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Posted 11/4/15
Curious in my case it's my ex......since dating her i have dated others and fell inlove but i still have always had feelings for my ex as if i was bound to her or something


She was abusive as she never let me have time with friends she would guilt trip me and make me feel bad.
She even made me ditch a friend by guilt tripping me if i didn't.


This girls and i were dating LDR for 3 years i was just about to visit her in person finally and everything went south.

She wouldn't let me as a guy use pornography and made me feel bad for having what i would class as normal guy thoughts.
I had to lie about liking porn and not use it despite wanting to because i hate being restricted.

This damaged me mentally and i tried to compromise but she would never have it as it would inconvenience her.
This went on for so long that i started to believe my own lies i made just so she wouldn't leave me (as i would have nothing left).

So this kept going on she was all out Abusive and i didn't notice it tell my Psychologist listened to my story and pointed it out.

So i stood up one day and said No this is it i'm sick of being restricted , Guilt tripped made to feel bad for every little thing and everything else she did.

I admitted to liking stuff like porn and tried to sort things out and she said "Either you were lying and we break up now or you don't like it" Another one of her it has to be my way or nothing moments.

So i broke up with this girl went on to cut myself (still have her name scarred into my leg) even tried to commit suicide and got therapy etc.

Now i hate this girl as she took everything from me My friends , My time and she took my love for her and used it so she was happy.

I was always giving and sacrificing and she never did something if it would hurt her.




Anyhow go on about 5 months later i fell inlove with a girl and dated her and well we broke up and are best friends because i wasn't sexually attracted to her but there was a ton of moments where this girl was worried for me.

At one point my friends of now said something sexual but funny and i responded but then the guilt inside of me piled up and i went to my girlfriend and apologized again and again (as i used to have to do) and she was like " and didn't scold me and give me shit for something that wasn't even a big deal but i was used to being hated for.

It was at that point when i realized my ex has screwed me up mentally alot....to the point i struggle to even date now let alone cope in alot of situations.


So after all that you would think i would hate her and i do but.....i still have deep feelings for her and miss her and personally it just kills me inside because i just want her out of my mind and life.

It's hard sometimes just last night i cried myself to sleep and i'm not sure what to do anymore

Has anyone else had/have feelings for someoen who hurt them?
Posted 11/4/15 , edited 11/4/15
You really like the making these touchy threads huh? Lol, Nice status btw too. I'll play RS.
But to be on topic, the last girl I was.. I'm not going to call it dating, it was just a BS online relationship that didn't work out. She cheated on me and I was going to forgive her but she broke up with me a week later lol. Though I don't really give a shit about her anymore but it kind of sucked at the time.
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Posted 11/4/15
Nah, because I'm not pathetic enough to have those sorts of feelings for people.
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Yes.
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Posted 11/4/15

furytime wrote:

You really like the making these touchy threads huh? Lol, Nice status btw too. I'll play RS.
But to be on topic, the last girl I was.. I'm not going to call it dating, it was just a BS online relationship that didn't work out. She cheated on me and I was going to forgive her but she broke up with me a week later lol. Though I don't really give a shit about her anymore but it kind of sucked at the time.



I like making touchy threads as it gets people talking and thinking about there issues and mine
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saksiss wrote:

Nah, because I'm not pathetic enough to have those sorts of feelings for people.


Naaa sooo cute.
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GrandMasterTime wrote:


saksiss wrote:

Nah, because I'm not pathetic enough to have those sorts of feelings for people.


Naaa sooo cute.


So salty. No matter though, it changes nothing.
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Posted 11/5/15

saksiss wrote:


GrandMasterTime wrote:


saksiss wrote:

Nah, because I'm not pathetic enough to have those sorts of feelings for people.


Naaa sooo cute.


So salty. No matter though, it changes nothing.


Did you edit that? top kek. Might give me the pepper, stuff the salt, see you on the flip side.
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Fellow runescaperrrr <3<3<3

On point:
I have mixed emotions about my dad. He left me my brother and my mom for another woman he met online just at the beginning of this year. I hate seeing him when he comes up to see the rest of his side of the family and for holidays and what not but I do want him to live a healthy/happy life all the same. I just don't like the way we were abandoned. What ya gonna do though?
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Posted 11/5/15

GrandMasterTime wrote:


saksiss wrote:


GrandMasterTime wrote:


saksiss wrote:

Nah, because I'm not pathetic enough to have those sorts of feelings for people.


Naaa sooo cute.


So salty. No matter though, it changes nothing.


Did you edit that? top kek. Might give me the pepper, stuff the salt, see you on the flip side.


For some reason, your usage of top kek here made me lol really hard o.O
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No one can hurt me because i never try to appeal to anyone but myself.
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I don't know. I usually leave my feelings for people behind after a month or so. I've never been in an IRL relationship however, so I guess I can't answer what you are asking. I can't pick up what you are putting down. If you understand.
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Posted 11/5/15 , edited 11/5/15
Not at the moment I'm not. I'm very happy in my current relationship.

And as far as girls freaking out because their bf watches porn, I think that's ridiculous.

I'm a girl, and I don't give two shits if my bf watches porn. It's not like he's actually having relations with porn actresses. Not wanting your boyfriend to naturally express his sexuality is a very controlling and psycho thing to do.

I would move way on from this chick, she seems like trouble. It's hard at first, but very possible.

Edit: I want to rephrase that since it sounded a bit insensitive. I know what it's like to continue to feel things for someone, but in the end you need to think about what's best for you and what will ultimately make you happy.
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I used to have feelings for someone who abandoned me, yeah. Piece of shit she is and was, but I did care about her, way too much. Then she switched to being a delusional ass nb sjw, denied being my friend ever, broke me some more- part of me died a bit, but there's nothing I can do.

She's just a ghost in the wind, since she's not even the same person anymore.
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Posted 11/5/15 , edited 11/5/15
Sort of. Sort of not.

I wouldn't mind getting back together with her and she probably feels the same way even though we haven't talked in a while. But you know these things. It's funny how the one I have the most mutual understanding with (and the one I had my best relationship with) is one I'm not hard pressed to chase and who won't chase me.

I won't go out of my way to pursue such an inconvenient relationship and neither will she. So if we find favorable circumstances someday, maybe. But, for now, I'm able to get along and enjoy my life just fine.
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