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Posted 8/21/15 , edited 8/21/15
I work in information technology and some of my friends ask how I can I go on long periods of time without using my cellphone. Furthermore, I think it is a sad when I see two or more people sitting together at a restaurant on their cellphones not having a verbal communication amongst each other. I am sorry if I offend anyone with my previous statement, but it is based on my perception and perception shapes our reality.

Following further, I watched a documentary about video game addiction in China where studies have shown that video game addiction slows down social cognition development; therefore, communication skills are lacking. The documentary also showed treatment methods for both the parents and their child. Both sides of the story entails the child's perception of their addiction and the parent's perception.

After watch the documentary, I noticed many of those social communication aspects are similar to communication skills for some who uses their cellphones to much. I have friends who's communication skills are quick, straight to the point, simple words, back to the cellphone; meanwhile, I have other friends who can carry on a good conversation. Simply put, I would not date anyone who brings out their cellphone because they cannot have a good conversation; however, I do not mind if the conversation leads up to showing something of interest on their cellphone.

What do you think about the use of cellphones when going out?
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I don't like the social etiquette that goes with texting or any of those social media replies.

People get mad and take it too seriously when someone they text don't text back asap.

They don't even like one word or one letter response from a long text they concocted.



I don't even bother texting someone that obviously have 5 hour advance difference from where they are to mine. GMT +5

(I hope you don't have a sound notification activated when I text. Don't want to disturb you during 3 in the morning. What? You live in Algeria and you're a teacher. My bad. my bad.)
Posted 8/21/15
I prefer to leave when the person I'm with is on the phone every five seconds.

If I'm taking the time to actually hang out with you, you should at least have the decency to not waste it.
Posted 8/21/15
phones are apart of communication. I always get my phone out to show who i'm speaking too something or send someone a photo. When i see couples both on their phones i find it funny more than anything & for me it helps verbal communication.
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Posted 8/21/15
I think the biggest problem with phone etiquette is that they are still new.
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Posted 8/21/15
If I'm out with someone and they are yappin on the phone, then I'm not out with someone am I?
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Posted 8/21/15
The idea that you need to be attached to everything all of the time is an idea that I reject. When I am with people, I get my enjoyment out of spending time with them and having fun in that moment, not by holding those people at arms length so I can joke with someone who isn't there. I hate few things more than when I am spending time with someone and they are spending most of their time on their phone...
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I find it irritating when my mom pulls out her phone at a restaurant or something. She is invariably reacting to something on Facebook and she doesn't intend to talk or listen to me for the next several minutes. Incidentally, she's the only person I know who does this. In all other cases, I find that smart phones are actually quite good for enriching conversation, like if I want to show something off or need a quick fact check.
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Really it's not any different from a normal home phone, now its just all mobile and as long as they aren't talking on the phone for hours on end, with the exception of my mom when i go to visit I have no issues with texting. Just turn your phone on vibrate or silent when with friends or out and about so people dont have to hear your msg tone go off every 15 secs.

Social skills of kids are only going to get worse as we go on in life. Wait until VR becomes as common as a console or phone in the house then you will see all sorts of new issues arise.
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Posted 8/21/15
I have lost my phone for 5 months now. I can tell this.
Social communication relies on the message that on the conversation itself now, Example when I was at dinner place with 4 friends (videogame grinders) I noticed that they did reacts to jokes that were supposed to be ineffective on communication 12 years ago. Nevertheless being out of "WhatsApp" have condemn me in social event that are only spread out on "WhatsApp" groups. But the far worse was my incapacity to communicate with this girl that at random ask me my "WhatsApp" I was I don't have it. Even trough she ask me the my Facebook. (who on middle earth ask what is your Facebook , never! on my mortal life I have been asked this) Then tag me on some stuff, why don't show it directly?
Still I have unlimited mobile phone minutes. and people tell me they send minutes of recording on WhatsApp to me...
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Posted 8/21/15 , edited 8/21/15
Phones are used for communicating with distant people. If people are in front of you, talk to them. Breaking out a cell at a restaurant and steeping the table in silence seems rude and inexplicable to me. There's greater immediacy for the people around you. People you text respond at their leisure, as do you.

I understand a quick glance at the time or maybe a short message to someone that's at least somewhat urgent or even taking a quick photo, but texting pages to friends for 5 minutes doesn't seem right when you take the time to meet with someone and they're sitting next to you.

What I REALLY, REALLY don't understand is why people stay phone-zombies and stare at their phones while jaywalking across a street. Hurry the f*** up.
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I don't really agree with the complaints people have about others' social skills. Sure, I'm the kind of guy who was always selected to do the public speaking for the group, but I never had a problem with smiling and giving my attention to someone with more trouble expressing themselves than me.
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I think its fine personally
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Posted 8/21/15
I despise cell phone culture. I do not despise cell phones, I wouldn't go anywhere unless I or someone I'm riding with has one on their person. Try having a car problem late at night whilst driving thru a bad neighborhood. They are fantastic devices, yet there are many aspects surrounding their use which drive me batty. I will just list the experiences which come to mind.
People talking on phones in restaurants.
Phone ringing in movie theatre.
People talking on phones on buses. (Stopped using public transit almost completely after they became popular)
Girl texting/FB during date.
People texting or answering phone in the middle of a face to face conversation.
People whose phone is obscured (or on bluetooth) who speak and I think they are addressing me at first. (Common at work).
That reminds me, it's kinda annoying that no one considers it poor work ethic to talk/text while working anymore.
One time an ex of mine and I were almost hit by a woman driving whilst on the phone. I jumped forward, yanking my then g-fri by the arm, pulling her out of the way right before the car came skidding to a stop, right in the middle of the crosswalk we had been in a split second earlier. The woman just gave a typical "oops sorry" wave.
That's all I can think of at the moment. The phones themselves are a fantastic idea. I own one. It is on silent over 90% of the time.
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Posted 8/21/15
It's kind of weird to whine about this. If a person picks up it's phone and pays attention to that instead of you, why are you even bothering with that person? I would just leave.

Documentaries are pretty much click/watch baits. Taking the supposed info they provide as truth is kind of silly.
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