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Post Reply Being "yourself" doesn't work?
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well idk about all that but in both business and personal life being yourself usually isn't the way to go haha
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I don't see the benefits of being a faker, but if you yourself sucks in some ways, I'd advise change, so that yourself is more attractive to women or men.
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Nah, it's probably because you're going after the wrong type of women.

If you are not a very physically attractive person and you want someone who is "out of your league", you have to compensate by having fame and/or fortune. If you're a very attractive person, you'll be able to attract other attractive people without the financial assets.

Studies have shown that humans look for someone who is in the same league as them, physically. So if you rate yourself a 4 out of 10, you'll likely end up with someone in the 3-5 range.

So...if you want a girlfriend or boyfriend, don't aim for the stars and expect someone who looks like Beyoncé.





ayesharocks wrote:

I mean try to be your BEST self is a better saying to use. If you're a messy eater, try to eat more cleanly and such.


This is probably the most useful advice you are gonna get if you actually want a girl that will like you for you.
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How to get a(higher than trash) quality girl.

1. Work out. Don't be a fat bastard and hope your "charms" work.

2. Don't be a mangina, look your best, ignore her shit tests, tease her, etc. don't be afraid to do stuff she might not understand.

3. Do not buy/reward her unless she gives you what you want. Whether that's a kiss, a blowjob, doesn't matter. Shit ain't cheap, make her get a job.

4. Dress like you have lots of money.

5. Have other girls around you, chicks are competitive by nature.

That's my guide to getting a girl. And yes, she will be hot.

If you're looking to meet your reflection, as in an anime nerd, a shut in type girl than there's no way to do that.

Also, talk kinda loud in public areas, it makes you seem alpha.

There you go, rinse and repeat, go to places. And most important rule is not to snap back into a simp mangina/beta male,

Not that you're either one of those things, of course. Well, there we go.
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Posted 11/19/15

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byClear wrote:


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I have and it has never gotten me anywhere with any girl. The truth is, it's all about looks initially>money to show off I.e a cool car to pick the girl up in>personality/game.

I got lucky with the car part and that's how Iv had my success. You'd think being an A student would make you very attractive to woman but clearly that is not the case in America. But my advice? Get money, get new clothes, car, and whatever it is these girls drool over and you will have what you seek. Guys who have lots of money are the ones who told me this is the way, and they could not have been more right.


What is it, "Money Talks" haha

If a girl finds one thing about you that makes you seem remotely rich, then your suddenly way more attractive.
honey youre 16

are you telling me the only reason why the boys in your grade are in a relationship is because of their lunch money?


You'd be surprised by how much money some highschoolers have, lmao.
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All "be yourself" really means is "enjoy being single until you find the rare person that likes you for you."
If you try to be someone else to get into a relationship, do you really think that relationship is going to end well? Do you think you'll be happier being someone fake, and being with someone who doesn't like the real you, or would you be happier being single, but being true to yourself? Like seriously. Stop weighing your value by your love life. Faking it to find a partner is essentially just trying to get laid, and if that's all you want, there are plenty of prostitutes and plenty of bars. Unless you live in a small town. Then you're SOL
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Posted 11/19/15

FlyinDumpling wrote:


byClear wrote:


descloud wrote:

I have and it has never gotten me anywhere with any girl. The truth is, it's all about looks initially>money to show off I.e a cool car to pick the girl up in>personality/game.

I got lucky with the car part and that's how Iv had my success. You'd think being an A student would make you very attractive to woman but clearly that is not the case in America. But my advice? Get money, get new clothes, car, and whatever it is these girls drool over and you will have what you seek. Guys who have lots of money are the ones who told me this is the way, and they could not have been more right.


What is it, "Money Talks" haha

If a girl finds one thing about you that makes you seem remotely rich, then your suddenly way more attractive.
honey youre 16

are you telling me the only reason why the boys in your grade are in a relationship is because of their lunch money?


Well if they're buying filet mignon for lunch then probably yes
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You'd be surprised by how much money some highschoolers have, lmao.


