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Post Reply Do you find dating multiple people at the same time an acceptable practice?
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From what I hear, the practice of dating multiple partners is something that's becoming progressively more acceptable in modern society. I myself have some qualms about the practice but if it's widely practiced then I guess I can come to begrudgingly accept it as commonplace. Personally I feel like this might only be a common occurrences in certain niches of society and given the answers on a certain other topic I'm curious to see where the majority of CR users stand on the issue. That said...

Do you find the practice of dating multiple people at the same time (without them knowing about one another) acceptable?

Don't be shy to chime in with an opinion or two if you have anything to add!
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I think everyone should be honest to who they're seeing and ask if that practice is something that's okay to them. And if it is, then yeah multiple datees why not. I think it's just rude not to tell someone what's going on
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multiple partners breaks the point of a relationship....a relationship should kinda be between 2 people not 5 or 3 or 100 people >_> but then again people now a days can do whatever the fudge they want xP
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Posted 9/19/15
One is honestly all I'd like :P
Maybe someone pervy like me and with a sense of humor :3
Seriously though, I'm not a fan of the idea of having multiple "buddies"
Prefer to have a strong bond with someone over having multiple weak ones, no matter the amount of "playtime"
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If ALL parties are OK with seeing multiple people, fine. EVERYONE should be honest to avoid headaches later. If secrets are kept, that's very problematic and unacceptable. I may be conservative, but my thinking is, if I'm dating someone that isn't honest with me, what ELSE is the other person hiding? Gambling debts? Criminal record? A kid? If I'm taking the time to date someone, that person had better be honest with me, or I'll take my free time elsewhere. A relationship is based on trust. If there isn't any--what's the point?
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Posted 9/19/15

awune wrote:

I think everyone should be honest to who they're seeing and ask if that practice is something that's okay to them. And if it is, then yeah multiple datees why not. I think it's just rude not to tell someone what's going on


Pretty much this. Dating is not like a job interview and shouldn't be treated as such. Treating is like business dulls our respect for it and this is not good for us. Just look at how people treat dating now with the advent of this online dating service stuff. I don't think it's a good idea to reduce your potential future partner to a cheap interview or a few words on a web site. People do this and then expect to be treated as unique individuals. It's impossible. We will naturally cut things down for a more manageable form for our brains to process. We will simplify people to the point that it's borderline harmful.
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Man dating sounds so boring.. =,=
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As long as everyone in a polyamorous relationship is informed that the relationship is polyamorous, and approves, then yes, I think it's fine.
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Posted 9/19/15
i used to, in high school when i thought i was so 1337
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Posted 9/19/15
Dating means different things to different people. Even for someone who ultimately wants a monogamous relationship, if they don't see dating as a significant step in a relationship, I don't think it would be hypocritical of them to date multiple people simultaneously. For some people, dating represents a significant emotional investment, and a larger degree of physical closeness; for others, it's exactly what it says on the tin: going out on dates, no more.

While I'm not of that persuasion myself, I don't see anything inherently wrong with polyamory either. Of course, everyone involved should be aware of and okay with the situation, though - two-timing is scummy, whatever the circumstances.
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Posted 9/19/15
apparently the last 3 girlfriends i've had think its acceptable
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Dafuq? Is actually a thing? . I mean if each person in the relationship knows about it I guess it's Ok but still. I'd never want a girl like this personally. I want someone loyal.
Posted 9/19/15
Does dating = being in a relationship? That's the one thing I still don't understand.
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Posted 9/19/15

MissKittenVicious wrote:

Does dating = being in a relationship? That's the one thing I still don't understand.


I think that really depends on the individual's perspective. Personally I see dating as something that happens once you're in a relationship with everything before that as an outing but others see dating as something that can occur before a relationship. Wait... I'm confused now too ・゜・(ノД`)
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Posted 9/19/15
If all parties are aware of the situation and everyone consents then it is fine.
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