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Well, I went through an abusive hell, for about ten years, and to an extent also have trauma and mental scars from it, but yeah, I understand, I hate people who try and use "I have ______" as an excuse for being an utter ass. If a mental issue or trauma dictates that much of your personality and mannerisms, to the point where you're abusive or just plain rude to yourself and others, then get help, don't just sit on the sidelines and try and justify it. The sad thing is that I used to be like that once, and I look back and realize how selfish I was and its almost nauseating that I was that type of person.

And if you don't have a certain disorder and/or trauma and are blatantly lying about it for pity points, you're garbage.

One of my rivals/enemies/general lolcow subjects is like this. She's now claiming to be a rape and childhood sexual abuse victim with six comorbid personality disorders and other disorders for the sake of "look at me, look at me", when I told her specifically I was abused emotionally / physically / mentally / psychologically for 10 yrs my mother back when we were friends and she claimed she had very affluent parents and family who'd never abused her once, only claiming that she had a bad online, like, completely online relationship with some chick named "Laura". So now she's up to her nose in fabrication and outright fibbing, some of which mimics my old bad behavior. So yeah, there's personal connotations as to why people of that sort disgust me as well.
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I'm a person with a mental disability and a whole lot of medical problems, but I pick myself up and move forward. I am a IT Specialist and I am quite good at the position. Many people cannot do what I do, but last week I was just in the hospital because of one of my medical conditions. They had to pump my stomach and bowels out through my nose. I know that sounds disgusting but it is how they deal with one of my conditions when it gets bad. I look at it this way. Shit happens and move on with your life. Both of my conditions can kill me quite quick. Funny thing is my mental disability, which is not as bad anymore because of my other conditions being treated, is not what puts me in the hospital and is not what could kill me. It is only what makes it harder for me to hold down a job over extended periods of time. I do not expect anything from anybody but I get everything in return. Actually I try to show my gratitude for the help I am getting by helping others that have problems and I am not talking about only people with disabilities. If I die tomorrow, then I can die with a smile on my face and that is how I want to go out. In all reality I feel I put too much of a burden on society because of how much my treatment costs. I have in the past felt like ending it all, however that is too easy and that would not be what everybody would want and that deep down is not what I want. How could I pay back my debt? My answer is to move forward, treat others with respect, and get stronger. This is something we can all follow. Live life to the fullest when we have the chance to, since our light can flicker out quite quick.


So I say cheers and happy anime watching to you all.

Anybody know of a good new anime that is like Naruto or Bleach and that is funny?


Yo buddy. I got lab in the mornin' but I'll take a shot for yah. Cheers. I wish you the best and anyone else dealin' with tough shit.

Magi. It's right up your alley.


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mjtyson1984 wrote:

I'm a person with a mental disability and a whole lot of medical problems, but I pick myself up and move forward. I am a IT Specialist and I am quite good at the position. Many people cannot do what I do, but last week I was just in the hospital because of one of my medical conditions. They had to pump my stomach and bowels out through my nose. I know that sounds disgusting but it is how they deal with one of my conditions when it gets bad. I look at it this way. Shit happens and move on with your life. Both of my conditions can kill me quite quick. Funny thing is my mental disability, which is not as bad anymore because of my other conditions being treated, is not what puts me in the hospital and is not what could kill me. It is only what makes it harder for me to hold down a job over extended periods of time. I do not expect anything from anybody but I get everything in return. Actually I try to show my gratitude for the help I am getting by helping others that have problems and I am not talking about only people with disabilities. If I die tomorrow, then I can die with a smile on my face and that is how I want to go out. In all reality I feel I put too much of a burden on society because of how much my treatment costs. I have in the past felt like ending it all, however that is too easy and that would not be what everybody would want and that deep down is not what I want. How could I pay back my debt? My answer is to move forward, treat others with respect, and get stronger. This is something we can all follow. Live life to the fullest when we have the chance to, since our light can flicker out quite quick.


So I say cheers and happy anime watching to you all.

Anybody know of a good new anime that is like Naruto or Bleach and that is funny?


