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I can't be the only one going "only three beers?" here can I?


Yeah man, 3 is bugga all. Even 4,5 or 6 is not that much...
She's an adult. At least she's not drinking bottles of wine or hitting the spirits.


If I remember correctly:
2 standard glasses is the max an average woman can handle if they were an hour apart and anymore after that for the next 24 hours is excessive
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Sir_jamesalot wrote:


MrAnimeSK wrote:


VZ68 wrote:

I can't be the only one going "only three beers?" here can I?


Yeah man, 3 is bugga all. Even 4,5 or 6 is not that much...
She's an adult. At least she's not drinking bottles of wine or hitting the spirits.


If I remember correctly:
2 standard glasses is the max an average woman can handle if they were an hour apart and anymore after that for the next 24 hours is excessive


What you mean? if they were to drive?
lol maybe girls in Australia are different?
They drink alot more than that.
Not every day though i guess. LMAO at two drinks ha ha
EDIT: oh wait, not only two but two STANDARD drinks!? ha ha
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Fuddbender wrote:

So I'd like to hear a variety of peoples advice on how you would deal with my situation that I have here. Let me explain to you:

First of all alcoholic is a bit of a dramatic word in my opinion, I just like to think of it as someone who is weak minded but what do I know? I'm not an alcoholic myself.

So my predicament here is this, My mother has noticeably been a drinker for about the past 10 years. Quite often I have to deal with situations where she comes home from work and has 2-4 beers annd she's out annd she "wants more". She's been to AA meetings before and she's been preached the MODERATION thing. But she just can't do it. So when she runs out she wants me to run her to the liquor store I always say no because I actually HEARD when they said MODERATION. When I say no she either threatens me with driving herself there after she's already intoxicated or if my brother is home she'll just have him drive her there, and he is WEAK about it and just does it.

I've also done the thing where you take it away from her like taking candy from a baby, she starts calling me names and saying how she does so much for me and I can't just let her relax and enjoy a drink. I can let enjoy a drink or two but when It becomes 3,4,5,6, so on I desperately want her to stop.

I turned 21 5 1/2 months ago and I've only drank maybe 3 times since then, not getting hammered ANY of those times. I don't even drink unless I'm out with friends or relatives because I hate seeing how it affects my mom.

Like I say, I just want to hear if any of you have dealt with this or if you haven't how would you deal with it?


If a thread this is already around let me know, Thanks


I'm not sure I can be of any help, but I'll try to give you some advice, as I know people who have been in these situations. You won't be able to get her to quit no matter how hard you try, I know it may hurt seeing her like this, but bare with it. Hopefully everything will be alright in the future. Try your best to tell her how you feel about her drinking, and how she makes you feel when she is without. Get your brother to help you as well, try to confront her with as many family members as possible. You have to get her to WANT to quit, it's not something she should do because she has to, but because she wants to.

Try to give her the best reason to quit you.



Thanks for the reply,

After reading the comments from you and others I plan on sitting down with my brother and trying to get him to see it as I do, wanting to see mom make better choices. If both of us can tell her that we want to see her do better for herself maybe she will understand more.

You have been of help :)


You're welcome man, anything I can do to help. Hopefully all goes well ^^
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Posted 10/21/15

MrAnimeSK wrote:


Sir_jamesalot wrote:


MrAnimeSK wrote:


VZ68 wrote:

I can't be the only one going "only three beers?" here can I?


Yeah man, 3 is bugga all. Even 4,5 or 6 is not that much...
She's an adult. At least she's not drinking bottles of wine or hitting the spirits.


If I remember correctly:
2 standard glasses is the max an average woman can handle if they were an hour apart and anymore after that for the next 24 hours is excessive


What you mean? if they were to drive?
lol maybe girls in Australia are different?
They drink alot more than that.
Not every day though i guess. LMAO at two drinks ha ha
EDIT: oh wait, not only two but two STANDARD drinks!? ha ha


Why is this funny to you?
Are you simple?
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If she can't go without it, yeah.


Ohh maaan, now that's both my parents.


Yeah they alcoholics
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Sir_jamesalot wrote:


MrAnimeSK wrote:


Sir_jamesalot wrote:


MrAnimeSK wrote:


VZ68 wrote:

I can't be the only one going "only three beers?" here can I?


Yeah man, 3 is bugga all. Even 4,5 or 6 is not that much...
She's an adult. At least she's not drinking bottles of wine or hitting the spirits.


If I remember correctly:
2 standard glasses is the max an average woman can handle if they were an hour apart and anymore after that for the next 24 hours is excessive


What you mean? if they were to drive?
lol maybe girls in Australia are different?
They drink alot more than that.
Not every day though i guess. LMAO at two drinks ha ha
EDIT: oh wait, not only two but two STANDARD drinks!? ha ha


Why is this funny to you?
Are you simple?


