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Post Reply I'm a 26 year old virgin :(
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trueshinobi01 wrote:

Ugh, you're right, she might do that to me


Nice try... can't rape the willing... or more correctly... the desperate
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you aren't the only one. I bet other ppl are like this
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be positive. have some laughs. no mean to offend
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I am nearly 34 and have been haven't so much as kissed a girl since I llast had a girlfriend around the age of 19-21-ish? (it's been so long I forgot).

I actually go out of my way to slip out of situations where women show interest because I have fuck all idea what to do anymore.

Sure, there's being out of practice, which sucks, but more so the implications of being with someone, being in a relationship, having someone close to me... those terrify the ever loving fuck outta me. Especially when it seems like taking on any of that implicitly seems to put me in the role of dispensing comfort and reassurance and/or having to initiate for most relationship-y things. Granted, the most forward women are the ones I've been least attracted to, but still.

People in general burn me out. And when it comes to relationship stuff I am beyond fried... The last one just killed it for me.


the honesty in this post made me laugh and also respect your posts that much more.


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trueshinobi01 wrote:

You made wizard status I can't imagine being a virgin past 30, but you telling me this has given me a little bit of hope.

The problem I didn't really explain at first is that I really wouldn't mind being virgin. It's my abnormally high sex drive that's killing me. So my sex drive has been so high this past year that any female that gets close to me makes me think of sex! in fact all I think about every day is sex with a girl I want it to stop badly..

How have you been able to control it for so long?


PORN... And lots of it...


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If you masturbate or look at porn, stop.



Oh.........................

Fuck.
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serifsansserif wrote:

I am nearly 34 and have been haven't so much as kissed a girl since I llast had a girlfriend around the age of 19-21-ish? (it's been so long I forgot).

I actually go out of my way to slip out of situations where women show interest because I have fuck all idea what to do anymore.

Sure, there's being out of practice, which sucks, but more so the implications of being with someone, being in a relationship, having someone close to me... those terrify the ever loving fuck outta me. Especially when it seems like taking on any of that implicitly seems to put me in the role of dispensing comfort and reassurance and/or having to initiate for most relationship-y things. Granted, the most forward women are the ones I've been least attracted to, but still.

People in general burn me out. And when it comes to relationship stuff I am beyond fried... The last one just killed it for me.


the honesty in this post made me laugh and also respect your posts that much more.


I laughed too. And I agree with you overall.



Seriously guys.. What's so funny?

I've wormed my way out of beds with nekkid wimmens in them, (including super creepy barely legal 18 year old that wanted to jump my bones for absolutely no fucking reason. She was kinda ok but literally others mistook her for a retarded 12 year old boy), had one woman who thought it would be super awesome to strip in front of me and one of her friends, (she was hot and I was incredibly attracted to her, but also bipolar. Seriously, medically-prescribed-for-bipolar bipolar) and at least one obsess and bitch and moan to a mutual female friend about how she can't seem to get my attentions.. (because she's dull as fuck. DULL. and the whole waiting for me to make a move..... and I DON'T, should be a fairly good indicator)

And that's just the few I am willing to share......

Rule #1: do not stick your dick in crazy.
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serifsansserif wrote:


thestars201 wrote:


Arbitrator wrote:


serifsansserif wrote:

I am nearly 34 and have been haven't so much as kissed a girl since I llast had a girlfriend around the age of 19-21-ish? (it's been so long I forgot).

I actually go out of my way to slip out of situations where women show interest because I have fuck all idea what to do anymore.

Sure, there's being out of practice, which sucks, but more so the implications of being with someone, being in a relationship, having someone close to me... those terrify the ever loving fuck outta me. Especially when it seems like taking on any of that implicitly seems to put me in the role of dispensing comfort and reassurance and/or having to initiate for most relationship-y things. Granted, the most forward women are the ones I've been least attracted to, but still.

People in general burn me out. And when it comes to relationship stuff I am beyond fried... The last one just killed it for me.


the honesty in this post made me laugh and also respect your posts that much more.


I laughed too. And I agree with you overall.



Seriously guys.. What's so funny?

