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Post Reply Alright Crunchyroll, Lets talk about the friend zone.
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So pretty much, you just didn't fit her preferences.
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I have been married over 25 years........................I miss the friend zone sometimes
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If a girl can't see you as more than a friend isn't it better to just be "in the friend zone" and be able to spend time with her? But if you can't just stay friends than don't be….. I guess
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EDIT: On a more serious note, if you want to be friends with her then go right ahead, but if you can't then I suggest just walking away from it. Just because she says she wants to stay friends doesn't mean you have to. If you can't be JUST her friend, then say so and be on your way. Don't put yourself in a situation that you'll regret later on..

No one puts you in the "friend zone." You choose to put yourself there.
Unless they're psychotic and hold a gun to your head and tell you you have to be just their friend, of course.
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Hexmos, consider yourself lucky. She told you straight up that she is not romantically interested in you. I know that it hurts, been there, but at least you now know where you stand with her. Not knowing the girl as well as you, I don't know if she means when she says she wants to be friends. Some girls say this because they don't want to hurt you more than you are already. Some girls who say this actually mean it. The decision to remain in the friendship phase is up to you.

On the other hand, you must be confident of who you are. So what, you are not a giant. You don't mention how tall you are but being not 6'4" is not a crime. Nor does that mean you will be lonely all your life. Have a positive attitude of yourself. I know that this is hard, I sometimes allow outside influences to bring me down. Being confident, cheerful, and smiling a lot are attractive features I find in men and I am sure the girls in your school will as well.
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Hexmos wrote:

Hello fellow anime watchers,
I would love to hear your dicussion and past experiences being in the friend zone.
Also, some tips from the girls (and guys) how to stay out of it.

Alright crunchyroll, let the discussion begin.


I don't see a problem.

I married my best friend. Still best friends 20 years later.


That said, I had several other friends that declined more serious relationships with me. I stayed friends with them all for a time. Eventually I lost touch with them for assorted reasons (they moved, I moved, my wife threw knives at them, etc)
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wow this is getting quite emotional

haikinka wrote:

She doesn't want you as a "friend", the "friend zone" is where a girl puts guys that are convenient only to use as self validation, getting free shit, and emotional shoulder to cry on and whine to.

Fucking betas.
well that struck a chord. Sorry, I'll always be there for you if you ever feel like crying just like how you have always been there for me.
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Thanks everyone for the nice responses (and the mean ones ) I guess the only reason is that its really hard watching her ignore my feelings for her. We have 6 classes together, and 3 days a week we stay in the same room for 3 hours for a club so there is no avoiding her. I am grateful for the time with her, but she ignores my feelings. And the problem is she has not even directly rejected me, she literally just said "I don't know how to respond". She is just sending me on a wild goose chase where I will most likely be unable to move on.
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@haikinka You should probably know that I am literally that guy. Every breakup she has gone through I have been forced to hear all of it and buy her crap and help her with homework, and then hear it all over again.
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Yeah man, where is the emotional male shoulders for us to cry on? Or do our boobs get in the way, or should I just label them the free shit you get for lending us your friendly masculine shoulders?
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CalifCat wrote:

Yeah man, where is the emotional male shoulders for us to cry on? Or do our boobs get in the way, or should I just label them the free shit you get for lending us your friendly masculine shoulders?


Someone's offended...
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@CalifCat Jeez alright. I really have no idea how offended you. I am not saying I expect every girl I care for to like me, it just sucks not to have my received back in the same way, I think any sane person can understand that.
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Keep this short and simple.

Being friend zone sucks when a girl you like thinks of you that way. I simply kick her out of my life and move on. As ruthless as it sounds, I could care less. If we have been friends for two years, then the next day I can wipe her out of my existence and leave the past behind. Just the type of person I am, I move on quickly.
I do have female friends, but more so, the type to hang out and have a good time. Only one, I give my ears to listen because we go way back to childhood friends.
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Hexmos wrote:

@CalifCat Jeez alright. I really have no idea how offended you. I am not saying I expect every girl I care for to like me, it just sucks not to have my received back in the same way, I think any sane person can understand that.


Firstly, I was responding to haikinka in my post..and it was sarcasm.

And secondly I don't think she is sending you on a wild goose chase, she was honest and said she wanted to remain great friends. How is that a goose chase? It doesn't sound like she is leading you on. She wants you as a friend, just not a romantic one. Those last longer, by the way. :)

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