

There are many kinds of love, some may come to an end, some are fake, and very very few are "unconditional" which is the real love everyone longs for but very few find them because it is not easy. Real love comes with real pain.

In sum, love is not about telling but about showing. You were told by your parents that you must love them and must love God but did they show you love? actions speak louder than words and any kid who grows in a loving family will be a reflection of that love. That's why you don't need to be blood related to love someone, that's why many people don't get along with their parents because they're shitty parents and they love their friends because they feel better with them.




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Love is different person to person. There is no one sweeping definition to it.
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This.


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I don't think there's a real answer. What is love in your eye's is all that tends to matter.
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Love is when you love reality more than your dreams.
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Love is when you don't masturbate to their Facebook photos.
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Love is a fools game.
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it is a chemical in our head that last about a year.
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For me, love is trust.

Not trust in the way that we trust someone not to cause us pain, but rather trust in a way that provides a part of our inner being. By that, I don't mean that to love someone you have to tell them all your deep dark secrets, certainly not, but that love is trusting another with a piece of our genuine selves.

That piece we give can be different from one person to the next, and certainly differently sized as well. What people get out of us is only what we trust them with. Love hurts because of that trust we place, the less trust we are able to provide another genuinely, the less we come to love them.

That trust once given, can be difficult to break. Trust so overwhelmingly difficult to break, is often what is referred to as 'unconditional love'. It is no surprise that often parent's will place a deeply fond trust for their children or children to parents. It doesn't always occur though, and it doesn't always hold. How much we give and how much we trust of ourselves to another, is entirely variable.

Well, that's what love is to me anyway. Though to be honest it is quite the unexplainable phenomenon at times, it can be oh so powerful it is really attempting to tack a reasoning to something often difficult to explain, especially the maternal kind.


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Love is when you don't masturbate to their Facebook photos.


I was scrolling, read this and laughed.



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I believe in love. love comes from oneself and doesn't have anything to do with the other person. If you never give in to how you feel then how do you know what it is?
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Hayao Miyazaki described the love he tries to portray in his movies as "one where the two mutually inspire each other to live", and I think that's pretty spot on. The person you love inspires you to become a better person, to be the best you that you can be.
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Kurogun wrote:

Love is different person to person. There is no one sweeping definition to it.


This.

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Baby dont hurt me... Did someone already says this lol.
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