Gaslighting (and other new terms that we're unfamiliar with)
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Posted 9/20/15 , edited 9/20/15
One of my in-laws has been writing about how prevalent gaslighting is now that they are aware of it. They went on to say that they can no longer tolerate it and that people should not remain wilfully ignorant. While this sounds good and everything, the definitions that google have returned to me are not really helping me understand what they mean because I need context.

So I thought I'd start a topic where we discuss new words that we don't quite understand and try to help each other along to understand them. I have two to start with, which I will list with the first definition from a google search:

Gaslighting or gas-lighting - a form of mental abuse in which information is twisted or spun, selectively omitted to favor the abuser, or false information is presented with the intent of making victims doubt their own memory, perception, and sanity. (Looking for examples of this)

Microaggressions - 1) neologism which some use to refer to unintended discrimination.
2) used by Columbia professor Derald Sue to refer to “brief and commonplace daily verbal, behavioral, or environmental indignities, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative racial slights and insults toward people of color
(So is this term only for racial slights or does it work for all discrimination?)

Add your words, and let's agree up front that no question is a stupid question (except for blatant trolls).
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Gaslighting isn't really new after all the term originates from an old film in the 1940s. I've heard it before so it's not new to me.

I think you can find examples of gaslighting in some horror movies. One old 1980s one that I can think of is Society.

Bill Whitney seems to have it all. His family is wealthy and he lives in a mansion in Beverly Hills, California. He's popular at his high school, looks to be a shoo-in for class president, has a cute cheerleader girlfriend and owns a new Jeep Wrangler to drive around in. Despite this, he feels as though he does not fit in with his family or their high-society friends. When his sister's ex-boyfriend Blanchard gives him a surreptitiously recorded tape of what sounds like his family engaged in a vile, murderous orgy, Bill begins to suspect that his feelings are justified.

Bill gives the tape to his therapist Dr. Cleveland to listen to. When he comes back for his appointment, Dr. Cleveland plays the tape back for Bill. The audio has now changed and now merely contains the sounds of his sister Jenny enjoying her coming out party. Bill insists that what he'd heard before was real and calls Blanchard to get another copy. When he arrives at their meeting place, Bill discovers an ambulance and police officers gathered around Blanchard's crashed van. A body is placed into the back of the ambulance, but Bill is prevented from seeing its face.

Bill attends a party hosted by his upper-class classmate Ferguson. There, Ferguson lasciviously confirms that the first audio tape Bill listened to—with the sounds of an orgy on it—was the real tape. Angry and confused, he leaves the party with Clarissa, a beautiful girl he'd been admiring. They have sex at her house and Bill meets Clarissa's bizarre, hair-loving mother.

Bill returns home the next day and confronts his parents and sister, who are all in the master bedroom dressed in lingerie. At Blanchard's funeral, Bill and his friend Milo discover that Blanchard's corpse either needed a lot of reconstructive work for display, or is not real. Bill is approached by Martin Petrie, his rival for the high school presidency, who says he must speak with Bill and agrees to a secret meeting. Bill discovers Petrie with his throat cut. He sees someone race off through the woods then runs off to get the police. When he returns with the cops, the car and the body are missing, with a different car in their place.

With Dr. Cleveland's help, they drug Bill. As Milo secretly trails him, Bill is taken to a hospital. Bill awakens in a hospital bed and thinks he hears Blanchard crying out, but discovers that nothing is there. He leaves the hospital and finds his Jeep waiting for him. Milo tries to warn him, but he drives back to his house.

Back home again, Bill finds a large, formal party. He is snared by the neck and Dr. Cleveland reveals all of the secrets he has been searching for. He is not really related to his family after all. In fact, his family and their high-society friends are actually a different species from Bill.

I've come across microaggressions recently. I've never had a need to use either of these terms.
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Posted 9/20/15 , edited 9/20/15
Oh god tumblr-terms!

Cut their internet connection for a month! It's the only cure!

It's like how BOOTSTRAPPING became a bad word.
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Posted 9/20/15 , edited 9/20/15
Gaslighting is an old term. I remember learning the word ages ago playing Ravenloft, as it was sometimes used as a plot hook.
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Posted 9/20/15 , edited 9/20/15
Watch first episode of season 19 South Park for great examples of micro-aggression.

Politically correct people getting offended by inane things like, sitting in a certain position on public transport, "America is a melting pot" and more.
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