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Posted 8/21/15 , edited 8/21/15

MissKittenVicious wrote:

I prefer to leave when the person I'm with is on the phone every five seconds.

If I'm taking the time to actually hang out with you, you should at least have the decency to not waste it.


Nailed it. I am the same way if there an opening for me to leave; otherwise, I will end my time with them as quickly as possible.


Shukuzen wrote:

It's kind of weird to whine about this. If a person picks up it's phone and pays attention to that instead of you, why are you even bothering with that person? I would just leave.

Documentaries are pretty much click/watch baits. Taking the supposed info they provide as truth is kind of silly.


Same, I would just leave as well. I do not watch documentaries without doing research about it afterwards to seek how much truth is in it.
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I work in the IT field as well. Only time I use my phone is for work purposes or, the obvious use, when someone calls me. I rarely ever use my phone to initiate communication with another person. I much prefer face to face. Way more involved that way and far less annoying than someone talking in your ear noisily. If it wasn't for work, I'd probably just do without a phone all together. Sadly, it's a necessary thing for me.
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I did phones support for years. My friends know that talking to me on the phone for any length of times normally winds up with me starting to talk in grunts since I don't actually enjoy chatting up like they do. Also is a bit of carry over from when we had a land line and how we did our plan.
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I try not to text alot when I'm with people. But if I'm out with people, I do my best to pay attention to them and be in the moment. But I will admit that I do occasionally reply texts.

But I also have to admit that I hate going out with people who are constantly on their phone. Because it's like, why am I here then?
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Awaken_Riceball_ wrote:

I work in information technology and some of my friends ask how I can I go on long periods of time without using my cellphone. Furthermore, I think it is a sad when I see two or more people sitting together at a restaurant on their cellphones not having a verbal communication amongst each other. I am sorry if I offend anyone with my previous statement, but it is based on my perception and perception shapes our reality.

Following further, I watched a documentary about video game addiction in China where studies have shown that video game addiction slows down social cognition development; therefore, communication skills are lacking. The documentary also showed treatment methods for both the parents and their child. Both sides of the story entails the child's perception of their addiction and the parent's perception.

After watch the documentary, I noticed many of those social communication aspects are similar to communication skills for some who uses their cellphones to much. I have friends who's communication skills are quick, straight to the point, simple words, back to the cellphone; meanwhile, I have other friends who can carry on a good conversation. Simply put, I would not date anyone who brings out their cellphone because they cannot have a good conversation; however, I do not mind if the conversation leads up to showing something of interest on their cellphone.

What do you think about the use of cellphones when going out?


You have offended me with your statement, but only the part in bold. STOP CALLING ME I'M NOT SUBSCRIBING!
Posted 8/21/15
I don't really mind as long as they are responsive in some way. I could be doing multiple thing and still recall with clarity... just don't pause and ask me to repeat what you said, that will tamper with my flow even long afterwards, Just keep it moving and we're fine. I don't feel it's necessary to limit what we can do out of respect. Anyway, i always try to avoid long and meaningless conversations.
Even in school, i found it easier to concentrate on what the teacher is saying by playing tetris under the table lol.
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It makes me feel very insignificant to the person, who is basically ignoring me to communicate with someone who hasn't even taken time out of their day to hang out with them. Please, don't prioritize the phone over the decent person(for all we know) in front of you.
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i don't even own a cellphone.
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When I'm out with my gf, we try to only use the phone to call for an emergency. It's the same thing when I'm with my close group of friends, we rarely use our phones when we're around each other anyways.
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DudeItsMark wrote:

When I'm out with my gf, we try to only use the phone to call for an emergency. It's the same thing when I'm with my close group of friends, we rarely use our phones when we're around each other anyways.


That is nice, that is my ideal as well.


carmensakura07 wrote:

I try not to text alot when I'm with people. But if I'm out with people, I do my best to pay attention to them and be in the moment. But I will admit that I do occasionally reply texts.

But I also have to admit that I hate going out with people who are constantly on their phone. Because it's like, why am I here then?


I like your thoughts about, "Why am I here then?" It makes perfect sense.


odaplaX wrote:

It makes me feel very insignificant to the person, who is basically ignoring me to communicate with someone who hasn't even taken time out of their day to hang out with them. Please, don't prioritize the phone over the decent person(for all we know) in front of you.


Well said, I could not have said it better myself.
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I prefer having a face to face conversation.
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I have a unfounded and irrational hatred of Phones but knowing how irrational it is doesn't change the fact I hate them and as such I do not own a cell phone.
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It took me a long time before I got my first mobile phone. I'd avoided it for a purpose. I didn't want to be at everyone's beck and call 24/7. Sis decided that since I didn't have one and she wanted to get a hold of me any time then she'd best provide me with one. My birthday comes up and when I unwrap the present there's this phone. I stared thinking she really shouldn't have. Then came the days when she and others complain because she couldn't get me. I'd forgotten the phone home or left it in a coat pocket in my hallway.



It's a mixed blessing. It's great in an emergency or when you have a rendevous somewhere. It's not so great when you've left the phone in your jacket pocket or in a locker at work because work time is work time. There are those who forget that or have grown too impatient. I've found whole arguments on my phone that I'd been oblivious of due to me actually living life. If you must leave a message give it time for me to get back to you. No it may not necessarily be in the same hour or even the same the day you sent your message. I will not ever take my phone into my bathroom. If the phone rings and I'm in there having a nice soak in the bath, I'm not about to rush out dripping wet for a phone.

I can't or won't speak when I'm
walking in the street
On public transport
Indisposed
Sleeping
Dating
Watching a movie
Eating
Working
Really sick
At a meeting
Finding out a family member is dying
Visiting hospital/doc

I can go more than a week without using my phone. I use my phone to complement my life, I don't exist just to be on call all the time.
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Posted 8/22/15
we just got a cell phone. I will say it makes things easy. we don't have to look for a public phone nor ask some one to make a call for us.

I think what would help the environment is to not keep buying a new phone. just keep the one you have until it it broken. then get a new one.
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I grew up in the era where the only people who owned a cellphone were people with money to burn or they were business men/women. The first time I remember seeing a cellphone (that someone just owned for the sake of it) was back in 2002 in between classes when one of my classmates had one. I remember being given a chance to look at it and seeing the option for "text" and asking what that was for. She said, "You know--if you want to send a message to someone without calling, or if you want to send a message to a pager!" I remember thinking how stupid that would be and why would anyone want to do that.

Don't I feel silly now.

I got my first cellphone (flip phone) back in 2009 (I was 24) and we had to count our text messages less we go over and pay horrendous fees. I texted most of the time, but other than that I really only used it when necessary.

Don't get me wrong: I love technology. I work in a call center where I help others with their phones! For me, my cellphone can be an escape from the boring or mundane if there's nothing going on, but I never pull out my phone to text other people while I'm out with friends. My friends and I have a rule when we're out: The first person to pull their phone out is buying. If the reason to pull out the phone is reasonable (checking for a location, movie times, or there's a picture or something funny you want to show that pertains to the conversation it's ok... but there's no checking messages or email while doing these things).

I agree that when people are out together and you see them sitting silently at a table and looking at their phones that it's a sad situation. I prefer genuine face to face human interaction over texting/phones any day. :)

I also believe some people blow the whole situation out of proportion. There's a time and a place for it, but there's no need to be a neo-luddite.
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