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mdmrn wrote:

You don't have to be crafty. Just say, "Hey - this is something I like, want to watch it with me?" Like others suggested, starting with something in a genre you know they like could be helpful, but I don't necessarily think it's necessary.

I watch anime - sometimes with my wife present. She knows I like it, so she'll watch it with me - even though she does not. Likewise, I watch Grey's Anatomy & Switched At Birth with her, even tho I do not like either of them...


my boyfriend didn't really watch anime when we started dating, but he knew it existed. as we started dating along, he started watching it with me because I was. he's getting into it now, but is not well verse in it as I am.

we watch shows together in general, I've sat down and watched Breaking Bad with him...not really into that...or Salem (amazingly that is waaaaay too gory for me). so I think this sit down and watch the show together even if one doesn't really like them works the best.
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My husband was already watching anime before I met him, but it wouldn't be hard to convince him to try watching it. I'm the stubborn one, it would be me who is difficult to convince of anything.

If the girlfriend is anything like me, then you pushing it at her too aggressively will backfire and make her want to watch it even less. Be gentle and sly about it. Find something that's very similar to the movies or tv shows she already watches and casually say: "Hey, I've heard this show is kind of like [insert show she likes], want to watch it together?". Don't hype it or say it's amazing, let her figure out how she feels about it without your feelings influencing her. I have had friends ruin too many things by telling hyping them up only for me to feel that they weren't as amazing as they were described to be.

Just. Be. Casual.

That is the trick.
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Kitahoshi_Hazel wrote:

My husband was already watching anime before I met him, but it wouldn't be hard to convince him to try watching it. I'm the stubborn one, it would be me who is difficult to convince of anything.

If the girlfriend is anything like me, then you pushing it at her too aggressively will backfire and make her want to watch it even less. Be gentle and sly about it. Find something that's very similar to the movies or tv shows she already watches and casually say: "Hey, I've heard this show is kind of like [insert show she likes], want to watch it together?". Don't hype it or say it's amazing, let her figure out how she feels about it without your feelings influencing her. I have had friends ruin too many things by telling hyping them up only for me to feel that they weren't as amazing as they were described to be.

Just. Be. Casual.

That is the trick.


You actually sound pretty knowledgeable about how to be convincing but in a way that will work. Before you got married when your husband/boyfriend was sleeping did you whisper in his ear to propose to you every night until it happen? He probably thought it was his idea lol Casual is the trick
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You actually sound pretty knowledgeable about how to be convincing but in a way that will work. Before you got married when your husband/boyfriend was sleeping did you whisper in his ear to propose to you every night until it happen? He probably thought it was his idea lol Casual is the trick


Close. I went to a New Year's party, had lots of fun, and then told him that I had changed my mind and that there were still good men in the world after all. He proposed twenty days later. I'm not as cruel as this makes me sound - we had picked out the rings together almost a year beforehand.
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Posted 9/4/15

Kitahoshi_Hazel wrote:


scoobydew wrote:



You actually sound pretty knowledgeable about how to be convincing but in a way that will work. Before you got married when your husband/boyfriend was sleeping did you whisper in his ear to propose to you every night until it happen? He probably thought it was his idea lol Casual is the trick


Close. I went to a New Year's party, had lots of fun, and then told him that I had changed my mind and that there were still good men in the world after all. He proposed twenty days later. I'm not as cruel as this makes me sound - we had picked out the rings together almost a year beforehand.


This actually sounds pretty sweet. All guys need help/shove in the right direction sometimes especially if we want a happy ending
Posted 9/4/15
You'll probably lose her to anime so better quit while you're ahead mate lol jk
Posted 9/4/15
Answer just from reading the title: Tell her it doesn't hurt the first time. (Lol)

Answer from actually reading: shove her face into the TV screen and tape it there. Now you don't need to persuade her, she's stuck.
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1. Learn their interests.

2. Find good anime that matches up.

3. Watch together

4. Profit.
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She just kind of started watching it with me.

Before I was embarrassed to watch it in front of her back then. One day I just left it on and she just kinda sat there and started watching it with me and then her own series.
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descloud wrote:

She just kind of started watching it with me.

Before I was embarrassed to watch it in front of her back then. One day I just left it on and she just kinda sat there and started watching it with me and then her own series.


Thats how i felt to in the beginning, after watching SAO while she was over she got into it and eventually started watching vampire knight on netflix. That may be because it reminds her of twilight lol but its a step in the right direction
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descloud wrote:

She just kind of started watching it with me.

Before I was embarrassed to watch it in front of her back then. One day I just left it on and she just kinda sat there and started watching it with me and then her own series.


Thats how i felt to in the beginning, after watching SAO while she was over she got into it and eventually started watching vampire knight on netflix. That may be because it reminds her of twilight lol but its a step in the right direction


haha nice
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I don't have a partner but I would say Miyazaki movies because everyone loves those
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I don't have a partner but I would say Miyazaki movies because everyone loves those


I might get in trouble for saying this, but... I don't hate the Miyazaki movies, but I don't really love them either. My friends love them though, and they are the same age as me so I don't know why I find them a little more childish than I would like when they seem to be able to get past that.
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Kitahoshi_Hazel wrote:


fallenking16 wrote:

I don't have a partner but I would say Miyazaki movies because everyone loves those


I might get in trouble for saying this, but... I don't hate the Miyazaki movies, but I don't really love them either. My friends love them though, and they are the same age as me so I don't know why I find them a little more childish than I would like when they seem to be able to get past that.


That's fine if you don't love them. I really was just referring Miyazaki movies because it's some of the stuff new watchers can get into usually end up watching. Personally they aren't my favorite stuff but I do enjoy them and appreciate what they contribute. I feel like Miyazaki movies are usually a thing many have watched in their younger years and that could be the target audience I don't know but that could have part in the childish thing.
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You never persuade your partner. They maneuver you into thinking that you've persuaded them .
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