I've wormed my way out of beds with nekkid wimmens in them, (including super creepy barely legal 18 year old that wanted to jump my bones for absolutely no fucking reason. She was kinda ok but literally others mistook her for a retarded 12 year old boy), had one woman who thought it would be super awesome to strip in front of me and one of her friends, (she was hot and I was incredibly attracted to her, but also bipolar. Seriously, medically-prescribed-for-bipolar bipolar) and at least one obsess and bitch and moan to a mutual female friend about how she can't seem to get my attentions.. (because she's dull as fuck. DULL. and the whole waiting for me to make a move..... and I DON'T, should be a fairly good indicator)

And that's just the few I am willing to share......

Rule #1: do not stick your dick in crazy.


Never ever EVER put the D in the crazy.
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keep it up for 13 more years and you could make the prequel of

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trueshinobi01 wrote:

Next week I turn 26 years old and I'm still a complete virgin... I've never dated a girl, kissed a girl, or had a girlfriend. I've never even held hands with a girl!! Is this normal? I am immature for my age and have only had teenagers for friends


Buddy. Let me give you some advice.

I lost my virginity when I was 16 during my sophomore year of high school to my girlfriend and have had a fair amount of experience since then with women (especially when I joined college). While I'm most definitely an introvert at heart, there's still hope for people like us to succeed with women. I've had years of experience and I'm very comfortable with girls and despite not being the most out going guy in the world I put myself out there and try my best, and it works out when it counts.

First off, if you really want to lose your V-card fast then it's simple: call a hooker. You may laugh, but I'm dead serious. If you really feel like you need to get rid of it and want to experience sex, then that way you don't have to really worry about embarrassing yourself since you paid for them. They are not going to judge you, you're a customer. I'd be honest with them beforehand and they would probably figure something out for you and help you through it.

Second, now since I got that out of the way, obviously that may not be an appealing option since you're giving away your "precious" virginity and it's pretty raunchy to say the least. If you really want to make an effort to know a girl, well, you simply got to apply yourself. Just practice talking to girls. Hit up the bars. Just talk to them, girls love just having a simple, normal conversation. You most likely will not get any of their numbers at first, that's just the nature of the game. You will get rejected more times than not and leave empty handled and that is ok!!! It happens to everyone (including myself, there is no exception)!

Yes I understand you probably are scared to talk to people and girls, but forcing yourself to at least try, will make a difference. Just every time you go out, don't expect results. You'll gain experience from this though. You gotta keep your social game fresh or you'll lose it after a while (especially if you live alone).

Third, get the mentality out of your head that you're going to lose your virginity to your most loved one. YOU MOST LIKELY ARE NOT! I see people here saying, "Save it for the right one! Make it special!" Alright, let's cut the fantasy bullshit. Most people lose their virginity in very awkward situations to people who may not be exactly the "right one", and there is no perfect situation.... There is no full moon with fireworks going off with Kiss singing Love Gun in the background after you and your perfect girlfriend get done having a super duper special romantic night on Christmas Eve. NOOOOO! It will most likely be strange and awkward with a person you don't even know that well, but it will also be fulfilling, just not in the way you'd expect. I believe if you have the mentality of "saving it" when you already don't have that much "game" is a bad mentality because it gives you an excuse to run away from the issue and not try. Be willing to lose it if the opportunity arises and you feel comfortable enough with the girl.

Also I respect people that want to be abstinent or save it for someone they care about. My sister was that way and her husband, but both of them are staunch, traditional Catholics who believe it is sacred. That's fine. You may view it the same way, but if you do, that means just longer for you to lose it and not every girl is going to like that if you start a relationship with them. Just food for thought.

But please, most of all, don't feel pressured to lose it. That's where it goes wrong. For a while, I felt that way (my friends were losing their virginity in 8th grade! WHOA!). Everyone goes their own pace, not everyone has to be a manslut. While I'm experienced, I'm nowhere close to making out and fucking girls every weekend. It happens occasionally, and I'm in no hurry to try to speed that up. When it happens, it happens, but again you gotta be open to the possibilities of it happening and work for it. I'm in a different boat from you since I've already experienced a lot of things, I don't feel the same pressures as I did when I was younger. But even then, I always told myself to not rush and just go my own pace. And my patience paid off: I got a girlfriend who I really liked and I'm happy that I lost my virginity to her (to this day we are still great friends )

Forth, maybe join an organization or something. Do you go to church? Are you religious? If so, getting involved in your church is a FANTASTIC way to meet new people and women (you'll meet a lot of nice, gentle ones in their too). Maybe you aren't religious (it may be something to look into though if you're not against it), well then think about some voluntary work like at an AIDS Benefit Fashion Show where you'll be forced to interact with other people to get job done. Anything where it's simple to join and easy to meet people. I highly recommend getting involved with a church though if you are interested.

