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Post Reply Do you find dating multiple people at the same time an acceptable practice?
Posted 9/19/15
Emotionally detached and shallow people should write their status quo on a name tag, along with how destructive their poorly rationalized world view is, to highlight just how bad of an investment they truly are when we meet, and if they don't-- if they waste my time with their nonsense-- for even a second, then they should expect to get nothing but the worst in return from me. So, I'm just gonna go with "No" here.
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Posted 9/19/15
I know a number of people who consider themselves polyamorous or are in what they call "Open-relationships" and they tend to be very normal, happy people. Although I can't say it's for me, these type of relationships can prove to not only be very healthy, but also a very positive experiences. I will caution however I also know people that subscribe to that belief and are...shall we say...less than stellar. So i suppose it is very circumstantial, but I say if it works for you and it doesn't negatively impact you or the people you get involved with, more power to ya.
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Posted 9/19/15

Hrafna wrote:

Emotionally detached and shallow people should write their status quo on a name tag, along with how destructive their poorly rationalized world view is, to highlight just how bad of an investment they truly are when we meet, and if they don't-- if they waste my time with their nonsense-- for even a second, then they should expect to get nothing but the worst in return from me. So, I'm just gonna go with "No" here.


Eloquently stated, have a gold star!
Posted 9/20/15
NO NO NO NO AND NOOOOO !!! WHO IN THERE MIND WOULD HAVE MORE THEN ONE GIRL.. THEY SHOULD STOP LIVING IN THERE WORLD OF HAREM ANIME AND GET BACK TO REALITY ...

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Posted 9/20/15
If you are open about it and both of you know exactly whats going on, it'll all end in tears.

Been there.

Numerous times.

Been monogamous now for 12 years.
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Posted 9/20/15

Too complicated, the only relationship I need is with my right hand.

Kidding.

It's fine as long as each person in the relationship accepts it.
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Posted 9/20/15 , edited 9/20/15
A date is only as long term of a commitment as the time spent on the date.
Unless stated other wise both are free to do what they want when they want
outside of a planned date.

I think some of you are confusing a date (meeting to get to know each other)
with a long term relationship. Just cause you went on a date with someone
doesn't mean you are now exclusively a couple.
Posted 9/20/15
Nope. A relationship is meant to be between two people.
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Posted 9/20/15
Only if all those being dated know about it and are ok with it.
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Posted 9/21/15
So apparently going on dates constitutes being in a relationship now? Jesus Christ...

Alright so, while I assume that the OP means by dating, that the two partners are in a relationship, then I say that it probably isn't for me, but honestly I don't give a fuck if other people are doing it.

When it comes to actually going on dates with multiple people at a time? Fuck yeah I'll do that because to me that isn't being in a relationship yet. That's two people spending time together to see if they want to get serious with it and honestly, it is very possible to do that sorta thing with a few different people, why restrict yourself needlessly?
Posted 9/21/15 , edited 9/21/15

LITVoid wrote:

So apparently going on dates constitutes being in a relationship now? Jesus Christ...


Heh, I was thinking the same thing.

Personally if I ever considered dating anybody I'd like to think they liked me enough where we could see each other enough times to know if there was a connection. But, until an actual relationship was established then I'm not going to hold the person captive since its clearly their choice whether or not they want to see other people.

One of the things about growing up is that you kind of learn that you have to meet multiple people in order to really find the one. You can go on different dates but just make sure you are not giving anybody the wrong idea of where they stand.
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Posted 9/21/15

haruharuinfigaru wrote:


LITVoid wrote:

So apparently going on dates constitutes being in a relationship now? Jesus Christ...


Heh, I was thinking the same thing.

Personally if I ever considered dating anybody I'd like to think they liked me enough where we could see each other enough times to know if there was a connection. But, until an actual relationship was established then I'm not going to hold the person captive since its clearly their choice whether or not they want to see other people.

One of the things about growing up is that you kind of learn that you have to meet multiple people in order to really find the one. You can go on different dates but just make sure you are not giving anybody the wrong idea of where they stand.


God, I realise I shouldn't feel old, especially since I'm probably mid to young for the average age of this site, but goddamn if the users don't make me feel like I'm old on a regular basis. Cheers though, to the art of dating.
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Posted 9/21/15
dates and a committed relationship are two diffrent things. if your dating your getting to know someone.
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Posted 9/21/15
I voted 'no' because the opening post specified that the people didn't know about each other. I am also assuming that the OP means that the couple has entered an exclusive relationship.

If you've only gone out with a person one or two times though, it's pretty normal to be doing the same with one or two other people. Dating sites make it more likely that you'll have more than one romantic partner candidate at a time.

I guess I should have voted for circumstantial...
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Posted 9/21/15
Yes, IF ... You are only dating them and trying out potential serious partners.

No, IF ... you are serious with someone and in it for the long run. Then that is cheating and in my opinion not acceptable.
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