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Post Reply You're not an adult until you get married and start a family!
Posted 10/25/15
I never wanted to have a family, especially no children. I don't even want interaction between girls other than friendship
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Posted 10/25/15

You're not an adult until you get married and start a family!


Big crock of shit.

I know people that are married and have kids. They do not act like adults in even the broadest terms.

Personally I think you should have to pass a parenting class and you need to be over 25 years old before you can ever have kids.
Parenting does not bring maturity, by any stretch of imagination.... all I have to do is look at all the defective kids that I know and their parents are the biggest contributor to their emotional and personal problems.
Posted 10/25/15
guess i'll never be an adult
Posted 10/25/15

PhantomGundam wrote:


Rujikin wrote:

What if you have a family and don't get married?


Then you're paying child support.


You never heard of adoption ? Or living with other people has family ?
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Posted 10/25/15
Marriage to me is more of a death sentence than a right of passage.
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Posted 10/25/15 , edited 10/25/15
Physically? Or mentally?

Let's traverse the mental route: one is an adult when they are capable of being self-sufficient and able to take responsibility for their actions; one acts like an adult when they are actually self-sufficient and take responsibility for their actions.

It is entirely possible to be an adult, but not act like one; the reverse is also true.

Marriage just leads to further proving (edit: or disproving...) that you are not only an adult but one willing to take on the responsibility that marriage implies. Now you're responsible for the needs of at least two people, rather than just yourself.
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Posted 10/25/15 , edited 10/25/15
soooo if im 50 and still unmarried with no kids, im not an adult?


...............................does that mean i can still trick or treat and ride the dumbo ride with out looking like a creeper?
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Posted 10/25/15
Plenty of people with kids and/or married do not act like adults, well not like responsible parents anyhow.
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Posted 10/25/15

reinux wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

Tell me what you think.


I think you've discovered the secret to eternal youth.


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Posted 10/25/15 , edited 10/25/15
First, they tell you you're not an adult until you're 18.

Then you're not an adult until you finish college.

Then you need to wait until you have a decent career.

Following this, you will be 'accepted' as an adult, but still treated as a sort of higher class of child until you get married and have kids.

However, given you've made it this far, you probably still have hobbies or friends that might be considered childish. Remove them.

Congratulations! You're an adult. However, since you have now lost all semblance of self, you find you are unhappy. You can continue on and stay that way for the rest of your short life, or you can do something childish. You have a few options:

Get a divorce
Get a hobby
Get some friends

One of the above will probably happen at some point naturally, and when you're old enough, you will very likely stop giving a shit altogether and enter what people call the "second childhood." You have now failed at adulthood. Congratulations!

On a brighter note, the concept of adulthood is basically bullshit anyway, so rather than being mature (whatever the hell that means), I recommend being reasonable. Here's what I said in another thread asking how I felt when I turned 18:


theYchromosome wrote:

Did you have to act more mature than you already were? I didn't have to, and I didn't choose to. I was as mature as I was, and I'm as mature as I am. "Acting mature" is pretty significant evidence that you're not. Knowledge is the type of thing that you only understand if you have it, and maturity is basically just having an understanding of people, i.e., knowledge. I also don't think it's anything you can really achieve. There's not really a point where you can say -- OK, now I'm "mature" -- it's more of an element of analysis then an actually goal: How mature am I?

Plus, I'm not entirely convinced it has any relevance to, well, anything. When I make a decision, I don't think "what is the mature thing to do?" I think, "what is the best or most reasonable thing to do?" There's really no reason to think that the maturity of an action should tell you whether to do it. If the decision that I deem most reasonable also happens to be the most mature, so be it. I could not care much less though whether it's mature. I'll act as childish as I want if it makes more sense than the alternative.

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Posted 10/25/15 , edited 10/25/15

kinga750 wrote:

I think you are an adult once you start supporting yourself.


"Supporting yourself" is a misleading, ego-driven phrase. The people who are truly "supporting themselves" are living off of the electrical grid, hunting their own food, making their own clothes, etc.

In a modern society, you don't suddenly stop relying on others and become an island once you reach the age of majority. You still need assistance and approval from others to hold a job, have a relationship, be on a team, etc. Although you're removed from noticing it behind the scenes, every object you own and "bought with your own money" (as though it has value apart from other people's agreement that it does) is a relic of several different levels of human cooperation.

TL; DR: I that a crucial part of an "adult's" identity is supporting others.
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Posted 10/25/15
So at 33 years old, I'm not an adult?
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Posted 10/25/15
Yay. I'm still a kid! Woop Woop! I'm not ready to be an adult anyway
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Posted 10/25/15

xxteargodxx wrote:

So at 33 years old, I'm not an adult?


Are you married and have children?
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Posted 10/25/15

Kikiest wrote:

I believe one becomes an adult when they take on responsibilities that "adults" have such as paying bills, making your own money, etc. I do not believe getting married has anything to do with becoming an adult, or starting your own family for that matter. If that were the case, all the single adults in the world are not adults?

I also think you truly become an adult when have a more mature thought process. Of course, you can keep your "child like mind" but there are plenty of legal adults that do not take on these responsibilities or have a mature way of thinking.


1000% agree
Once you have all the responsibilities and live up to the expectation, you're an adult.
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