At least you're trying to stay positive about it, a lot of people would give up if placed in those situations.
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People that use their disabilities or pasts as crutches


*Cough!*Professional Victims!*Cough!*

I have tons of problems, but they'd be too many to list.... Okay, since you asked!

I used to have a eating disorder, I would eat too little because I would obsess over my weight(I was slightly over average for a Korean girl my age), right now, I rest at a healthy weight over the average Korean girl, but I'm mixed, so fuck those standards.

I've been diagnosed as a sociopath whenever I watched preventable causes happen, such as my boss getting fired(knowing he had to pay child support), I left my mother on her death bed(I didn't know or care at the time) for petty reasons, I told my youngest sister she'd be better off in a ditch, etc. I still don't think I was a sociopath, and I honestly remember posting numerous topics whining about everything on here.



Right now, I'm at a weird point in time where mental and light physical abuse interests me, whenever people degrade me or insult me(or attempt too), it makes me actually be around them more. Derogatory names like "whore" "slut" "chink" or just openly misogynist men are of interest to me.

Strange thing is, there was a guy on one of my topics hinting at that I was a psychotic crazy bitch. I still don't think that's true, but maybe I seem weird to other people? I don't know.

So yeah, I got lots of "problems", especially since I rather hang around misogynists than western women in general.
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Well, I went through an abusive hell, for about ten years, and to an extent also have trauma and mental scars from it, but yeah, I understand, I hate people who try and use "I have ______" as an excuse for being an utter ass. If a mental issue or trauma dictates that much of your personality and mannerisms, to the point where you're abusive or just plain rude to yourself and others, then get help, don't just sit on the sidelines and try and justify it. The sad thing is that I used to be like that once, and I look back and realize how selfish I was and its almost nauseating that I was that type of person.

And if you don't have a certain disorder and/or trauma and are blatantly lying about it for pity points, you're garbage.

One of my rivals/enemies/general lolcow subjects is like this. She's now claiming to be a rape and childhood sexual abuse victim with six comorbid personality disorders and other disorders for the sake of "look at me, look at me", when I told her specifically I was abused emotionally / physically / mentally / psychologically for 10 yrs my mother back when we were friends and she claimed she had very affluent parents and family who'd never abused her once, only claiming that she had a bad online, like, completely online relationship with some chick named "Laura". So now she's up to her nose in fabrication and outright fibbing, some of which mimics my old bad behavior. So yeah, there's personal connotations as to why people of that sort disgust me as well.


Good thing you've moved on from that, and people that lie about disorders are just, ugh... I've also met people who claim they're rape victims for attention and pity and they just use it to their advantage, I don't have as much of a personal reason to hate it as you do, but I think it's pathetic nonetheless
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animegirl2222 wrote:

Well, I went through an abusive hell, for about ten years, and to an extent also have trauma and mental scars from it, but yeah, I understand, I hate people who try and use "I have ______" as an excuse for being an utter ass. If a mental issue or trauma dictates that much of your personality and mannerisms, to the point where you're abusive or just plain rude to yourself and others, then get help, don't just sit on the sidelines and try and justify it. The sad thing is that I used to be like that once, and I look back and realize how selfish I was and its almost nauseating that I was that type of person.

And if you don't have a certain disorder and/or trauma and are blatantly lying about it for pity points, you're garbage.

One of my rivals/enemies/general lolcow subjects is like this. She's now claiming to be a rape and childhood sexual abuse victim with six comorbid personality disorders and other disorders for the sake of "look at me, look at me", when I told her specifically I was abused emotionally / physically / mentally / psychologically for 10 yrs my mother back when we were friends and she claimed she had very affluent parents and family who'd never abused her once, only claiming that she had a bad online, like, completely online relationship with some chick named "Laura". So now she's up to her nose in fabrication and outright fibbing, some of which mimics my old bad behavior. So yeah, there's personal connotations as to why people of that sort disgust me as well.


