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Post Reply I met a homophobe today...
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Posted 9/5/15
Fortunately I've never come across someone like that and I hope that I never do. From my experience prejudice often comes from a lack of spending time around that particular group of people. Once you do, you realize that stereotypes aren't always true and people are just products of their environment, for better or worse.

Although the example in the OP might be a little different, it sounds like a lot of that person's feelings come more from their religious beliefs, which aren't swayed as easily. Especially in this particular case, she seems to take the scripture very seriously so it might not even be enough to convince her that she might be wrong.
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If you're not straight you're gonna see/notice these people like everyday.
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Never in real life, but plenty of times online. They frequently cite the Biblical stories of Sodom and Gomorrah as justification. I respond with Ezekiel 16:49.
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Pretty much my entire family are homophobic, might have helped push my gay cousin toward suicide.
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Let's just not get so wishfully full of ourselves as to TAKE it only meaning "fear" (as the other definitions would shift blame a bit), at the expense of all other Merriam-Webster definitions--
Otherwise, we run the risk of sounding like gamer/Trek/SW nerds inside the safety of their own convention hall, delusionally reassuring themselves of their own coolness despite the hostile outside world, believing that the said rest of the world is either burning with private complexes or insane with jealousy:
"They pH3ar our Mad Skillz! "

While it's easily possible to dislike, it's nearly impossible to "fear" something that desperately annoys you, unless anyone here has a deep-rooted childhood terror of Justin Bieber or found-footage horror movies--We don't "fear" Twilight fans or Bronies, we just wish we had some effective way of making them find something else to do.
The very root of Annoyance comes from a feeling of passive superiority toward loud and unstoppable inferiority--As in, you're bothered by someone loudly, happily, and so full of themselves in making the same social mistakes you would rather a human being not make, and the burning, mounting resentment and sense of helpless frustration toward our fair and democratic culture that forbids our avenging and enforcing the social discipline observed by all the other average people by slapping some sense into them on the side of the head.
So, we sit there...silent...uncomplaining....and happily taking it all as the stranger next to us on the subway, with no concern or biding awareness of the other human beings around him, continues to drone the same one verse of the song he heard on the radio, off-key, and continually getting the lyrics wrong each time. (Insert YouTube clip of Eddie Murphy screeching "Roxanne" along with his radio, from "48 Hours".)
Our reaction is not by dictionary-definition Fear, but boy, can it still spark homicidal urges.


I'm kind of confused at what you are trying to get at with this. I had stated that the definition of homophobia is not EXCLUSIVE to fear, but also includes other ideas. I had not ONLY used webster's dictionary because if you look, you can see that I quoted the oxford dictionary too. Please be a little more on topic and less confusing when discussing things. I couldn't tell what point you were trying to make...
Posted 9/5/15
I've never been inside a church and have never came across anyone who says they hate gays. Most people in the city do not give a fuck about what you do in your free time.
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Dabossman26 wrote:


Ejanss wrote:


Let's just not get so wishfully full of ourselves as to TAKE it only meaning "fear" (as the other definitions would shift blame a bit), at the expense of all other Merriam-Webster definitions--
Otherwise, we run the risk of sounding like gamer/Trek/SW nerds inside the safety of their own convention hall, delusionally reassuring themselves of their own coolness despite the hostile outside world, believing that the said rest of the world is either burning with private complexes or insane with jealousy:
"They pH3ar our Mad Skillz! "

While it's easily possible to dislike, it's nearly impossible to "fear" something that desperately annoys you, unless anyone here has a deep-rooted childhood terror of Justin Bieber or found-footage horror movies--We don't "fear" Twilight fans or Bronies, we just wish we had some effective way of making them find something else to do.
The very root of Annoyance comes from a feeling of passive superiority toward loud and unstoppable inferiority--As in, you're bothered by someone loudly, happily, and so full of themselves in making the same social mistakes you would rather a human being not make, and the burning, mounting resentment and sense of helpless frustration toward our fair and democratic culture that forbids our avenging and enforcing the social discipline observed by all the other average people by slapping some sense into them on the side of the head.
So, we sit there...silent...uncomplaining....and happily taking it all as the stranger next to us on the subway, with no concern or biding awareness of the other human beings around him, continues to drone the same one verse of the song he heard on the radio, off-key, and continually getting the lyrics wrong each time. (Insert YouTube clip of Eddie Murphy screeching "Roxanne" along with his radio, from "48 Hours".)
Our reaction is not by dictionary-definition Fear, but boy, can it still spark homicidal urges.


I'm kind of confused at what you are trying to get at with this. I had stated that the definition of homophobia is not EXCLUSIVE to fear, but also includes other ideas. I had not ONLY used webster's dictionary because if you look, you can see that I quoted the oxford dictionary too. Please be a little more on topic and less confusing when discussing things. I couldn't tell what point you were trying to make...


