First  Prev  1  2  3  4  Next  Last
Post Reply Does anyone here get the feeling of not going on anymore?
4876 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
27 / F
Offline
Posted 10/21/15
Your not alone I am still fighting with it every day
7467 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
M
Offline
Posted 10/21/15

Mrcreepday wrote:

As for me, it seems like I can't do much anymore.
But that is just the "School is over, what now?" kind of feeling that is talking.
But I am so shy that I probably can't work that easily. So I stay home, doing nothing...Every day. NEET style.
I get the feeling of, if I wanna go on or not.
And no, I am not talking about suiciding.
Other things like, "why get up from bed?" or "just eat, no one is gonna like you anyway."

What do you guys feel? Ever get this feeling? Or am I just insanely stupid?
Most likely the last one.


I use to feel the same when i went to school >_> but now a days I am just bored or get bored easily it's like nothing is enjoyable for me anymore >_> (not saying I am depressed or anything~)
Posted 10/21/15
Yep, happens to me quite a lot but it passes just as quickly as it comes if I don't fixate on it too much.
3021 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
27 / M / The Void
Offline
Posted 10/21/15
Feeling this way everyday for years now...
11095 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
33
Offline
Posted 10/21/15
You have depression. It might be caused by something or just be chemical. The worst thing you can do is nothing, though. See a doctor if you can and try to find a medication or therapy that will get you normalized. Nobody can have a real life in that state.
9309 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
M / Australia
Offline
Posted 10/21/15 , edited 10/21/15
man thats bad if you already feel that way when you are young and haven't even worked yet?
I used to be very very shy myself but thankfully i came out of my shell.
It dose make a big difference if you could do that but its not always so easy. I still get shy or embarrassed at times or have self doubt at times i guess but yeah being shy and low confidence can hold you back.
Not sure what made me come out of my shell? probably experience with a girl and finding some things that i was good at gave me confidence i guess.
Was lucky enough to have good friends.
I think gettting a job really made me a stronger person also. (having money, meeting people).



But, once you get older and you have been working a long time and life feels rather tough, things aren't as fun as they used to be, then thats when i feel like you do now..

Hope you can snap ouit of it becasue by the sounds of it you have not gotten out in the real world yet.
I found life got better and better for a while there but life is challenging.
10831 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
13 / F / California
Offline
Posted 10/21/15

Mrcreepday wrote:

As for me, it seems like I can't do much anymore.
But that is just the "School is over, what now?" kind of feeling that is talking.
But I am so shy that I probably can't work that easily. So I stay home, doing nothing...Every day. NEET style.
I get the feeling of, if I wanna go on or not.
And no, I am not talking about suiciding.
Other things like, "why get up from bed?" or "just eat, no one is gonna like you anyway."

What do you guys feel? Ever get this feeling? Or am I just insanely stupid?
Most likely the last one.


Have you looked into a S.A.D. light?



Some people get really screwy if they don't get enough sunlight.
15703 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
20 / M / Florida
Offline
Posted 10/22/15
I thought I was the only one.. This is currently going on with me right now. Graduated from High School, haven't gotten my diploma because I didn't meet the requirements for a test which I failed by 1 point; because of this I can't go to college, can't go to the military. Never felt motivated when I was a child. I was alone in school. Segregation breh. By that, I suffer from social anxiety. I'm literally scared shitless to get a job. Scared to be alone in life. Cant seem to open up to anyone. Help others in need, but cant evem help myslef. My vocabulary isn't large, I tend to keep things simple.

But you know what? I'm not gonna give up on anything, if there's a chance to do something, go for it. Take any opportunity you can get.
11740 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
21 / M
Offline
Posted 10/22/15
I'm not really doing anything atm and I honestly don't care. I can get things done if I have to so I don't worry about it.
18236 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
26 / M / Mobile, Alabama
Online
Posted 10/22/15
Between the years of 2009-2012 I was a legit NEET. Also had a bad case of depression and poor self-confidence.

Then I got a fast food job after my parents pestered and pestered me. Jobs just don't grow on trees, but if you make enough application someone will eventually hire you. Fast food or retail, more often than not. And once you get 40+ a week of work, you'll be literally be exhausted most days. In a good way, for the most part.

All that self-confidence stuff dissolves completely after enough shifts. You'll be able to deal with all kinds of people and all kinds of situations.

Of course, I hate my job and I still fight with depression, but I'm not sitting around all day thinking about life and stuff. That's the last thing I need to do. When you get a job that will kick your butt you got to juggle your time wisely. Take things one day at a time and always be on the lookout for the next best thing.

If you aren't in school then start filling out those applications. Get some work experience to help with your introduction to the "real world." It's going to suck, but you can't be a NEET forever and the sooner you learn "the ropes" the better.