Good thing you've moved on from that, and people that lie about disorders are just, ugh... I've also met people who claim they're rape victims for attention and pity and they just use it to their advantage, I don't have as much of a personal reason to hate it as you do, but I think it's pathetic nonetheless



I'm mainly angry because as an abuse victim she took some of the components about abusive parents and is now trying to claim her's are abusive or something now. She's completely out of control in general, though, I read something on her blog about her scratching and biting her mom, which is just ridiculous. She's rich, her parents are sending her to therapy, and they apparently ground her and whatnot occasionally, and also do stuff that almost seems rewarding on the opposite of the pole like let her take lavish trips to tour India/Thailand with her mother, which is freaking weird. Her parents seem to be generally annoyed with her attention seeking ways but only do a little to help her. Really my conclusion is that she's an entitled little brat who tries to oppress or make herself seem disabled in order to try and prove that she's anything but an NY trustfund kid of average intellect, and it tends to somehow get people on her side to claim that she's sooooooo oppressed. I don't understand HOW she does it, but she does. Even if her supporters are likeminded middle to upper class kids with special snowflake disorder, she has a lot of them. Kind of makes me lose faith in kids nowadays seeing how they act. 17 and she acts 11-12.

At this point I think she's subconsciously doing things for attention, and that it's almost melded with her preexisting personality. That in itself could be considered some kind of unspecificied issue, but at the same time, I have no empathy for her because she basically devalued me and made me feel like crap in my time of need, among other things. We weren't very friendly to each other even as friends, it was kind of two faced and distrusting all around. So really, I'm kind of sad for her, but at the same time she is an attention seeking pile of steaming filth who pisses me off. Karma, one day, will bite her in the buttocks. I look forward to that.
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you can't hit them or do anything else



since when is it okay to just go and hit some one? WTF dude? is that how you were raised?

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TrickedMJ wrote:
you can't hit them or do anything else



since when is it okay to just go and hit some one? WTF dude? is that how you were raised?



Dude if someone is acting like a bitch and talking reckless to you, its totally okay to punch them in the throat.
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TrickedMJ wrote:
you can't hit them or do anything else



since when is it okay to just go and hit some one? WTF dude? is that how you were raised?



It was obviously just an example, and it should also be obvious I wasn't talking about me not being able to hit people, just a general "You can't do anything about me doing this to you because I'm impaired" or whatever. Were you raised to make such false assumptions before asking if that's what a person thinks?
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animegirl2222 wrote:


TrickedMJ wrote:


animegirl2222 wrote:

Well, I went through an abusive hell, for about ten years, and to an extent also have trauma and mental scars from it, but yeah, I understand, I hate people who try and use "I have ______" as an excuse for being an utter ass. If a mental issue or trauma dictates that much of your personality and mannerisms, to the point where you're abusive or just plain rude to yourself and others, then get help, don't just sit on the sidelines and try and justify it. The sad thing is that I used to be like that once, and I look back and realize how selfish I was and its almost nauseating that I was that type of person.

And if you don't have a certain disorder and/or trauma and are blatantly lying about it for pity points, you're garbage.

One of my rivals/enemies/general lolcow subjects is like this. She's now claiming to be a rape and childhood sexual abuse victim with six comorbid personality disorders and other disorders for the sake of "look at me, look at me", when I told her specifically I was abused emotionally / physically / mentally / psychologically for 10 yrs my mother back when we were friends and she claimed she had very affluent parents and family who'd never abused her once, only claiming that she had a bad online, like, completely online relationship with some chick named "Laura". So now she's up to her nose in fabrication and outright fibbing, some of which mimics my old bad behavior. So yeah, there's personal connotations as to why people of that sort disgust me as well.


Good thing you've moved on from that, and people that lie about disorders are just, ugh... I've also met people who claim they're rape victims for attention and pity and they just use it to their advantage, I don't have as much of a personal reason to hate it as you do, but I think it's pathetic nonetheless



I'm mainly angry because as an abuse victim she took some of the components about abusive parents and is now trying to claim her's are abusive or something now. She's completely out of control in general, though, I read something on her blog about her scratching and biting her mom, which is just ridiculous. She's rich, her parents are sending her to therapy, and they apparently ground her and whatnot occasionally, and also do stuff that almost seems rewarding on the opposite of the pole like let her take lavish trips to tour India/Thailand with her mother, which is freaking weird. Her parents seem to be generally annoyed with her attention seeking ways but only do a little to help her. Really my conclusion is that she's an entitled little brat who tries to oppress or make herself seem disabled in order to try and prove that she's anything but an NY trustfund kid of average intellect, and it tends to somehow get people on her side to claim that she's sooooooo oppressed. I don't understand HOW she does it, but she does. Even if her supporters are likeminded middle to upper class kids with special snowflake disorder, she has a lot of them. Kind of makes me lose faith in kids nowadays seeing how they act. 17 and she acts 11-12.

