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As the title states, have you ever run into a situation where someone informed you of manners that you've never heard of before?

As an example, while eating lunch in the lunch room last week, I blew my nose while eating some very hot and spicy fried rice. Spicy food makes your nose run, and this bowl of awesome actually had me tearing up a bit. It was actually a bit too spicy (seasoned with ghost pepper and naga morich). Anyway I blew my nose and two people looked at me like I'd just stripped naked, danced on the table, and kicked their food in their faces. One girl's words were "I can't believe you just did that. Didn't your parents teach you any manners at all?"

I responded that I'd never heard anything about not blowing your nose at the table, especially when eating spicy foods. Is this some long-standing standard for Americans, or are people being taught to be over-sensitive to stupid things? I specified Americans because my mom was Chinese and was born in China but raised in the US (first generation in the family to speak fluent English without an accent). Maybe I missed a thing or two growing up.

So with that having been said, ever run into unfamiliar manners that were a bit of a surprise to you?
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slurping being good manners when i grew up in japan

thought everyone was crazy af for the first few months
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Gyava wrote:

slurping being good manners when i grew up in japan

thought everyone was crazy af for the first few months


Ha. The same goes for China. Burping to show your appreciation for a good meal is also looked down upon here in the states.
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When I lived in Dallas my first job up there was at a chinese warehouse and being hispanic my mom taught me to always clean my plate.
"waste not want not" The first time my boss invited me to her house to meet her family we had dinner and I finished everything on my plate when my boss husband gave me a look. "could also have been that my boss was in her late twenties and her husband was in his late fifties arrange marriage and I was 20 at the time" Afterwords my boss told me it was considered rude to finish everything on my plate that I should have left a little just to show they served me enough.
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Gyava wrote:

slurping being good manners when i grew up in japan

thought everyone was crazy af for the first few months


I saw the MTV video on that. omg it was so gross. Im so glad they don't do that in anime. ^^

When I was watching GATE, they stopped the nude Rory Mercury from jumping in the hot spring before taking a shower. I was like surprised and instantly thought it was a super good thing. In the US, in public pools or the beach, we don't require people from showering first before going in. IT'S SUCH A GOOD IDEA. I think we should all do this.

Then I asked other Asian people who live in asia, and they were all like, "uh, duh it's customary in most of asia to take showers before going into public bodies of water." And I was like: *dreamy face* "reaaaaaaally?!"

So I've been to water parks, school pools, and beaches in the US. No shower reqs. Idk, maybe hot springs and public pools are different? But either way, let's adopt this Asian cleanliness thing
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Having your elbows on or off the table, don't remember which because it's the dumbest manner I've ever heard.
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Gyava wrote:

slurping being good manners when i grew up in japan

thought everyone was crazy af for the first few months


Lol. I'm so glad I knew this when I visited. The chefs certainly seemed to enjoy it.
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Having your elbows on or off the table, don't remember which because it's the dumbest manner I've ever heard.


off. and it's an American thing. and you should adhere to it... -_-. I mean, if you have to seriously eat with your FULL ARM on the table, idk man how bad can you be at eating...
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Things in Germany I don't have to worry about in the USA (and wish I did):

Arrive 5-10 minutes early. Even a few minutes late can be offensive.
When going over to peoples house on an invite, bring flowers.
Recycling... Germans recycle everything. I had issues even recycling in America.
Nudity, I went nude to saunas all the time. DONT DO THIS IN AMERICA.

These are a few that got me into trouble in the USA. I got fussed at for arriving early and for bringing flowers. Luckily, I knew enough not to try to go nude into a sauna.
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The one I found surprising was wet hair in public. My date apologized for arriving with wet hair, and I had no idea why. I found out later that it's apparently a sign that she didn't spend ample time on her preparations before meeting with me. Even if it's not a date though, some people don't like to see it on anyone in a public setting. Personally, I still wouldn't care either way.
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lambofgenesis wrote:


Gyava wrote:

slurping being good manners when i grew up in japan

thought everyone was crazy af for the first few months


I saw the MTV video on that. omg it was so gross. Im so glad they don't do that in anime. ^^

When I was watching GATE, they stopped the nude Rory Mercury from jumping in the hot spring before taking a shower. I was like surprised and instantly thought it was a super good thing. In the US, in public pools or the beach, we don't require people from showering first before going in. IT'S SUCH A GOOD IDEA. I think we should all do this.

Then I asked other Asian people who live in asia, and they were all like, "uh, duh it's customary in most of asia to take showers before going into public bodies of water." And I was like: *dreamy face* "reaaaaaaally?!"

So I've been to water parks, school pools, and beaches in the US. No shower reqs. Idk, maybe hot springs and public pools are different? But either way, let's adopt this Asian cleanliness thing :D


I always found this odd, I mean every public pool has a damn shower room ya have to pass through before ya even see the pool. I mean how much of a bigger hint do ya need. It's the same in Japan, showers before you even see the hot spring etc.
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Dark_Alma wrote:

Things in Germany I don't have to worry about in the USA (and wish I did):

Arrive 5-10 minutes early. Even a few minutes late can be offensive.


This is offensive in the USA as well. (And a good number of other places, for that matter.)

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I always found this odd, I mean every public pool has a damn shower room ya have to pass through before ya even see the pool. I mean how much of a bigger hint do ya need. It's the same in Japan, showers before you even see the hot spring etc.


I actually always thought that taking a shower before would be counter productive for pools and the beach at least. Because after you go to say the pool you always shower after getting out of the pool. If you showered before it would just be a hassle to shower twice. Not only that if you shower afterwards you should be getting clean from anything so its all good. I do however see why showering before entering a public bath would be a good idea as those things don't have salt, sand, or chlorine in them forcing you to shower afterwards.


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The one I found surprising was wet hair in public. My date apologized for arriving with wet hair, and I had no idea why. I found out later that it's apparently a sign that she didn't spend ample time on her preparations before meeting with me. Even if it's not a date though, some people don't like to see it on anyone in a public setting. Personally, I still wouldn't care either way.


Thats a thing? that is the stupidest custom I have heard yet. Does that apply to just girls or everyone? Like who came up with that, thats one of the weirder customs I have heard of.
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Lukewolf40 wrote:




I actually always thought that taking a shower before would be counter productive for pools and the beach at least. Because after you go to say the pool you always shower after getting out of the pool. If you showered before it would just be a hassle to shower twice. Not only that if you shower afterwards you should be getting clean from anything so its all good. I do however see why showering before entering a public bath would be a good idea as those things don't have salt, sand, or chlorine in them forcing you to shower afterwards.





A hassle really mate? It only takes three minutes to have a shower, three minutes to keep that pool of water tens if not hundreds of people are swimming in clean. Water that is not naturally running like a river, lake, ocean, etc would be. Are you really that lazy?


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