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Posted 11/15/15 , edited 11/15/15

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My best friends boyfriend doesn't let her do anything without him knowing about it, the rare times we get to hang out she's constantly texting him and barely pays attention to me.


I have a friend who's gf acts like your friend's boyfriend. And when we hang out we'll still have fun and pay attention but she makes this rule where he HAS to call at specific times everyday, so if she hears me during those times or he calls later than usual, she'd get mad and blame things on us both and not want him to hang out with me lol


Sounds like a fascist. Who would want to be in a relationship like that?
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Ruby804b wrote:


TrickedMJ wrote:


xnightravenx wrote:

My best friends boyfriend doesn't let her do anything without him knowing about it, the rare times we get to hang out she's constantly texting him and barely pays attention to me.


I have a friend who's gf acts like your friend's boyfriend. And when we hang out we'll still have fun and pay attention but she makes this rule where he HAS to call at specific times everyday, so if she hears me during those times or he calls later than usual, she'd get mad and blame things on us both and not want him to hang out with me lol


Sounds like a fascist. Who would want to be in a relationship like that?


He doesn't like that shit but they've been together for years and he thinks if it can turn out right in the end it shouldn't be a problem to stay.
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Posted 11/15/15

TrickedMJ

He doesn't like that shit but they've been together for years and he thinks if it can turn out right in the end it shouldn't be a problem to stay.


Uhg, that's the worst, when people have been in a relationship for so long they start thinking, "Well, I don't want to have wasted all this time with them, maybe it will work out!" Instead of cutting it and moving on with their lives. Sad, really..
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Ruby804b wrote:


TrickedMJ

He doesn't like that shit but they've been together for years and he thinks if it can turn out right in the end it shouldn't be a problem to stay.


Uhg, that's the worst, when people have been in a relationship for so long they start thinking, "Well, I don't want to have wasted all this time with them, maybe it will work out!" Instead of cutting it and moving on with their lives. Sad, really..


I agree, but he hates hearing that he should cut her off, he's in denial about these things at times. It is truly sad, but some people don't want to end things themselves, so they'll either endure it and be miserable or the other person will end it and they'll feel bad for not ending it earlier and going through all the useless pain.
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My sister used to have that issue. She didn't trust her boyfriend and she was always looking through his phone to see if he was cheating. She would get all huffy if he wanted to hang out etc.

My parents stepped in and said "Your relationship will die if you keep this up." It took a while, but she fixed it.

On my end... I wouldn't be able to survive in a relationship without my alone time. Probably too much alone time. One reason I am still single and no interest in relationships.

Also, @Ruby this is much more common than you would like to think. I know couples in their 30's who have this issue, all the way down to middle school. It is a horrifying trend. #FreeTheMen(or Girls).
Posted 11/15/15 , edited 11/15/15
If it's literally just because there partner said that they can't then it's a sign of relationship problems, I see it as being a unhealthy subservient relationship that I look at as unsavory. It's something entirely different if they can elaborate as to why or if the reason is because of more private matters. If it's the former I would address it to my friend since it's a sign of a healthy relationship, while the latter is understood.
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Unhealthy dependency. Either there are issues with control in general, or the person forbidding their partner has some deep-seeded problems with feeling secure. I have been on both sides of that coin, and neither are great places to be.
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GF won't ;et you chill with your mates, get a new gf
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If both parts are like that, then I see no issue with it. But if it is only one sided then that will end up with problems over time. Probably should give your partner some freedom and trust! If you do not trust them, how is that a relationship??
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Ruby804b wrote:


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You sure this guy's not using this as an excuse not to hang out with you?


If anything I spend too much time with people I'm in romantic relationships with. Sometimes I wish everyone would just take off and do something on their own so I can have personal time. ^^


I think this generation is too connected by cellphones, plus, when i was in high school tinder wasn't a thing.

girls have more to fear because boys have more to cheat on them with,
boys have more to fear because there are more things girls can use to cheat on them with.

as a result, they are both crippled by paranoia.

this is not true for everyone, but I'm sure a lot of kids in high school are dramatically attached to their phones.
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If you're afraid that the person you're with is going to cheat on you, then you obviously don't trust the person at all, so why be with them?
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I agree with you that it's stupid.
I'll laugh in his face if I ever have a boyfriend who didn't let me speak or hang out with my friends.
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My ex was clingy and possesive and manipulative and wouldn't let me hang with my friends without guilt tripping me.

DO NOT RECOMMEND ...atleast no the manipulative part.

being clingy and possessive isn't bad aslong as they let you have your friend time
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Ruby804b wrote:

If you're afraid that the person you're with is going to cheat on you, then you obviously don't trust the person at all, so why be with them?


According to this logic i should never date ever because after 6+ cheaters i now fear my SO cheating on me in every relationship.
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Posted 11/15/15

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Ruby804b wrote:

If you're afraid that the person you're with is going to cheat on you, then you obviously don't trust the person at all, so why be with them?


According to this logic i should never date ever because after 6+ cheaters i now fear my SO cheating on me in every relationship.



Pretty much! You need to deal with your own insecurities first, then worry about trying to have a relationship with someone you can trust.
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