At this point I think she's subconsciously doing things for attention, and that it's almost melded with her preexisting personality. That in itself could be considered some kind of unspecificied issue, but at the same time, I have no empathy for her because she basically devalued me and made me feel like crap in my time of need, among other things. We weren't very friendly to each other even as friends, it was kind of two faced and distrusting all around. So really, I'm kind of sad for her, but at the same time she is an attention seeking pile of steaming filth who pisses me off. Karma, one day, will bite her in the buttocks. I look forward to that.


*Sigh* people are so hopeless, she'll get her karma forsure though.
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TrickedMJ wrote:
you can't hit them or do anything else



since when is it okay to just go and hit some one? WTF dude? is that how you were raised?



I will say this, if someone does something big to me, they're getting fucked up, does that answer your question in any way?
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TrickedMJ wrote:


nemoskull wrote:


TrickedMJ wrote:
you can't hit them or do anything else



since when is it okay to just go and hit some one? WTF dude? is that how you were raised?



It was obviously just an example, and it should also be obvious I wasn't talking about me not being able to hit people, just a general "You can't do anything about me doing this to you because I'm impaired" or whatever. Were you raised to make such false assumptions before asking if that's what a person thinks?


false assumptions? i was just going off of what YOU wrote. not my problem if you got it wrong dude.
im not here to argue with kids. later man.
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nemoskull wrote:


TrickedMJ wrote:


nemoskull wrote:


TrickedMJ wrote:
you can't hit them or do anything else



since when is it okay to just go and hit some one? WTF dude? is that how you were raised?



It was obviously just an example, and it should also be obvious I wasn't talking about me not being able to hit people, just a general "You can't do anything about me doing this to you because I'm impaired" or whatever. Were you raised to make such false assumptions before asking if that's what a person thinks?


false assumptions? i was just going off of what YOU wrote. not my problem if you got it wrong dude.
im not here to argue with kids. later man.


But when did I explicitly put, "I believe it's okay to randomly hit people"? Lol, adios.
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nemoskull wrote:


TrickedMJ wrote:
you can't hit them or do anything else



since when is it okay to just go and hit some one? WTF dude? is that how you were raised?



Dude if someone is acting like a bitch and talking reckless to you, its totally okay to punch them in the throat.



Yeah, it's a little thing called self defense.
Hell, if my mother tried and lay punches and other assaults on me, which beleive me, she used to, in that context I basically forced myself to fight back. If someone ends up in a situation where someone is hurting them, by all means, verbally, or if you have to, physically tell them off.

There was literally a time where I thought it was okay for my crazy ass abuser to drag me by my hair, until I got older and realized that by all means I could FUCKING FIGHT BACK.

Obviously retaliation against someone who's hurting you shouldn't go Too Far, or else you could be stuck with the blame, but yeah, defend yourself if you have to to the best of your ability if it gets a terrible person off your back. Nobody stuck in a bad relationship; be it romantic, familial, or friendship, should have to deal with abuse at the hands of their relation.
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dragontackle wrote:


nemoskull wrote:


TrickedMJ wrote:
you can't hit them or do anything else



since when is it okay to just go and hit some one? WTF dude? is that how you were raised?



Dude if someone is acting like a bitch and talking reckless to you, its totally okay to punch them in the throat.


Eh, talking reckless, it'll take a lot of that soley for me to punch you. But acting like a bitch while doing that, most likely. Depending on what you mean by acting like a bitch. For example, I knew this dude, who just had broken legs, and he'd throw basketballs at people and because he was crippled he thought no one would hurt him. Doing that to me, yea, he'd get hurt.

P.S. when his legs healed a shit ton of people fucked him up
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