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Posted 10/21/15 , edited 10/21/15
I recently got asked by a Serbian girl who I might enter into a LDR with her, "How important is family to you?" I gave her my answer which she has a hard time believing it due to I am brought up in the US American culture, tradition, and society which does not have the family bond to that of the Serbian culture. Actions speak louder than words and while it was only words I can tell her, it is my actions that will put meaning behind spoken words.

When she asked that question, it also gave me a flashback when I was helping the Network Manager, where I work, and I asked him, "Where did you previously work?" He replied that he used to work at a job that paid him 6 figure salary, but when he got called into work when he promised his daughter that he would attend her dance concert at school. He quit his job a week later. He said that while he makes nearly half of what he used to make, he is happy that he can work and spend time with his family.

I fall along the same lines as the Network Manager where I definitely get paid considerably less; however, I get to enjoy all the paid holidays such as 2 weeks Christmas Break as well as it is much easier to travel internationally which I enjoy.

What is your opinion? Empathize family or work or a balance between the two?
Posted 10/21/15 , edited 10/21/15
I believe the word is "Emphasize". Is it? Iunno. I empathize with making mistakes. I too make mistakes. I would emphasize family over work, although my family is cancerous at times, I still feel that misplaced bond.
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PeripheralVisionary wrote:

I believe the word is "Emphasize". Is it? Iunno. I empathize with making mistakes. I too make mistakes. I would emphasize family over work, although my family is cancerous at times, I still feel that misplaced bond.


You're right, it is emphasize. I used the one for sharing feeling between another person. Thanks for sharing!
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Posted 10/21/15 , edited 10/21/15
Family comes first, work a distant second. After all you can always find new work, but family is something you cannot really replace. But it is something that can be hurt or broken by work.

My current work place seems to think it comes first. They don't seem to grasp I cannot do certain shifts due to family commitments, no matter how much they ask and get shitty about it. So either one of two things is going happen, I will ask for my contract not to be renewed or I'll get a temp xmas job elsewhere. Either way they're screwed when it comes to December and one of their busiest trading periods all because of their sucky attitude. They've already lost two members of staff and I know another fellow employee there who is going to do same as me and ask for his contract not to be renewed if he cannot find work elsewhere.
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I don't really have a family outside of the parents and siblings, so work is just fine for me. When I am working it's usually for a couple weeks straight without a day off, so I can safely say my emphasis is on work.
Posted 10/21/15 , edited 10/21/15

cozmickaos wrote:

Family comes first, work a distant second. After all you can always find new work, but family is something you cannot really replace. But it is something that can be hurt or broken by work.



I have to agree with this. Family definitely comes first as they are far more important.
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Both are equally troublesome
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I'd say it's best to find a balance. I know I personally won't work all hours of the day and night sacrificing everything else just because it pays more. I've already grown up with parents like that and I can say that I'm not used to spending any time around my mother. Anything more than an hour is too much. I see no reason to repeat that generation's mistake.
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ull get now reply from serbian boy

ur question is asked in wrong place and time tehnology built us and its also destryoing at same time ,since im cold person and u dont live from ur famility love ill say work ...
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ull get now reply from serbian boy

ur question is asked in wrong place and time tehnology built us and its also destryoing at same time ,since im cold person and u dont live from ur famility love ill say work ...


lol
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Sorta depends on what it is, yeah? I mean, if something important is going on at work and they need you there, while your family just wants you to walk the dog or something, I think work should come first. There are many instances where the opposite would be true, too.

Now, if I had kids, just about anything would come before work, in my eyes, if it was for them.
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zivko93 wrote:

ull get now reply from serbian boy

ur question is asked in wrong place and time tehnology built us and its also destryoing at same time ,since im cold person and u dont live from ur famility love ill say work ...


lol


what u laugh for its realistic statment
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what u laugh for its realistic statment


my only communication with my family is via text, most of the times.
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Posted 10/21/15 , edited 10/21/15
forget either of them, whatever happened to "me time"
Posted 10/21/15
I don't understand this question; I need more context, or more examples.

Would I quit work to look after family who got chronic illness? Yes, I would do it in a heartbeat. Would I call in sick for some lame party that they think is important? No.

So my answer would be to find a balance and prioritise, assess and analyse the importance of each scenario.

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