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Post Reply Being "yourself" doesn't work?
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Well I mean, if you can always improve yourself in anyway, improve yourself. And don't do it for girls or anybody, they'll just naturally come to you, do that shit for yourself. If you have to change yourself to people's standards, you're gonna hate yourself sooner or later. Gotta be happy with yourself before being happy with someone else namsayin?

And being myself has always worked for me. Long story short, idgaf what anybody thinks about me, I work hard trying to improve myself and because of that I'm the person I am today, with a group of awesome, chill, loyal, childhood friends and many opportunities coming my way.
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"Ladies, what type of "yourself" do you look for the most in guys?"

Just. Be. Yourself.

Also, I don't think you should over think this. It weeds out all the women that don't like you for who you are. You shouldn't want to be with women who like the "fake" you anyway.
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Being myself has always worked for me. Although I can't imagine why. I'm an asshole and I turn down everyone.
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Ruby804b wrote:


Magical-Soul wrote:


Ruby804b wrote:


PrinceJudar wrote:


Ruby804b wrote:

If an older woman in a fancy vehicle pulled over and asked you if you wanted to have meaningless sex, I bet you'd be a slut, too.


Actually no. I never cared for money or looks or that sort of shit. I'm a virgin by choice and for good reason.



What reason is that?


Abstinence for marriage, I would guess. I wish I still had my virginity...


Maybe you can help me understand why being a virgin is important to people?


For most girls, it's a religious/ideological upbringing that sex belongs to a single committed partner. The very popular and successful pair bond mating strategy we all know and "love", called monogamy. It's the belief that they're "giving" their virginity as a symbol of commitment/love/etc.

For me, it's not an ideological or religious approach. The kind of man I want doesn't marry girls who ride the cock carousel from 17-35 than marry some poor sap who doesn't know better.

If I sleep around, my sexual market value will plummet to the kind of men I want to notice me. Girls who sleep around apparently make worse(not terrible, just not as able parents) as those who don't. The more I would get pump and dumped, the more likely it is to continue to happen until I'm in my 30's where it's a mad dash to cash in on the last of your youth before you hit the wall of no return.


So that's how it is for me. I basically got robbed out of my virginity, but after I explain myself, they still see me as virgin status sometimes.

Short version: The kind of man I want isn't going to keep me around if I rode the cock carousel to his place. As you know, I have nothing against girls with many sexual partners. It just won't work for me because I will get rejected if I do.

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descloud wrote:


staphen wrote:

I've always viewed the mantra "be yourself" as a gentle reminder that the pursuit of happiness is not about changing yourself to be what someone else wants, but rather about searching for and hopefully finding the things that you want.

Alternatively, and as far as this forum topic is concerned, I also feel it could be viewed as a warning about the futility of attempting to win over half the population based on hasty generalizations. The phrase "what women like" is nearly as vague as the phrase "what people like," and since you can never anticipate what a particular woman is going to like, there's no point in trying to change yourself to become exactly what your dream girl is going to like before you've even met her. It's like trying to hit a moving target blindfolded, but with lots more stress and self-doubt.


I must disagree. Some of these generalizations hold some truth. See this video if you don't believe me.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WZYdIRq86c


wow at one point this guy says "this is a 1.5 million dollar car" he doesn't even finish his sentence and she's already getting in xDD
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I always am myself online :o

Real life not so much but alot of the time i am myself.

It makes life hard but worth it.
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I'm just gonna throw my penny in the well and say don't be a creep or a dick.
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I have and it has never gotten me anywhere with any girl. The truth is, it's all about looks initially>money to show off I.e a cool car to pick the girl up in>personality/game.

I got lucky with the car part and that's how Iv had my success. You'd think being an A student would make you very attractive to woman but clearly that is not the case in America. But my advice? Get money, get new clothes, car, and whatever it is these girls drool over and you will have what you seek. Guys who have lots of money are the ones who told me this is the way, and they could not have been more right.


Nah, it's probably because you're going after the wrong type of women.

If you are not a very physically attractive person and you want someone who is "out of your league", you have to compensate by having fame and/or fortune. If you're a very attractive person, you'll be able to attract other attractive people without the financial assets.

Studies have shown that humans look for someone who is in the same league as them, physically. So if you rate yourself a 4 out of 10, you'll likely end up with someone in the 3-5 range.

So...if you want a girlfriend or boyfriend, don't aim for the stars and expect someone who looks like Beyoncé.




I would not date someone as ugly as me or as intelligent as me ..

Never have to be honest and i have dated a few people.
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Ruby804b wrote:


PrinceJudar wrote:


descloud wrote:

I must disagree. Some of these generalizations hold some truth. See this video if you don't believe me.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WZYdIRq86c


Works on sluts.



Tbh, no one tries the reverse though. I bet I could could pull that shit off.


If an older woman in a fancy vehicle pulled over and asked you if you wanted to have meaningless sex, I bet you'd be a slut, too.



Honestly i would slap her and say "Fuck off slut" as it would piss me off ALOT
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Ryulightorb wrote:


Ruby804b wrote:


PrinceJudar wrote:


descloud wrote:

I must disagree. Some of these generalizations hold some truth. See this video if you don't believe me.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WZYdIRq86c


Works on sluts.



Tbh, no one tries the reverse though. I bet I could could pull that shit off.


If an older woman in a fancy vehicle pulled over and asked you if you wanted to have meaningless sex, I bet you'd be a slut, too.



