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Is parenting overrated and selfish?
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Posted 10/24/15
Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
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I'm curious as to what you mean by parenting being selfish?
Posted 10/24/15
Theres too many people in this world, people should be encouraged to adopt instead of having a new kid. Thats what I think at least.
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Mr_Sasuke_Uchiha wrote:

I'm curious as to what you mean by parenting being selfish?


This question was asked on the internet once by a person. So I just wanted to hear from you guys whether or not that it's truly selfish or not. Is it selfish for someone to want something that causes them joy and stress? Is that person thinking only about what they want and not what the child wants?



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I think that there is lack of parenting now than in the past. I believe a child has a brighter future if there is positive parenting involvement.
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It's situational. Someone who decides to have a kid like they decide to buy a goldfish is fairly selfish. People need to be prepared before they make such decisions. If it's about there being too many people, then I disagree. There's not enough young people and too many old people. It's something that will become a much bigger problem in the future.
Posted 10/25/15 , edited 10/25/15
It can be. My stepdad's ex wife had children for the sake of having manipulation tools and an easy income of child support. She intentionally made he first-born emotional dependent on her, and straight-up kicked all her kids out as soon as the child support ended. If only this wasn't true.
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qualeshia3 wrote:


Mr_Sasuke_Uchiha wrote:

I'm curious as to what you mean by parenting being selfish?


This question was asked on the internet once by a person. So I just wanted to hear from you guys whether or not that it's truly selfish or not. Is it selfish for someone to want something that causes them joy and stress? Is that person thinking only about what they want and not what the child wants?





Regardless of how selfish a parent is, parenting a child is a lot of work.
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Posted 10/25/15
Parenting is an intense sacrifice that sometimes yields sadness, so no, it's not selfish.

Seacactus wrote:

Theres too many people in this world, people should be encouraged to adopt instead of having a new kid. Thats what I think at least.


If everyone felt that way, we'd be left with a planet of old people and one to care for them (except robots).
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Posted 10/25/15
If a couple decides to care for a baby seriously and provide well for it, then I don't see anything wrong with that at all.

There is nothing 'selfish' about wanting to start a family. It's a biological instinct for goodness sake.
Posted 10/25/15
It's overrated for me. People like to be romantic when describing their parenthood (and these feelings might be true for them), but it doesn't mean everyone will feel it.

I think there are people like me who can't feel anything when looking at a baby, but they buy into these tales by other parents and have children; and then... don't care about their children because they're unable to feel the connection; in that sense it is selfish to have children because you've fallen for words by society.


I know myself very well, i'm an introvert; I just know I won't feel any connection to any babies or children. And I'm never going to change their nappies or look after them.
Posted 10/25/15

qualeshia3 wrote:


Mr_Sasuke_Uchiha wrote:

I'm curious as to what you mean by parenting being selfish?


This question was asked on the internet once by a person. So I just wanted to hear from you guys whether or not that it's truly selfish or not. Is it selfish for someone to want something that causes them joy and stress? Is that person thinking only about what they want and not what the child wants?





The child has no say in the matter.
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I do think it's overrated. It certainly isn't a necessity in this day and age, considering the continuously growing population of the world. I'm sure there are people who have children because they believe it's what they're meant to do, rather than what they want to do. I should hope that group of people would be a very tiny minority, however. So, I do also think it could be selfish. There are also the parents who pretty much decide their children's lives for them, and pretty much dictate their lives, rather than guide them. Whether for their own ego, or to live their lives through their kids, that's another way in which I can see parent being selfish.

Then again, it doesn't need saying that that in no way represents all parenting. So, this would be another answer in which I say "depends". Considering we're talking about creating and raising a human life here, I think quite a bit of thought should go into whether you're emotionally, mentally and financially ready to take care of a life for at least the next eighteen years, before going ahead with it... This is, of course, assuming we're talking about planned parenthood.

Also, on a very basic level, although I'm sure we've more or less grown out of this animalistic way of thinking, isn't having a baby just a way of spreading our genes out into the world, to live on after we die? Pretty selfish, if you ask me.
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jtjumper wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:


Mr_Sasuke_Uchiha wrote:

I'm curious as to what you mean by parenting being selfish?


This question was asked on the internet once by a person. So I just wanted to hear from you guys whether or not that it's truly selfish or not. Is it selfish for someone to want something that causes them joy and stress? Is that person thinking only about what they want and not what the child wants?





Regardless of how selfish a parent is, parenting a child is a lot of work.


You're right!
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Posted 10/25/15

Sir_jamesalot wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:


Mr_Sasuke_Uchiha wrote:

I'm curious as to what you mean by parenting being selfish?


This question was asked on the internet once by a person. So I just wanted to hear from you guys whether or not that it's truly selfish or not. Is it selfish for someone to want something that causes them joy and stress? Is that person thinking only about what they want and not what the child wants?





The child has no say in the matter.


Too bad, I guess.
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