Indeed, when I was in high school I used to make at most a hundred dollars a week selling junk food and soda. Since our government started taking away all our snacks because we were too "fat" I decided to step in and sell junk food I got a lot of respect for it.
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I've never found myself having to change my personality or anything with my girlfriend over the year I've known her. Honestly if someone doesn't like me by the way I already am, no matter if it's a girl who likes me or someone who wants to be my friend, they can just screw off because I'm not changing myself for their own satisfaction. I just happen to have a REALLY open girl which is nice (except she won't let me fart around her :()
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BradleyDMC wrote:

All "be yourself" really means is "enjoy being single until you find the rare person that likes you for you."
If you try to be someone else to get into a relationship, do you really think that relationship is going to end well? Do you think you'll be happier being someone fake, and being with someone who doesn't like the real you, or would you be happier being single, but being true to yourself? Like seriously. Stop weighing your value by your love life. Faking it to find a partner is essentially just trying to get laid, and if that's all you want, there are plenty of prostitutes and plenty of bars. Unless you live in a small town. Then you're SOL


This guy knows his sh*t ^
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I've never really had a girlfriend although the general consensus is that I'm cute? if I do my hair I could turn a few heads...
I guess I just don't try though, the guys at work told me some girl will come along and she won't leave you alone. lol
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TrickedMJ wrote:

You'd be surprised by how much money some highschoolers have, lmao.


Indeed, when I was in high school I used to make at most a hundred dollars a week selling junk food and soda. Since our government started taking away all our snacks because we were too "fat" I decided to step in and sell junk food I got a lot of respect for it.


ha I knew a kid like that, the teachers tried to stop him but then they just ignored it. He made a lot of money selling soda and energy drinks.
at some point he moved onto to illegal things
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Not being yourself is worse advice.

My double cousin once gave me advice to get a boyfriend when I was younger.

"Be yourself, but like, talk about stuff that guy's like! Not your video game stuff or anime, that's kind of just whatever. You were in colorguard right? That's hot!"

"Yeah like 3-4 years ago and I dropped out because I couldn't stand women."

"Well talk about that like colorguard and music and stuff."

My face was so contorted at this point I was about ready to spit out my drink on her face.

It's shit advice.

Years later she's been through 7-8 boyfriends. She's on her third Matt. I was tempted to greet him at our last family party like "Wow! Another Matt huh? She must really like Matt's." I didn't do it because she'd probably hit me, lmao.

I've had one and he's my absolute addiction.

I've come to the conclusion that it's better to be alone than to change yourself to find a bitch. If it happens great. If you aren't yourself, you're just going to waste your fucking time with a fuckwit that ain't give two shits for you and you'll break up in a couple months or years.

You're not wasting time by being yourself. You're saving yourself time from dating chicks that aren't going to last.

My advice? Don't do shit you wouldn't do, but feel free to put yourself out there. Be honest from the start about who you are and what you want from a relationship and you'll save yourself a fuckton of time.

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Posted 11/19/15

stoner789 wrote:


Somewhat_Insane_Monkey wrote:


TrickedMJ wrote:

You'd be surprised by how much money some highschoolers have, lmao.


Indeed, when I was in high school I used to make at most a hundred dollars a week selling junk food and soda. Since our government started taking away all our snacks because we were too "fat" I decided to step in and sell junk food I got a lot of respect for it.


ha I knew a kid like that, the teachers tried to stop him but then they just ignored it. He made a lot of money selling soda and energy drinks.
at some point he moved onto to illegal things


I never went that far and I wouldn't have since I don't do anything illegal but even if I did I still wouldn't do it. I didn't grow up in a nice neighborhood and probably would have gotten shot if I tried since I would be considered competition.
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Posted 11/19/15
Being yourself might not necessarily be what everyone wants, but it is still the best option. If you and try and be whatever you think most people would want, then whoever you end up with isn't really worth having. They haven't fallen for you, they've fallen for the person you were pretending to be.

I would still advise everyone to be themselves. It might not make dating easier...might even make it harder, but the result in the end will be better.
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