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Posted 10/19/15

sarabi5 wrote:

How do you go about forgiving someone...whatever the offense...


Put it behind me....
Something easy to say, depending on what they did, much harder to do....

Don't forget what they did, that way if they start doing it again you ask them why they are treating you like shit. If they complain they aren't "getting any chance from you," you may need to consider they are too burdensome for you.

Some people you need to get out of your life . . . they might think that you haven't forgiven them, but the truth may be they are too selfish to trust anymore.

If these people are true friends they will have some respect for you and wont do bad things to you or say bad things about you anymore.

There is a line between people who are just being inconsiderate and people who have serious mental problems as well. One fellow I knew was always claiming to have this or that syndrome or problem. After a while the burden of being a friend to this guy was overwhelming. He would constantly pick fights with me over trivial things.... I caught him in several lies.... I decided to stay away from this person...
I always wished him well but I couldn't consent to being his internet doormat. Sometimes forgiveness works like this....
Posted 10/19/15

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GayAsianBoy wrote:
If someone rapes me for example, I would want to inflict the same pain on the perpetrator... I think that's the only way I can move forward with my life.


Just have them put in prison, and you will have done that, many times over.


It's more fun if I inflict the pain myself.

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It depends on how sorry they are, if they're not sorry at all(which is more likely since we currently live in a shithole) then I'll get my revenge, ans I'll get it good.
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I forgive acquaintances. Never friends.
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If they understand what they did and they're sincere with their apology I can forgive them. Nobody in my life has done anything that is unforgivable.
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Posted 10/19/15

GayAsianBoy wrote:


HolyDrumstick wrote:


GayAsianBoy wrote:
If someone rapes me for example, I would want to inflict the same pain on the perpetrator... I think that's the only way I can move forward with my life.


Just have them put in prison, and you will have done that, many times over.


It's more fun if I inflict the pain myself.



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Depends on the severity of the situation

If it's something small then I am able to forgive them and just forget it ever happened (i.e. breaking a promise).

If it was unintentional and the person is deeply sorry I am able to forgive and forget. (i.e. Trying to help, but may say or handle the situation the wrong way).

If it's done on purpose and the person knows what they are doing is wrong, but they do it anyway then I forgive, but won't forget. These situations usually lead to me cutting contact with the individual. I wouldn't hate them or hold a grudge against them, but don't want anything to do with them (i.e using me).
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For starters, depends on what he did,

If it's a mere "stole a dollar or two from your wallet", I'll pretend nobody stole it, and just let it go.

If it's that someone stole like 50+ bucks, I'll definitely want them to say their sorry, but again, I don't care about this.

If it's bullying, being someone whos been used as a punching bag by bullies since 1st grade (also why I home school now), I will forgive them, if they promise never to do something like that again, if they do try again, then I'll be the one bullying back at them.

If it's something more serious like assault, I'll just use my absolute defense tactic (I trained myself after about 5-6 years to instinctively dodge punches, knives, throwing knives, and many more. The enemy can't kill me if he can't hit! Plus, I practice qui-gong, which means even if the enemy does hit me, he will regret trying to punch a body with bones as strong as iron), the person will eventually die of boredom or run into police officers.
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I do not forgive, hatred and grudges are the sustenance that enables my continued existence.
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