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Post Reply I'm a 26 year old virgin :(
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I'm sure you'll get your dick wet, buddy. You just have to surround yourself with the right kind of people (Stop hanging around teenagers and start hanging around people your age or so, you can't get laid cruising around the mall with a bunch of high schoolers as your your posse). But like the others have said, it's not a big deal at all (it is kind a pathetic though. I mean, 27 and no girlfriend?)
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brvndt wrote: it is kind a pathetic though. I mean, 27 and no girlfriend?
no its not.. or can be but by just being a bit old and none does not mean its pathetic though...

I'm sure you'll get your dick wet, buddy. You just have to surround yourself with the right kind of people
I will call that more pathetic
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Lulz.. virgins. Hope you at least have soft hands.
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brvndt wrote:

I'm sure you'll get your dick wet, buddy. You just have to surround yourself with the right kind of people (Stop hanging around teenagers and start hanging around people your age or so, you can't get laid cruising around the mall with a bunch of high schoolers as your your posse). But like the others have said, it's not a big deal at all (it is kind a pathetic though. I mean, 27 and no girlfriend?)


Well excuse us! The people that has no confidence and/or looks to get a girlfriend. I'm sorry, my master!
I was being sarcastic by the way, you should look that word up.
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Start dating. Use online dating sites or even craigslist. You probably won't find a long term relationship this way but eventually you will find someone willing to hook up. Don't be picky. If the idea of putting yourself out there scares you so much you absolutely can not do this, consider seeing a psychologist. Being a virgin is not necessarily abnormal, but being so insecure that you can not be intimate is.
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brvndt wrote:

I'm sure you'll get your dick wet, buddy. You just have to surround yourself with the right kind of people (Stop hanging around teenagers and start hanging around people your age or so, you can't get laid cruising around the mall with a bunch of high schoolers as your your posse). But like the others have said, it's not a big deal at all (it is kind a pathetic though. I mean, 27 and no girlfriend?)


Ugh, it is kind of pathetic because high school guys and girls are the ONLY friends that I have to hang out with. I have no one my age as a friend...It helps that I look young though. To meet people my age would be a difficult task, they will think of me as a man child.
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Sounds like you might have a general anxiety disorder that has stunted your emotional growth. What you really need to do is stop turtling from life and take your beatings like the rest of us have.
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Posted 10/21/15 , edited 11/17/15
^ Have you tried going to an anime convention? There are lots of people of all ages there, including people who are your age and love anime. And manga.
Posted 10/21/15 , edited 10/21/15
How many threads have there been on the internet about adult male virgins? TOO MANY!

If you have questions needing answers, sometimes the internet isn't the best place to go to. Try a sex therapist. DON'T try to become a PUA (pick up artist). That isn't going to help you and being a PUA means you would just be going around trying to be something you aren't.

Now, I am a 32 year old virgin. Come at me, bro. I've been through the motions of virginity and desperation for all too long. Do I feel as if I've wasted my life? Do I feel defective? Do I feel as if there is something fundamentally wrong with me as a person? Not exactly. I may not know what sex is like, but I do know that the importance of it is different to each person. I never placed much importance on it, yet I've often felt that if I had, then perhaps my life would be different. I'd have gone about begging for it and that I don't think would have been a very good life path.

If you are beating the shit out of yourself over your "problem" then do something about it. Either you can lose it or wait for someone to come along that understands. In my case, being over 30, I've hit the wall. My chances are becoming less and less every year. I'm not some pussy slayer with a chocolate money penis. I was never that kind of person. I feared dealing with bad women who only exist to fuck people's lives up. I've seen so many of my friends fucked over by their relationships that it kept me celibate from fear of becoming just like them. Am I making excuses or being cautious? To the reader; you decide.

Virginity is a social construct. Modern society has a lot of double standards. If that fact bothers you, then it should. All the pressure to lose virginity is a serious problem. People risk their health and well being just for a few minutes of pleasure. Is your life worth that? If you think it is, then guess who the real loser is? YOU! So look before you leap, because you only live one, but no one lives forever.
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trueshinobi01 wrote:



Ugh, it is kind of pathetic because high school guys and girls are the ONLY friends that I have to hang out with. I have no one my age as a friend...It helps that I look young though. To meet people my age would be a difficult task, they will think of me as a man child.


You don't need to tell everyone every little detail about your (lack of) romantic life if you don't want to... Also, if they think less of you just because you're a virgin, they wouldn't be good friends, anyway.
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akai_ryu wrote:

So what? Stop worrying so much about not having romantic or sexual experience, you're not going to go anywhere that way.


I would like stop stop worrying. The problem is though, my sex drive is much higher now than in my teens. It's hard to be around any female without thinking about sex... Ugh actually all I think about is sex.
Posted 10/21/15

trueshinobi01 wrote:


akai_ryu wrote:

So what? Stop worrying so much about not having romantic or sexual experience, you're not going to go anywhere that way.


I would like stop stop worrying. The problem is though, my sex drive is much higher now than in my teens. It's hard to be around any female without thinking about sex... Ugh actually all I think about is sex.


Alright, bud. You're obsessed and that is a problem. I'm going to say that you should see a therapist, and soon. Your problem has been made clear to be an emotional one. Understandably, I know what it is like to feel insecure. It sucks major balls. What you need to learn is security in yourself. No one else is going to fill up the hole inside of you. This is why therapy can help, but only if you chose to work closely with a counselor and do what it takes to get your head straight.
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serifsansserif wrote:

I am nearly 34 and have been haven't so much as kissed a girl since I llast had a girlfriend around the age of 19-21-ish? (it's been so long I forgot).

I actually go out of my way to slip out of situations where women show interest because I have fuck all idea what to do anymore.

Sure, there's being out of practice, which sucks, but more so the implications of being with someone, being in a relationship, having someone close to me... those terrify the ever loving fuck outta me. Especially when it seems like taking on any of that implicitly seems to put me in the role of dispensing comfort and reassurance and/or having to initiate for most relationship-y things. Granted, the most forward women are the ones I've been least attracted to, but still.

People in general burn me out. And when it comes to relationship stuff I am beyond fried... The last one just killed it for me.


the honesty in this post made me laugh and also respect your posts that much more.
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Chill out and have fun. Learn to embrace the fuck ups in life and it will start to become less of a deal.

...and approach your first time with a bit of humor-- know that you're going to laugh about it together later :).

Remember-- confidence is not (and has never been) knowing something's going to turn out great or belief that you're going to be able to do something, or be someone in particular. It's just about not sweating the fact that most of the time in life things turn out rubbish or ridiculous. Laugh it off and more forward Sir ;).

Chin up.
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Why do you care so much about having sex when there is all this anime to watch? Do you know what site this is? Every time I think about having sex I watch anime instead. 2D girls can't reject you!
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