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25 / F / Satellite Beach, FL
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Posted 10/23/15
Despite the title. I am not seeking relationship advice. But people always seem to ask me for advice. Which is weird. Because I am like the LAST person you want to ask for this kind of advice. And it's especially weird when the person who is asking me for dating advice is the guy I absolutely swore not to have a crush on because he's exactly my type and we're in two different worlds and insert more nonselfcofidence here. But anywho, that's not important. My purpose for starting this topic is to ask:

Have you been asked advice for something you're not good at? And if so, how did you respond? It doesn't have to be about relationships.
Posted 10/23/15
NASA asked me for help once and i killed 8 people
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I learned one thing about my fellow humans, shame and embarrassment are very strong feelings for many. Also many are looking for opinions that reaffirm their own. So instead of asking someone who was succesful with whatever many are too ashamed to admit to them that they need help and potentially recieve advice that goes against their own opinion, maybe even so far as to state that it was dead wrong to begin with. So losers flock to losers to get shoulder rubs.

So I tell them to stop insulting me and get their stupid asses moving someplace where they find succesful people. My friends in general have learned that and stopped asking me on topics I can't help them with.
Posted 10/23/15
Never had the problem since I'm well informed on all matters so I can always give great advice.
Posted 10/23/15
Because people know that I studied science, they ask me a lot of scientific questions assuming I know everything there is to know. What they don't realise is that I forgot 98% of things I studied, lol. And even if I remember, I can't answer every question, since we specialised into one field.
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Posted 10/23/15

haikinka wrote:

Never had the problem since I'm well informed on all matters so I can always give great advice.


I know the feeling. It's like they can sense I know everything. Or at least I can fake it well enough.
Posted 10/23/15 , edited 10/23/15
it's not at all that surprising. there are people who write about relationships and give sound advice.. even make a career out of it writing books but whom themselves have almost never been in a relationship.

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Posted 10/23/15
The funny thing about relationships is how individual they are. So my friends and I will talk about our relationships and you'll have your usual complaints:

"I can't find a good man"
"You should date someone like my husband: dependable, kind, responsible, honest and straight forward."
"That isn't really my type."
"Whyyyyyyyyyyyyy??????" <-- spoken by me and every single male who fits the above description


"My man does ___ and it makes me mad."
"Uhhhhh... well, my relationship isn't like that."

"How did you meet your husband? You're so lucky!"
"Uh.. I stopped looking and decided to have fun with my single life."
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Posted 10/23/15
I don't ask for advice anymore, but I often give it.

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Posted 10/23/15
As long as it doesn't involve ones feelings, I give advice when asked. Unless you hate brutally honest answers. Then you can be on your merry way.
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Posted 10/23/15
get an open relationship
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Posted 10/23/15 , edited 10/23/15
My wife asks me for advice regularly, doesn't follow it, then complains about the result.
That aside, when I do get asked about something I'm unsure of, I answer honestly and suggest other resources.
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Posted 10/24/15
If someone asks me for advice on something I don't have a clue about I just tell them I feel uncomfortable giving advice on the subject due to it not being my wheelhouse. I tell them there are 2 better choices than me...

1. Ask someone who knows (which I'll make suggestions if I know friends we have in common with similar views to theirs).
2. Go with your heart.
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Posted 10/24/15
I don't care for it when those who are asking keep asking people until they hear the answer they want. If you know something is bad and isn't working for you, change it.
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Posted 10/24/15
When someone asks me for advice about something I'm either not really in the know about or something I'm not good with/at then I answer honestly and give them whatever little advice I can while advising them to ask someone who would know more for more helpful advice.
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