And if you have really bad depression than please seek help. Seriously. Don't play around with that stuff.
3057 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
23 / M / pass me a scope
Offline
Posted 10/22/15
I am studying psych and I have had this feeling before (pretty much the same problem) so hope I can help a bit.

One thing I have found is that studying hard or working hard, exercising, and disciplined eating helps a lot with self confidence. You need to feel like you are doing something with your life. You seem to feel that going NEET is the way you are going right now, and it is. But if you are going to do it, either enjoy it fully with no regrets, or change it up. No matter what you do in life, there will be irrational and rational people that love or hate you, judge or accept you, and how you picture yourself will be relative to the people around you.
Be around who you want to be, either as friends, enemies, co-workers, or just strangers. I'm honestly not sure if internet friends/skyping/teamspeaking counts :P.

The above has to be the biggest thing, but here are some nice tips:
- Meditation (HUGE HUGE HUGE +++ for health, seriously! Do some research on it and what types of meditation you would benefit from).

- Change of scenery (Go to new places, try new things, be random, be spontaneous, be yourself). Just go out and do things by yourself, learn to love yourself. Independence is a pretty great skill to have.

- Control your life, make decisions. Although this is probably lacking in empirical evidence, I personally found it very helpful to be more decisive and controlling. I'm not saying you should go become a control freak (but hey, if you choose to do so, why not), but it really helps to view things (and even people, sorry!) as changeable variables. And that's exactly what we are, people are changeable and adaptable creatures, especially our minds. Control yourself, and control your life in conjunction with your surroundings.

- As far as being shy goes, volunteer, get a job, go to school, go to church, pursue your dreams, develop skills, meet up with other otaku, travel. Just for the heck of it. Don't try to get people to like you necessarily, but accustom yourself to a daily changing environment, and to seeing as many different faces, hearing as many different voices as possible. Being shy in your case seems to root from self-worth. Do something you are proud to do. If you like chilling at home all day, by all means do it. But if it gets in the way of your self-worth and therefore, functioning, then it might be time to change things up.

- Don't get too disconnected from nature. Sleep when the sun sets and wake up as the sun rises. You are essentially a natural, living, breathing organism that historically spent 99% of its time 'outdoors'.

If you start feeling worse, then I would advise you to go see a psychologist/psychotherapist. And yes, I have tried different pills/meds. And no, they do not work. Weed doesn't work. Alcohol/smoking/coffee don't work. Getting better sleep, eating better etc. works.

Have fun with it! Life is trivial, there's no avoiding that! GLHF!
17394 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
22 / M / Michigan
Offline
Posted 10/22/15

Mrcreepday wrote:

As for me, it seems like I can't do much anymore.
But that is just the "School is over, what now?" kind of feeling that is talking.
But I am so shy that I probably can't work that easily. So I stay home, doing nothing...Every day. NEET style.
I get the feeling of, if I wanna go on or not.
And no, I am not talking about suiciding.
Other things like, "why get up from bed?" or "just eat, no one is gonna like you anyway."

What do you guys feel? Ever get this feeling? Or am I just insanely stupid?
Most likely the last one.


When I graduated I already had a job lined, where I work now and where I will work for the rest of my working days unless something VERY significant happens in my life. I don't mind my job, I don't mind the people. But for a while there I was like okay.. got a good enough job, now all I have to do is go to work everyday and come home everyday, no bothers, right? Well eventually I thought heck I may as well try and go a little further if I can, I'd probably regret it if I never tried. So I put in for a promotion and I got it. Getting paid more now and learning new things. Life is short and you may as well strive while you can, test yourself, see how far you can really go in life. Don't back down, keep plugging away.

ANYWAY that's how I feel. And I still get to come home and watch anime ^.~ livin the life, yo
11891 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
20 / M / Finland
Online
Posted 10/22/15
A lot of good posts already but I'll add my echo.

I've had this feeling many times. When you get like that, you just have to try and do something. Doesn't need to be anything big or life changing, just something to get you out of that slump. It's hard to go against your own thoughts and habits but it's the only way.
I've already tried sitting on my ass all day and it hasn't worked.
812 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 10/22/15
I can't tell you about the feelings, but I am also very shy. Fortunately, once I got a job, that helped a little bit. I'm still shy, but after working for a while, I got used to being at my job, so it wasn't so bad, and it gets me out of the house.
28462 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
M / Sector ZZ9 Plural...
Offline
Posted 10/22/15
It saddens me to see these kinds of threads.

There is an easy solution:

Get up.

Get a job.

Socialize.

If you do not start, you will never be able to.

Stop using "shy" as a shield, it's pathetic.

Don't get me wrong, being shy is not pathetic, using it as a shield is.

Geez. Kids these days
First  Prev  1  2  3  4  Next  Last
You must be logged in to post.