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My parents didn't do that to me at all. They let me do whatever I wanted.
And since I got everything I wanted, I could've smoked and such. Of course I didn't.

I finished high school earlier this year with almost aces. I'm happy, my parents are happy.

So I think parents should give their kids space to think for themselves OR help them with their homework!
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What really matters most is ZMZS79U6EA3 enjoy
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Posted 8/21/15 , edited 8/21/15
Grades are very important but they are not the only thing that matters and they aren't the most important. Health is the most important. Keeping that in mind will be very helpful.

Money can be replaced, and you can buy new objects or approximations of a missing object to replace lost property, but you can't work or enjoy things as much as you do if you're dead or maimed or very ill. Health is often taken for granted until it's gone. You don't notice that it's important until you no longer have it.
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Posted 8/21/15

Mrcreepday wrote:


So I think parents should give their kids space to think for themselves OR help them with their homework!


Just going to say I agree. Also going to say my parents stopped being able to help me as soon as I hit 7th grade, lol!



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Most of the time it stresses them out to a point where they just don't want to care anymore
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Although grades are significant, I wouldn't prioritize them over more important things like your own personal goal or friendships. From personal experience, it's through my friends and pursuing my personal goal I'm able to keep my grades up. Of course it's dependent on what kind of friends you make or what kind of goals you have. It's thanks to socialization and friendships I'm able to keep the stress, depression, pressure, etc. to an absolute zero, which I find actually boosts my grades. For my goal, I just have to push through the crap in highschool to get to what I want to do in college, study music.
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Posted 8/21/15
literally my mom and my mental health is not that good
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Grew up with Asian parents. So there were high expectations about grades.
I hated that.
Because it's so bloody stressful.
Really bad for the mental health.

In the end, I rebel completely and my parents had to change their approach because what ever they were doing, weren't working.
We had loads of arguments but slowly in the end, they understood better and I also understand where they were coming from.

So when university came, they were chilled now. And they just support me without the expectations. Funnily, I was better when there were no expectations. so yea.
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Owie.....I think its best to do your best. Getting good grades is a reflection of doing your best. Otherwise youre slacking. Keep up the hard work, you will be rewarded someday. Its not instantaneous.
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What can go wrong? My life should be a PSA to parents.

My principal let me challenge grade 12 when I was in grade 9 because of my high marks.
Then, when I succeeded, they claimed I was so mentally unstable that I shouldn't have been capable.
So, they jumped to the conclusion that I not only cheated, but always had, and I was expelled from high school.
Also, because really I was still in grade 9 challenging grade 12, I was only ever given credit for a grade 9 education.

Where does that leave me now?

I'm 22 years old, with diagnosed agoraphobia, who only leaves my home once a week for therapy.
I had to teach myself everything to make up for getting expelled from school, so my education has gaps.
The GED has been abolished in my province, and I can't hold down a job therefore can't pay to upgrade math.
Even if I could, I have such poor social skills from my tiger-mother upbringing that I can't cope in social situations.

I'm a very firm believer that the education system is flawed and needs an overhaul.
That, and parents should let their children be children for what time they have at that age.
Having to constantly be "top of my class" (straights A's weren't enough) literally ruined my life.
To all of my peers, I seemed so alien - so they wouldn't let me speak to them even if I were able to.

So to anyone who thinks that getting good grades assures you a good future, I have some pretty bad news for you.
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