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I feel that the wound is always still there, just stitched up, ya know. Some stitches hold tighter than others. So it depends on the person, some heal better or faster than others. And if the wound is still some what fresh it can still be easily opened back up.
Also you can grow a callus over some wounds and you grow callous on the inside and become insensitive and cold-hearted. but that is like protective mode.
I feel I am speaking metaphorically, but you get it , right?
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For a mental wound, I'd say that they can take much longer to heal, and can easily have lasting effects. On that note, its easy to see how they could be 're opened' by something triggering, or just by a thought.
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Freddy96NO wrote:


namealreadytaken wrote: the answer is ...depends on the person. ┐( ̄ヘ ̄;)┌
not the answer I am looking for..



I think Freddy96NO means that we are not understanding the question still.


Freddy96NO wrote:
something happend but if there is a high chance of happening agian?


I've given it some thought so I'm going to give my best guess for what the OP's question is. Did you mean:

"If something traumatic or painful happened, is it more likely that the event will happen again?"

Example: A girl is cheated on by her first boyfriend, and as a result of that emotional wound she has a hard time trusting future boyfriends. Because of her emotional baggage she is always suspicious about her boyfriends - does this increase the chance that she will be cheated on again?

Am I close?
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Kitahoshi_Hazel wrote: Am I close?
Close, getting hot in here XP
yeah but something similar yes, so anything to do with emotional "cuts" or phycal that the thoughts, how you maybe act, think and planning on or close to those cuts maybe something around like other people and behavior of it making or doing the same mistakes, gets the same "cuts" agian or is it "if" you are focusing on it that it happends etc.

(hope that was something as one can see I am not good with words) -__-

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Do you English?
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Freddy96NO wrote:Close, getting hot in here XP
yeah but something similar yes, so anything to do with emotional "cuts" or phycal that the thoughts, how you maybe act, think and planning on or close to those cuts maybe something around like other people and behavior of it making or doing the same mistakes, gets the same "cuts" agian or is it "if" you are focusing on it that it happends etc.

(hope that was something as one can see I am not good with words) -__-



I think I get it. You mean like how emotional scars change the way you think or act and you end up being a self-fulfilling prophecy.

My friend introduced me to his girlfriend in high school. She was a very cute girl but she had low self esteem so she would say things like how she wasn't sure why he was dating her and how he was probably going to break up with her. It didn't seem to matter what anyone said to her because her self esteem was a personal problem so she was the only one who could fix it. Inevitably, he broke up with her because she didn't seem to be making any effort about her self esteem problem. I'm sure it only made her self esteem problems worse - she probably thought he was breaking up with her because she wasn't pretty.

"Fake it until you make it" was the phrase I learned in a career research group. It just meant that if you weren't confident about something to the point that you wanted to give up or not even try that you should just pretend that you are confident.
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Sorry...what?
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Kitahoshi_Hazel wrote:


Freddy96NO wrote:Close, getting hot in here XP
yeah but something similar yes, so anything to do with emotional "cuts" or phycal that the thoughts, how you maybe act, think and planning on or close to those cuts maybe something around like other people and behavior of it making or doing the same mistakes, gets the same "cuts" agian or is it "if" you are focusing on it that it happends etc.

(hope that was something as one can see I am not good with words) -__-



I think I get it. You mean like how emotional scars change the way you think or act and you end up being a self-fulfilling prophecy.




Basically why i can't date anymore without worrying that i'm going to be cheated on or abused like the last 6 people i dated did.

Self fulfilling prophecy though? I'll challenge that i may not trust people 100% anymore but that doesn't matter.
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Basically why i can't date anymore without worrying that i'm going to be cheated on or abused like the last 6 people i dated did.

Self fulfilling prophecy though? I'll challenge that i may not trust people 100% anymore but that doesn't matter.


Well, you're not locked into it or anything - you can change. It's just difficult and scary as hell.

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Kitahoshi_Hazel wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:

Basically why i can't date anymore without worrying that i'm going to be cheated on or abused like the last 6 people i dated did.

Self fulfilling prophecy though? I'll challenge that i may not trust people 100% anymore but that doesn't matter.


Well, you're not locked into it or anything - you can change. It's just difficult and scary as hell.



Nah no reason for me to change it just has made me learn to not let my guard down until i'm 110% certain i won't be hurt.
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I better make sure that I have tons of 1ups to lay on the table before opening that particular wound. There are people that just want to check you out and want to know if they're living a better life than you are after cutting that wound.

Stop being polite.
People don't want to see their exes happier than they are.
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Think it varies from person to person, their will and their inner strength.. views and opinions. We each have strengths and weaknesses thus various different realities of life affect us differently.
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I feel that the wound is always still there, just stitched up, ya know. Some stitches hold tighter than others. So it depends on the person, some heal better or faster than others. And if the wound is still some what fresh it can still be easily opened back up.
Also you can grow a callus over some wounds and you grow callous on the inside and become insensitive and cold-hearted. but that is like protective mode.
I feel I am speaking metaphorically, but you get it , right?


Some jobs though you have to be callous. (E.g., Doctors, nurses, etc)
You don't want an EMT always in emotional shock when tending patients/clients or they'll die.
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You're talking about how people become traumatized and develop phobias in response to trauma. Both of those things are completely real.

All that mental wounds are is a sudden and harsh learning experience that left the psyche unable to cope normally and affected its usual behavior. We only define mental problems as behaviors outside of social norms, so its a gray area.

Lack of emotion, or when people don't seem to care, could be either nihilistic or sociopathic (depending on behavior) and can reveal itself when someone's reaction is the exact opposite of experiencing trauma. So yeah, some people become traumatized and fear things that have hurt them in the past, while others don't care at all. Healthy people can react normally when presented with something that traumatized them, but inside your mind a mental wound can never "be cured" (I think some people were already getting at that idea) .
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Insanerino wrote: You're talking about how people become traumatized and develop phobias in response to trauma.
Lack of emotion, or when people don't seem to care, could be either nihilistic or sociopathic (depending on behavior) and can reveal itself when someone's reaction is the exact opposite of experiencing trauma. So yeah, some people become traumatized and fear things that have hurt them in the past, while others don't care at all. but inside your mind a mental wound can never "be cured"
well thats one way to make it happend agian.

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