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Post Reply Calling someone Autistic in a derogative way isn't cringy but if you do this it is
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Posted 10/2/15 , edited 10/2/15

    Saying anything in a derogatory manner is offensive, obviously. That's why it's derogatory. That said, of course you're free to retort. I'd be a hypocrite if I said I've never insulted people.


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I cringe when people use "cringey" as an insult.
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1) what does " special snowflake-ism" mean?
2) i do have autism and id be lying if i said it doesnt bother me a little to hear people use it in a derogatory way especially when its used by people who dont actually understand what autism is or have the wrong idea about people with autism or other mental disorders.
3) id by lying if i said ive never offended someone especially because im very blunt and honest about what im thinking and i dont always think before i talk, but everytime i do i immediately regret it and apologize.
4)i personally dont think im better than other people overall but there are somethings that i am really good at, for example im really really good at reading and have been able to read on whatever level i want since elementary school, but there are also things that im not good at like math or working in a group of people.


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Posted 10/3/15 , edited 10/3/15

kirito15050 wrote:
2) i do have autism and id be lying if i said it doesnt bother me a little to hear people use it in a derogatory way especially when its used by people who dont actually understand what autism is or have the wrong idea about people with autism or other mental disorders.
3) id by lying if i said ive never offended someone especially because im very blunt and honest about what im thinking and i dont always think before i talk, but everytime i do i immediately regret it and apologize.


I've often found, over years on Usenet and Internet forums, that those without cognitive disorders possess the self-awareness and social skills to use capital letters, punctuation, and proper flow and division of sentences/paragraphs.

When they don't (and usually with psychotically implausible bad spelling to boot, although that's not a problem here), it's a pretty guaranteed red flag.
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Posted 10/4/15 , edited 10/4/15
I honestly don't care about autistic being used as an insult and my doctor considers me mildly aspie, so woop whoop. I mean, people have also used "retard" and "gay" around me as well, I really don't care, they're just words and they're not really devaluing me and I understand that they're not being used in an intentionally offensive context in the majority of cases.

In the majority of cases, in fact, they're just being substituted for the word "stupid", but "stupid" is a baby word to high school boys, so they try and spice it up by using words that could be considered offensive. Honestly, I really don't care. Hell, even I say "retard". I must be a self hating little shit for saying it sometimes, obviously its not every other word that comes out of my mouth, but lol whatever idc if people say it.

most teen boys just act like overly offensive 4channers and encyclopedia dramatica editors because it makes them seem edgy. i don't care lol. even if they call me a retard or something to my face, i acknowledge that most of the time it's just typical trash talk.

Used to play cards with a group of guys at lunch, I was the only girl, and we trashed talked one another to hell and back with offensive insults that could make a sensitive person cringe.

Anyway, I spent my entire early teenhood being so brutally bullied and the last couple years being internet stalked and bullied by a particular someone as well, so I'm pretty immune to petty shit like that by now. Even if it is being used in a derogatory context. The only thing that pisses me off is when someone goes after my looks needlessly in order to try and prove my opinions wrong, and when someone tries to tell me to kill myself. that's just gross.
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It's not a good thing to insult people for being autistic, but it's also an inevitability that someone, somewhere, will eventually do so. That's something that an autistic person will have to be able to deal with. Perhaps fighting fire with fire and slinging insults back is the proper approach on some occasions, but sometimes the high road is both warranted and more profitable. Sometimes the person insulting you for whatever reason doesn't need to be engaged. And hell, sometimes the person making the insult doesn't actually know they're being insulting, or is trying to give a loving prod instead of making an attack. That changes the appropriate response dramatically.

Now, let's assume that the individual in question was sincerely trying to be insulting, and that this was a situation that warranted firing back. The problem is that the jab you've described doesn't really work as turnabout. Turnabout is essentially to take some insult someone's making and turn it around to impact them in the same way it's impacting you. They make a personal attack, you make one back. Neurotypical cognition and social behaviours don't carry the same broad negative associations that autistic cognition and social behaviours do inasmuch as either can be concretely defined, so you end up with ineffective turnabout when you say "You're so neurotypical." You're not really attacking anything the target would be bothered to have suggested about them.

There's also to consider that although the entire point of the selected approach was to mockingly stereotype neurotypical people as a way to illustrate how mocking stereotypes are bad in general this point might be lost on surrounding neurotypical people who weren't insulting an autistic person and now feel attacked. Ideally your turnabout is specific to the target; you only insult the person who's already being insulting. Failure to attend to that precision is what probably led to the message that started this whole thing.
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