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Post Reply You're not an adult until you get married and start a family!
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A basic biological version of "adult" would simply mean that you're able to sexually reproduce.

Everything beyond that is basically a tack-on -- more of just various "feelings" about how adults should act rather than real definitions of the term.
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I'm technically an adult, and even though the majority of the time I don't feel like one, I still find the idea of needing to be married and have kids ridiculous.

If we can not use the term "adult" in this way, that would be great. If this said "You're not mature until you get married and start a family", I'd still consider that ridiculous, but less so. This doesn't take into account people who don't want children, people who haven't found someone they want to marry, places where homosexual marriage isn't legal, so I guess it'd suck to be gay for them, then. People who can't have children, and are finding other means difficult. On the flipside, what about people who get divorced, or have their children taken away for whatever reason? Do they inexplicably cease being adults?

While I feel inclined to just define it as a fully devleoped person, let's just say it's 21, when you no longer have any restrictions on what you can do... within the law, of course.

Maturity, however... Let that be the one with arbitrary definitions, that can't be measured. Let's keep "adult" a simple word.
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Not sure if your an adult I know you feel responsible for two mouths to feed and a monthly mortgage to pay. I bought my first house at 24 so probably then I felt like an adult was a goal of mine since I was kid. I became a father at 38 and bought my second rental property felt even more like adult looking toward future with an investment.
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If this was the case then I've been a half adult for couple of years. I'm 20 years old. I'm not married nor am I in any rush to get married but i do have a child who'll be 3 soon. Even tho I had always felt like I was living a life of a 25 year old I was only 17-19 this time. Not an adult at all. Now that I'm 20 my life still hasnt changed much my parents are the type that believes if youre old enough to have a child youre old enough to take care of yourself. all they done was give me a place to live. which i was successfully moved out on my own with a job once at 19. But some things happened and i needed to get out.
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That's such a dumb thing to say. What if somebody never gets married or has kids? They're not an adult? I think once you become financially independent you're an adult.
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VZ68 wrote:

I will never grow old!

YES!

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The law of nature dictates that you must grow old.

However, there is no law that says you must grow up.


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Timmn wrote:


VZ68 wrote:

I will never grow old!

YES!

*fist pumps*



The law of nature dictates that you must grow old.

However, there is no law that says you must grow up.




I hope my last words are "Pull my finger"
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Yep the only thing's that make one an adult really is paying bills and rent or buying a house, your own food(and all your own stuff pretty much), abiding by the law and suffering the consequences of your actions(trialed as an adult).
Holding down a job and paying your own way.
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Becoming an adult is not a choice.
It's all about age, not atitude.
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Posted 10/25/15
That reminds me of something I read in a very old magazine I found in my Grandmother's house, it said "A girl is not a Woman until she has a baby" and it was accompanied by a picture of a Woman pushing a baby carriage.

It makes about the same amount of sense.
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Sir_jamesalot wrote:

Becoming an adult is not a choice.
It's all about age, not atitude.


WEll yeah but thats a man made thing. Not really by narure. If we go by nature, as others have said, as soon as your are able to create a child then your an adult.
As proven in certain cultures, a boy to us can be a man if raised that way, same with girls.
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While you don't have to start a family to count as an adult I feel being able to start and support one is a big part of it. Sure you can go through life without ever starting a family but I feel part of being an adult is taking responsibility not just for yourself but those connected to you and guiding the next generation. What better way to do both than start a family in some form?

So while I don't think your not an adult until you get married and start a family I feel it's something you should at least try to do as an adult. Of course I haven't done so myself yet so I'm not saying to rush such a thing. Just take your time and start when you're ready.
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MrAnimeSK wrote:


Sir_jamesalot wrote:

Becoming an adult is not a choice.
It's all about age, not atitude.


WEll yeah but thats a man made thing. Not really by narure. If we go by nature, as others have said, as soon as your are able to create a child then your an adult.
As proven in certain cultures, a boy to us can be a man if raised that way, same with girls.


Not really. An adult is a fully developed person. During puberty, when you can start creating children you're still developing. I don't think anyone would say that you'd become an adult as soon as you're physically able to have children. But around 21, around when you become fully developed and end puberty that's when you become an adult, physiologically speaking.
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Frenzify wrote:


MrAnimeSK wrote:


Sir_jamesalot wrote:

Becoming an adult is not a choice.
It's all about age, not atitude.


WEll yeah but thats a man made thing. Not really by narure. If we go by nature, as others have said, as soon as your are able to create a child then your an adult.
As proven in certain cultures, a boy to us can be a man if raised that way, same with girls.


Not really. An adult is a fully developed person. During puberty, when you can start creating children you're still developing. I don't think anyone would say that you'd become an adult as soon as you're physically able to have children. But around 21, around when you become fully developed and end puberty that's when you become an adult, physiologically speaking.


Well thats how it is now but is wasn't like that in the past nor in some cultures today.
I do agree though that your not an adult until your fully developed.
But, we dont all develop as quickly as others so age is really just a number.
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MrAnimeSK wrote:


Frenzify wrote:

Not really. An adult is a fully developed person. During puberty, when you can start creating children you're still developing. I don't think anyone would say that you'd become an adult as soon as you're physically able to have children. But around 21, around when you become fully developed and end puberty that's when you become an adult, physiologically speaking.


Well thats how it is now but is wasn't like that in the past nor in some cultures today.
I do agree though that your not an adult until your fully developed.
But, we dont all develop as quickly as others so age is really just a number.


Fair enough, but even so, saying an adult is a fully developed person, as we've always been doing, even if a specific age can't is be pinpointed, is far simpler than using any of these other definitions that people won't agree on.
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