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Post Reply question - Do you think controlling someone is a way of caring about them?
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there is a lot of people asking me about controling girl in her life . my answer is yes i think its nice just to see that the man care about her and want her to do the right thing , what do you think about it ?
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Not really sure what your question is...
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You know a controlling girl in real life and you want to know what to do about it?


I've had two controlling sisters for the 19 years I've been on the planet and the best answer is to find someone willing to look past that.
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breathe93 wrote:

there is a lot of people asking me about controling girl in her life . my answer is yes i think its nice just to see that the man care about her and want her to do the right thing , what do you think about it ?


Like others I'm not entirely sure what the question is,but I think you are asking if it's okay for someone to control another person (in this case a man controlling a girl.)

I think it's okay to to have conversations with others about what they do and the choices they make and to share opinions about that. I think it's also okay to encourage others, especially those you care about, to do the things you believe are the right things.

But "control" suggests something stronger than that, and I'm generally not okay with people exerting "control" over other people. It implies not letting the other person have/use much will of their own, and that can be really creepy when overdone.

It's a little different if we're talking about young children--it often makes sense for those who care for a child to exercise some control over them, but part of helping someone grow up is to give up that control over time so that as teens and adults they learn how to use self-control effectively.
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lorreen wrote:


breathe93 wrote:

there is a lot of people asking me about controling girl in her life . my answer is yes i think its nice just to see that the man care about her and want her to do the right thing , what do you think about it ?


Like others I'm not entirely sure what the question is,but I think you are asking if it's okay for someone to control another person (in this case a man controlling a girl.)

I think it's okay to to have conversations with others about what they do and the choices they make and to share opinions about that. I think it's also okay to encourage others, especially those you care about, to do the things you believe are the right things.

But "control" suggests something stronger than that, and I'm generally not okay with people exerting "control" over other people. It implies not letting the other person have/use much will of their own, and that can be really creepy when overdone.

It's a little different if we're talking about young children--it often makes sense for those who care for a child to exercise some control over them, but part of helping someone grow up is to give up that control over time so that as teens and adults they learn how to use self-control effectively.



for me i see control its good as being good with someone not to be bad . like i had a lot of friends who like to control their love but as a good way and when i ask some of my friends they told me it show as respect and to be better person in good way for sure however with control a girl some take it very badly which make people get scared to be someone like that.
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Do you mean that you like a guy to treat you mean to keep you keen?
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breathe93 wrote: for me i see control its good as being good with someone not to be bad . like i had a lot of friends who like to control their love but as a good way and when i ask some of my friends they told me it show as respect and to be better person in good way for sure however with control a girl some take it very badly which make people get scared to be someone like that.
You mean similar as to a "slave" then I would say its both maybe fun and "good" but a lot of restricted mindset, less freedom and control or learning capabilites to get a higher educated job.

So a bit like Jersey shore? (or should I say Jer say Hore) -__-

Then agian if its more she is more bitchy and stuff then sure why not have some "collar" around her? ... *hugs* or *kisses while holding her up to the wall* .... *calmed down* (as long its not a bad behind it using it for something.. hmm...)


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breathe93 wrote: for me i see control its good as being good with someone not to be bad . like i had a lot of friends who like to control their love but as a good way and when i ask some of my friends they told me it show as respect and to be better person in good way for sure however with control a girl some take it very badly which make people get scared to be someone like that.
You mean similar as to a "slave" then I would say its both maybe fun and "good" but a lot of restricted mindset, less freedom and control or learning capabilites to get a higher educated job.

So a bit like Jersey shore? (or should I say Jer say Hore) -__-

Then agian if its more she is more bitchy and stuff then sure why not have some "collar" around her? ... *hugs* or *kisses while holding her up to the wall* .... *calmed down* (as long its not a bad behind it using it for something.. hmm...)





no i don't think like a slave, cuz slave its so different from being control like control " in good way " i think hhhhh
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MrAnimeSK wrote:

Do you mean that you like a guy to treat you mean to keep you keen?



no i don't like mean to be good with me and treat me good
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potentsativa wrote:

Not really sure what your question is...



its okay now with people answering i get confused so no need hhhhh
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breathe93 wrote: no i don't think like a slave, cuz slave its so different from being control like control " in good way " i think hhhhh
Oh so you mean who is in control? like who is going to have the control?
or is it about controlling a girl?


breathe93 wrote: no i don't like mean to be good with me and treat me good
First of all you can edit your stuff and make then into 1 qoute insted of multiple like this^ above.
So a bit like this? gentle but also dominance over all?


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Posted 11/15/15
Everyone can succumb to doubt about their partner and their relationship's status, and that is when some reassurance can go a long way in securing the relationship, but a compromise cannot be made if the person who needs reassurance fail to be aware and honest about what they need and attempts to control their partner, or if the person who is asked reassurance of fail to understand that they are partially responsible for their partner's emotional well-being and invalidates them.
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breathe93 wrote: no i don't think like a slave, cuz slave its so different from being control like control " in good way " i think hhhhh
Oh so you mean who is in control? like who is going to have the control?
or is it about controlling a girl?


breathe93 wrote: no i don't like mean to be good with me and treat me good
First of all you can edit your stuff and make then into 1 qoute insted of multiple like this^ above.
So a bit like this? gentle but also dominance over all?


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secondly i don't know how to do it
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breathe93 wrote:
secondly i don't know how to do it
in the top of your post press "edit" in yellow text and copy and paste what you have written below into it and delete the other post)

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okay thanx
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