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everything has dulled over the years.
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It takes work to be happy

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I honestly feel the same way, OP. Things I used to be really excited about when I was much younger (anime, tv shows, movies, games) all seem dull nowadays. It's been difficult trying to find that passion and excitement for new interests. It's a really numb feeling. I wouldn't be surprised if it was some form of depression, but it could also be a side-effect of growing up and having the feeling like you've experienced everything already. I think the worst thing would be to be completely idle; go to school, go to work, exercise -- keep your schedule active. Force yourself to try new things or talk to new people. Do little things that make you happy. Easier said than done, I know, but things are always temporary. Soon it will all pass and something or someone will enter your life and give you much joy and meaning, I'm certain of that.


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Hey Op Don't listen to most of these people that are saying it's life and it doesn't get better. I've felt like that since I was 15 to about a year ago. It's depression and it will fade. You have to go out and do something crazy experience new things. Make new friends, find new hobbies. Yes sometimes things are going to feel gray and boring and it is slightly cause your growing up. I get that feeling time to time. But here's what I did to help fix my depression. I got a part-time job in high school worked my ass off saved up alot of money it was all i had but i used it to go to japan for almost a month it was the best time of my life. Now I'm in college studying something that in very interested in and I'm enjoying life. Since I'm going into the ems field I'm always getting shots of adrenaline. Sorry if i typed alot of crap just want to help the best I can. I guess all I'm saying is to just go on a crazy adventure and find yourself and you'll start to feel better.
Posted 10/9/15 , edited 10/9/15
I personally think it's normal to feel that life is dull. (This is coming from someone who has never done drugs, smoked or even drink).

I think this is the consequence of being intelligent (for all humans). You keep seeking for higher pleasures... whereas other animals... all they care about is food, sex or sleep. We need something much more substantial to satiate our desires.

I think it's why people cheat even if they're in a happy marriage; they need excitement and adrenaline.

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I think it's normal. It will pass with time. Even drug use gets boring and unremarkable if you keep doing it.

I had a similar phase when I was about the same age as OP. Traveling took care of it well, but not everyone has the money or means to travel freely. I remember I enjoyed exploring old, abandoned places with a friend. There's something about newness that is a good cure for the "dull" feeling.
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Nothing has dulled you just lived in a fantasy before where everything was better than it really was. The world hasn't changed you just left the happy bubble and you are using the happy bubble as your measurement stick. Quit whining and get on with your life, go build some complex something if you have too much time on your hands.
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FlyinDumpling wrote:

It takes work to be happy


Never said it would be easy. Best not to overthink it, OP. Only leads to feeling more "blah". It's good to know a lot of people feel similarly, so you're not alone.
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One good thing at least, when old hobbies or habbits or even people you hang around(and what you get up to with them) becomes dull, they can be replaced with new hobbies and stuff.
I mean you cant just replace your family and child hood friends but you can meet new people or try new things.
Hey its easier said than done. I have less friends than i used to and in honesty some of my friends are probably actually bad for me.
I find it hard to let go. I just cant put video games and anime and hip hop and things like behind me. I still enjoy them all, just not as much.
Same could be said for drinking. etc
I've noticed as you get older some of your tastes do change. I probably like food and different music (to an extent) now, i care about spending time with family more now, i grew bored of going out drinking and wasting $ all the time.
It is hard though becasue in all honesty, more things become boring or less exciting and enjoyable than there is new things coming along to replace it.

Me personally, i think that i have been working in the same place for too long (11 years) so maybe a change of job will help, possibly i need to stop hanging around certian people?
Like hanging out with friends just getting drunk and high all the time got boring, just staying home playing on line games has gotten a bit boring.
Iam single so maybe a change in that department could help but then people in relationships get bored and sick of each other also so yeah..

Some of my friends and family reckon that i need to travel. That is something that i have done very little of.
Guess i never had the travel bug but apparentley once you do, it is something that you want to keep on doing.
Makes you want to go back or keep seeing new places and opens your eyes to certian things.
But then i have also heard that it can make where you live and every day life even more boring..

Lifes funny. Like others have said, it is hard when you dont really know what you want to be or where you want to be at.
I've always found it difficult to know what i want to do.
I never really had anything that i really strived for, like something to aim for or have a set goal.
Indecision, perhaps self doubt? i dont know.
Even the whole marriage and kids thing.

I guess its hard to just settle for what you've got but its not always easy to put in the effort/work to make change.

EDIT: I do wonder if i do suffer from depression sometimes. I dont really know. I dont think i am but i feel fatigued often. Not sure if its from depressionj or just lack of fitness and poor lifestyle.

And i have a mate who was addicted to meth/ice and he was put on alot prescription medication and he went through the same thing.
It was like nothing did it for him anymore.
All he wanted to do was take substances and gamble. He couldn't even play video games anymore. He seems to be recovering slowly.

I used to never want to do ANYTHING sober, but now iam alot better in that department. I know how you feel though, feeling like an emotionless empty shell at times.
But nar anime can still make me laugh and give me feels when i watch sober so yeah..

Funny how in life we replace one habbit with another though hey? like quit weed but drink way more or stop playing pokies but bet on sport or move from single player video games to on line games, etc ^^;
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It would be best to stay away from drugs man... they make things worse. I haven't really any advice for you... I've had long periods of depression, and uninterest in a lot of things, been through lots of therapists... had severe anger issues when I was little. Medication made all those variables worse. All I can say is just find people with similar issues in life and converse with them...
Posted 10/10/15 , edited 10/10/15
Perhaps, giving to charity might fulfill you. I don't care if someone is rolling their eyes at this comment in the instance they find themselves reading it. If you are already so giving then please do not respond to this post as i have no further suggestions to offer you lol.
Posted 10/10/15 , edited 10/10/15
drugs can change you for the worse, but it also can be to do with your age and hormonal changes affecting your mood and emotions. Everyone is different but when I was your age I was kinda depressed and emotionless.. it got better, I got more happy and surefooted over time. You might reach a low point where nothing make sense but eventually you stop caring about that and just do what you have to do to go forward.
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