And meeting a good group of guys that you can do things with is great too. Being in a group of guys can help a lot with meeting girls because the more outgoing ones can push you along and you meet girls just from being in the group. Also it easier to talk to the girls since you're with your friends and you feel more comfortable.

Now, you probably read all of that and are thinking, "Fuck dude, this is too much. I just want to hide in a corner and forget about all of this!" I KNOW THE FEELING . I feel that way sometimes like not wanting to go out on the weekends and just stay home and watch anime, but I have to motivate myself and push myself to go out and usually I have a great time! I'm apart of a fraternity so I'm fortunate enough to have a great group of friends at college that I can do a lot of things with. If you really want to make a difference in meeting women you gotta be committed to it. It's very simple to meet girls and gain experience you just got to be willing to do it.

No one here can do it for you, only you can.


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Honestly virginity or when you lose it isn't a big deal.

Probably the main issue is like others have said and just putting yourself out there. Don't go looking for something just to pop that cherry. it will be much more fulfilling if it is with someone you care for and that has mutual respect for you.

Do NOT be afraid of being rejected. It IS going to happen. If you ask 99 girls out and they all spit in your face and you stop, what if that 100th girl was THE ONE that could make you into the man you're supposed to be? You'll never know unless you try. As humans we learn more from failing than from succeeding.

Hell I am 36 and single with no kids. Some would call that a blessing. I don't. I want a family, but I am also not about to rush into anything.

Sex is amazing. not going to lie there, but it is much better for the right reasons. In order to be happy with someone else, you have to be happy with yourself first.


I more or less agree with this, well said.

Also yes, sex is great.
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trueshinobi01 wrote:

Next week I turn 26 years old and I'm still a complete virgin... I've never dated a girl, kissed a girl, or had a girlfriend. I've never even held hands with a girl!! Is this normal? I am immature for my age and have only had teenagers for friends


Ironically to give a f**k you must first stop giving a f**k.
Don't make this a purpose, just be normal, don't treat girls like fragile things that you must always be very careful not to break, and as I saw suggested in the first replies, put yourself in situations where you will meet girls with similar interests as you.
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don't worry, only 4 more years until you become a wizard.
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Don't worry Virtual reality is almost there you can have all your waifus in your lifetime... Jokes aside don't let it get you down there is someone out there for everyone and stressing about stuff like virginity isn't going to make you more appealing to a girl, and it's not going to make you feel any better, if you really care that much force yourself into more social situations that will allow you to raise your comfort level when talking to members of the opposite sex, alcohol can help you liberate those feelings also!


Oh gosh, I'm just now reading this. My life would be complete if i could use virtual reality to have my waifu as a girlfriend!!! I wouldn't have to worry about rejection, or worry about women telling how much of a piece of worthless s**t I am. I could just sit in my room all day and night and have sex with a virtual rei ayanami and Koneko Toujou Soon, virgins will finally know what it's like through virtual reality!!
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thekevin4 wrote:


trueshinobi01 wrote:


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Do u want to meet??!!????


YES I do! Ha


Rape waiting to happen



Ugh, you're right, she might do that to me


Yes it's my life long dream to rape 26 y/o's

I want to live it. )-:
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Ara-kouhai wrote:


trueshinobi01 wrote:


thekevin4 wrote:


trueshinobi01 wrote:


Ara-kouhai wrote:

Do u want to meet??!!????


YES I do! Ha


Rape waiting to happen



Ugh, you're right, she might do that to me


Yes it's my life long dream to rape 26 y/o's

I want to live it. )-:


I volunteer as tribute then!
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Nice nice yeah yeah you know what to do.
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