LGBT individuals are noisy, selfish and annoying. They do not understand what they're doing wrong. Society makes a mistake by allowing them to be the way they are. This seems to infuriate Mr. Ejanss to the point where he would commit murder.

That's how I interpret his words.
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Aye most of my friends are homophobes. I'm neutral on the matter I don't support Homosexuality nor do I condemn it. I prefer to stay neutral
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Dabossman26 wrote:


Ejanss wrote:


Let's just not get so wishfully full of ourselves as to TAKE it only meaning "fear" (as the other definitions would shift blame a bit), at the expense of all other Merriam-Webster definitions--

Our reaction is not by dictionary-definition Fear, but boy, can it still spark homicidal urges.


I'm kind of confused at what you are trying to get at with this. I had stated that the definition of homophobia is not EXCLUSIVE to fear, but also includes other ideas. I had not ONLY used webster's dictionary because if you look, you can see that I quoted the oxford dictionary too. Please be a little more on topic and less confusing when discussing things. I couldn't tell what point you were trying to make...


Just saying that a lot of people would like the "-phobia" part of "Homophobia" to mean "fear" when...it might not.
Because "fear" is a safe, dismissive word that means whew, it's somebody else's fault, and you didn't do anything, it's just the other guy who's ignorant, unreasonable and full of crazy complexes that you shouldn't even bother to reason with in the first place, and "dislike" means maybe you are doing something they dislike, and it might be your fault.

The impression straights have that gays live in their safe, narcissistic, and childishly hyperdefensive world where every problem toward them is somebody else's fault (and it's probably because of their repressed complexes!), is one of the things people dislike. That's why it helps to be careful about definitions.
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Unfortunately, I have had the displeasure of meeting one before. Most, if not all my friends are quite open to homosexuals, so this one in particular was neither my friend nor an acquaintance. Of course, this was when I was still in high school.

We had a humanities class that was open to lower grades so long as they had the proper prerequisites, so our class had a couple of students that were a year younger. This one person in particular even identified himself as a homophobe to the teacher, and told a bunch of offensive jokes directed at people he thought were homosexuals. The teacher ignored him because she knew he was an idiot, and most of us in the class just facepalmed and ignored him. He thought he was being funny, but a lot of his jokes weren't, and were just plain retarded. I dropped that class a few months later, and never saw him again.
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Ejanss wrote:
Just saying that a lot of people would like the "-phobia" part of "Homophobia" to mean "fear" when...it might not.
Because "fear" is a safe, dismissive word that means whew, it's somebody else's fault, and you didn't do anything, it's just the other guy who's ignorant, unreasonable and full of crazy complexes that you shouldn't even bother to reason with in the first place, and "dislike" means maybe you are doing something they dislike, and it might be your fault.

The impression straights have that gays live in their safe, narcissistic world where every problem toward them is somebody else's fault (and it's probably because of their repressed complexes!), is one of the things people dislike. That's why it helps to be careful about definitions.


What you're describing sounds like a person with a somewhat narcissistic personality which, based on my observations isn't all that rare. That and sexuality are completely seperate and should be treated as such. Would you find it reasonable if I labeled you as ignorant, unreasonable and crazy just based on your sexuality?

Now about the topic. I haven't actually met anyone who states it that clearly. I've only had experiences with people changing their opinions on things just because the person involved is gay.

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Nope, we don't have homophobia over here. Well, at least I haven't met a single openly homophobe person yet. Maybe they practice it in secrecy.

Sure, sometimes you see a person on the street and say/think "Wow, that guy sure looks gay". But that's all there is to it. It's more of a joke than hostility.

I can't even understand the position. It happens all the time in nature. And as we are facing overpopulation, we should be thankful to anyone who doesn't reproduce, and instead is likely to adopt one of the many orphans all over the globe.
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Im surrounded by homophobes everywhere since i live in the south, and going to my church doesnt make it any better. Every time when I hear my parents or other family members talk about the topic, i go and leave the room. I hate hearing them bicker about it, being megachristians they are. I CAN'T WAIT UNTILL WE LIVE IN A WORLD OF PEACE! I MEAN SERIOUSLY! WHEN IS TIME
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Funny story.

I had a crush on this girl who I didn't know is a homophobe. One day, we were going back to class after gym and I was walking back with my friends and she was walking with her friends, too. I was behind her and she literally said, "You're not born gay. You choose to be one and that's disgusting."

My feelings for her literally ended the second she said that.

Never fall for a straight girl.
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Meh. I met homophobes and I felt nothing towards them. It is what it is.
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