I dunno mate, two drinks? bwhahahaha i guess you are one of those people that have never drank but act like your an expert?
two drinks? ha ha lol
I guess like 75% of the population are alcoholics with a drinking problem then?
and what do you mean by can only handle? like what? they going to pass out? need to go to hospital? going to die or something?
Some women can out drink men you know.
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I dunno mate, two drinks? bwhahahaha i guess you are one of those people that have never drank but act like your an expert?
two drinks? ha ha lol
I guess like 75% of the population are alcoholics with a drinking problem then?
and what do you mean by can only handle? like what? they going to pass out? need to go to hospital? going to die or something?
Some women can out drink men you know.


By "handle"I meant "how much the liver can process before it has to deal with an excess"
If you need a better explanation, learn about responsible service of alcohol.
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Sir_jamesalot wrote:


MrAnimeSK wrote:
I dunno mate, two drinks? bwhahahaha i guess you are one of those people that have never drank but act like your an expert?
two drinks? ha ha lol
I guess like 75% of the population are alcoholics with a drinking problem then?
and what do you mean by can only handle? like what? they going to pass out? need to go to hospital? going to die or something?
Some women can out drink men you know.


By "handle"I meant "how much the liver can process before it has to deal with an excess"
If you need a better explanation, learn about responsible service of alcohol.


Have a drink mate. Sounds like you need one. If what you say is so true alot of girls would die very very very young.
Being an actual alcho is no laughing matter but having a few drinks every day after work is no worse than smoking smokes all day every day.
Or drinking soft drink every day. Or taking pain killers every day, or eating crap food every day, etc

If she were drinking wine or spirits or taking hard drugs everyday, then worry.
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MrAnimeSK wrote:
If what you say is so true alot of girls would die very very very young.


You'd be surprised, drinking one more than you can process each day won't stop you from functioning but it will catch up with you, leaving directly related long term side effects not unlike regular self medicating and smoking.
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I really hope that your mother gets through this rough patch because I am sure she has it in her

And thank you so much!
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stoner789 wrote:


Fuddbender wrote:

So I'd like to hear a variety of peoples advice on how you would deal with my situation that I have here. Let me explain to you:

First of all alcoholic is a bit of a dramatic word in my opinion, I just like to think of it as someone who is weak minded but what do I know? I'm not an alcoholic myself.

So my predicament here is this, My mother has noticeably been a drinker for about the past 10 years. Quite often I have to deal with situations where she comes home from work and has 2-4 beers annd she's out annd she "wants more". She's been to AA meetings before and she's been preached the MODERATION thing. But she just can't do it. So when she runs out she wants me to run her to the liquor store I always say no because I actually HEARD when they said MODERATION. When I say no she either threatens me with driving herself there after she's already intoxicated or if my brother is home she'll just have him drive her there, and he is WEAK about it and just does it.

I've also done the thing where you take it away from her like taking candy from a baby, she starts calling me names and saying how she does so much for me and I can't just let her relax and enjoy a drink. I can let enjoy a drink or two but when It becomes 3,4,5,6, so on I desperately want her to stop.

I turned 21 5 1/2 months ago and I've only drank maybe 3 times since then, not getting hammered ANY of those times. I don't even drink unless I'm out with friends or relatives because I hate seeing how it affects my mom.

Like I say, I just want to hear if any of you have dealt with this or if you haven't how would you deal with it?


If a thread this is already around let me know, Thanks


look here, anything under 6, ok. Your mother might be small so its probably a lot for her. anything above 6 and you enter the danger zone, I wouldn't worry about anything under 6 if I was you. My mom drinks a bottle of whiskey every day/ 2 days, nothing I can do about it.


She is small indeed, 5'4. Over the years I'm sure her body is feeling it too. I sit there sometimes and think how heck does she put that much liquid into herself? And then for the body to filter it.


well hopefully it gets better for you. I feel my mother won't last much longer if she keeps it up....
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From my own personal experience, once you get into the habbit of drinking almost every day, whether it be social or not social, heavy or light, it is hard to snap out of.
Its not even necessarily addiction as much as routine. Its something that you enjoy and often stopping something that you enjoy needs to be replaced by another ahbbit or hobby or something.
Life can be very boring with no alcohol involved, when you've gotten used to it.
I guess a dependency dose form. Mental and physical. But often its all in your head.
It is weird, for me i can some days just have a couple and iam happy, others, once you start you just do not want to stop.
Some weeks i have alcohol free days easy, dont feel the need, other weeks i just want it every day, i crave it.

One of my mates old man died from drnking but as i keep saying, wine and spirtis are what will kill someone. Not beer.
But i guess beer can be a gate way to heavier stuff.
Bit like some people with weed and worse drugs.
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There is nothing that you can do. If you've tried for years in vain to reason with her, remove yourself from the situation when you can gather enough money. I've been through this, first with with my father, who graduated from cocaine to crack, and later to another one of my mother's boyfriend's, who was a former meth addict and current abusive alcoholic. The first was a painful, extended separation, and the latter ended with me beating the shit out of him for punching my mother in the face repeatedly. After the cops tased him enough, he was sent to the emergency room and we never saw him again, which I suppose was the easiest way out. I've dealt with this for the majority of my life, not only with them, but with their pathetic circles of addict friends, and I can tell you, they're not likely to stop. They don't want to stop that late in life. I know she's your mother, and I know you want to help her, but how much consideration is she giving you right now?
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