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Could you be okay with your significant other having another spouse that lives with you? Could you find someone to have that close family type relationship with, without becoming jealous?

Alternatively, could you maintain a relationship with two significant others?

If you have ethical, moral, or religious objections to these scenarios, please explain.

As long as all three are consenting adults, it doesn't seem like an issue. I don't know that I could have one, since it's hard enough to find one person in this world that you want to marry and be together with as it is. Finding a third person that fits into your dynamic sounds incredibly difficult.
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A lot of this depends on where you were raised. I can think of some religions and locations that this is completely normal. In others it is illegal, and in some it is just frowned upon.

Myself personally, I don't think I could. Then again I am not looking for love currently. I am quite satisfied being a bachelor for the foreseeable future. I had a Muslim roommate from India who was in two arranged marriages. While he didn't like the thought of it, he said he was going to go through with it.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legal_status_of_polygamy

In the black countries above it is decently common, and people there will practice it. Just thought this was interesting.
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I've been in a polyamorus relationship before, things would've been fine if both of my partners weren't manipulative.. We all consented, and we all had positive feelings towards one another, but things didn't work out just like in any other teen relationship..
I think it's all fine and well as long as everyone communicates. A polyamorus relationship can become unstable otherwise.
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without becoming jealous?

wot?
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Could you be okay with your significant other having another spouse that lives with you? Could you find someone to have that close family type relationship with, without becoming jealous?

It's unlikely that I would be fine with it, given that I don't become close to others easily. It would already be astonishing that I would be comfortable enough with someone to marry, much less, not see his other wife as little more than a stranger encroaching upon my lover. My behavior would be fairly aggressive/cold. If, by some miracle, I am also close with the "other woman," I may be okay with it. I certainly would be jealous, at least, on occasion.

Alternatively, could you maintain a relationship with two significant others?

It's possible, though improbable. Once again, one lover is remarkable by itself. Two is even more phenomenal. This situation certainly requires a "go ahead" from both parties.

If you have ethical, moral, or religious objections to these scenarios, please explain.

Two spouses/lovers may signify a fear of commitment, depending upon the person. Caution is appropriate.
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I couldn't do it for the sole reason I'm a jealous little thing. I'm his everything or I'm his nothin'.

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haha no
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Mmmm... This is a complicated question, indeed. For me, at least.

If I had two significant others, I don't think I could manage it. I mean, I'm very bad under pressure. I crack and when I do, it's...messy. I tend to unconsciously do very unsettling things, like scratching at skin until I start bleeding. I think I'd self destruct trying to be there for both of them before I could even think about the ethics. Setting that aside and pretending that I wouldn't, I don't think I could bring myself to care for two people in that way to begin with. My mind is very focused on one thing, and when it's set, it's all I think about. Sure, a threesome might be a nice evening, but you know what I'd like more? A much more personal evening where only one thing gets my full, undivided attention.

As for me being one of someone else's two, I don't believe I'd be able to take it. I'm kind of fragile in that I don't think I could be jilted by my significant other FOR another significant other. I've had someone I really liked once, while another guy also liked her, and when she picked the other guy over me, it hurt real bad. So to live a life constantly feeling that little tinge in the back of my mind, I don't think I could stomach it. That alone would cause me to hate the other individual I think, but whether or not that's jealousy, I suppose I can't really determine. Maybe something closer to paranoia? Either way, it wouldn't work.

Religion or social views don't really play any part in how I view this. Same goes for any lifestyle, I suppose... As long as the lifestyle isn't harmful, I don't have any problem with it.
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I am into monogamy. Just me, though. Nothing against people who live life differently.

However, I will say that I see it being difficult to pull off. Mostly because getting people to get along in any dynamic is tough... even groups of friends. With a deeper, romantic relationship, I see those challenges being magnified. At the very least, it would be challenging to manage and keep healthy.
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"Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same." - Oscar Wilde
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I'm really not very good at living with any other people; I am pretty good at being in relationships with others who have more than one significant other, and have gotten along well with those SOs in social situations. Jealousy has not been a problem.

So, if I were the marrying (again) sort and if I were the living with other people sort, then I think that living with "sister wives" would not be an issue, unless there were insurmountable personality clashes or issues such as one might have with any non-compatible roommate.
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This is just too much no lol
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20 / M / Norway
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Nah, I don't think I could do that...
If I ever get a girlfriend, I want them to be mine! MINE! And I'm hers as well!
No one else's! Screw everyone else!
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I'm a jealous person as you can see
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Posted 9/13/15
It would unleash the yandere python in me, so... no. Be mine, and my alone.
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52 / M / Bay Area
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I think I could handle 2 women but it gets tricky for me if she wants another man I guess being honest and good communication skills would need to be on point then it could work when voting a family decision would never have a tie so a good thing but never being alone might be hard also tough choices
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