Honestly i would slap her and say "Fuck off slut" as it would piss me off ALOT


"No thank you." Or "Sorry, but that's not for me."

No need to go nuclear for an innocent request. It's not like she asked if she could have your right eye.
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Magical-Soul wrote:

How to get a(higher than trash) quality girl.

1. Work out. Don't be a fat bastard and hope your "charms" work.

2. Don't be a mangina, look your best, ignore her shit tests, tease her, etc. don't be afraid to do stuff she might not understand.

3. Do not buy/reward her unless she gives you what you want. Whether that's a kiss, a blowjob, doesn't matter. Shit ain't cheap, make her get a job.

4. Dress like you have lots of money.

5. Have other girls around you, chicks are competitive by nature.

That's my guide to getting a girl. And yes, she will be hot.

If you're looking to meet your reflection, as in an anime nerd, a shut in type girl than there's no way to do that.

Also, talk kinda loud in public areas, it makes you seem alpha.

There you go, rinse and repeat, go to places. And most important rule is not to snap back into a simp mangina/beta male,

Not that you're either one of those things, of course. Well, there we go.




1. Eww i don't want muscles

2. I'm ignorant to all things socially and don't care about my looks
3. Why would i spend money on someone for no reason

4. but i don't that would be dishonest...

5. I would rather be alone then surrounded by females.


I have done the exact opposite of everything you have said and have dated a hot/intelligent person :P

Also talking loud in public areas makes you seem like an idiot...i would honestly tell someone doing that to shut the fuck up myself.



Best way to get a good looking girlfriend is to be yourself honest , nice and willing to help others.
Show that you care and just be a good person in general if a girl goes for you because of

Muscles , Money , you seem alpha ...they are not worth dating in the first place and are to me....pieces of trash :)

This is coming from someone with multiple experiences in dating 6+ girls sure most of them ended badly due to distance and other variables mostly them being mentally weak

But my point stands.....no one should waste there time doing any of that your just going to attract someone who doesn't care about you.
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Magical-Soul

Short version: The kind of man I want isn't going to keep me around if I rode the cock carousel to his place. As you know, I have nothing against girls with many sexual partners. It just won't work for me because I will get rejected if I do.



Now you've got me curious. What exactly is the kind of man you want?
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Magical-Soul wrote:


Ryulightorb wrote:


Ruby804b wrote:


PrinceJudar wrote:


descloud wrote:

I must disagree. Some of these generalizations hold some truth. See this video if you don't believe me.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WZYdIRq86c


Works on sluts.



Tbh, no one tries the reverse though. I bet I could could pull that shit off.


If an older woman in a fancy vehicle pulled over and asked you if you wanted to have meaningless sex, I bet you'd be a slut, too.



Honestly i would slap her and say "Fuck off slut" as it would piss me off ALOT


"No thank you." Or "Sorry, but that's not for me."

No need to go nuclear for an innocent request. It's not like she asked if she could have your right eye.



Far from an innocent request i mean what do i look like a freaking manwhore?!

That's offensive as fuck to me and other people -.-
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Posted 11/19/15 , edited 11/19/15

Ryulightorb wrote:


Magical-Soul wrote:

How to get a(higher than trash) quality girl.

1. Work out. Don't be a fat bastard and hope your "charms" work.

2. Don't be a mangina, look your best, ignore her shit tests, tease her, etc. don't be afraid to do stuff she might not understand.

3. Do not buy/reward her unless she gives you what you want. Whether that's a kiss, a blowjob, doesn't matter. Shit ain't cheap, make her get a job.

4. Dress like you have lots of money.

5. Have other girls around you, chicks are competitive by nature.

That's my guide to getting a girl. And yes, she will be hot.

If you're looking to meet your reflection, as in an anime nerd, a shut in type girl than there's no way to do that.

Also, talk kinda loud in public areas, it makes you seem alpha.

There you go, rinse and repeat, go to places. And most important rule is not to snap back into a simp mangina/beta male,

Not that you're either one of those things, of course. Well, there we go.




1. Eww i don't want muscles

2. I'm ignorant to all things socially and don't care about my looks
3. Why would i spend money on someone for no reason

4. but i don't that would be dishonest...

5. I would rather be alone then surrounded by females.


I have done the exact opposite of everything you have said and have dated a hot/intelligent person :P

Also talking loud in public areas makes you seem like an idiot...i would honestly tell someone doing that to shut the fuck up myself.



Best way to get a good looking girlfriend is to be yourself honest , nice and willing to help others.
Show that you care and just be a good person in general if a girl goes for you because of

Muscles , Money , you seem alpha ...they are not worth dating in the first place and are to me....pieces of trash :)

This is coming from someone with multiple experiences in dating 6+ girls sure most of them ended badly due to distance and other variables mostly them being mentally weak

But my point stands.....no one should waste there time doing any of that your just going to attract someone who doesn't care about you.


Do what works for you, you should be proud of what you can do with your own methods.

However, what I say still holds true, even if they don't appeal to your sensibilities.

EDIT: No offense, but advice like mine wouldn't work for men like you, you have a type. And you won't have to worry about women approaching you.
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Ryulightorb


Far from an innocent request i mean what do i look like a freaking manwhore?!

That's offensive as fuck to me and other people -.-


How dare any hypothetical woman ever find you desirable!
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