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Would you date somebody with a disability or multiple disabilities?
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Maybe someone who is blind.
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physical, mental, or both? personally it doesn't matter to me much provided theres a connection. i know my fair share of people who have some form of a disability and they're my friends because we share similar interests. really the only 'challenge' would be my one friend is deaf and i keep forgetting to look directly at her when i talk [she reads lips] so i'll be in the middle of a conversation and my friend will say something like 'hey stupid, turn to me.' because after all these years i keep forgetting she's deaf and i need to face her. so yea, if the connections there why not?
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Huh? What does being in a wheelchair have to do with being approachable? If I see a girl being friendly with everyone, of course I would think she's a nice person regardless of whether or not she's visibly disabled. Why would that keep me or anyone else from talking to her?


The point to my post was that it's easy to say in a hypothetical situation, "No, I wouldn't have a problem asking someone disabled out." Yet I doubt any of the people in this thread ever will in their life.


It sounds like you're letting your past experiences cloud your judgement of everyone. Sure there are some people who would turn others down only because of a disability, but not everybody is like that. If somebody is selfish enough to dump someone just because they can no longer walk and they don't even try to be supportive, I highly doubt there was ever any love in that relationship.


I realize, of course, that not every individual fits my generalization. But at the same time my experience gives me insight into the life of a disabled person that very few people in all of Crunchyroll share. Don't discount it so dismissively.

Further, you're making the same fallacy that so many others in this thread are making. I said, and I quote, "a girl in a wheelchair." That means she's already disabled before any attempts at dating. Many of you are assuming that a normal person you're dating suddenly becomes disabled. I believe the premise of this thread was, "Would you date somebody with a disability or multiples disabilities?"

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Is said disabled person rich?


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Kid2daKrazx wrote:

I think the question is would a girl with disabilities even want to date me?

I mean she's still a girl after all and it's starting to become obvious that every girl has a boyfriend now'days so if a guy don't have a girlfriend by now, then like...too bad.

but if I had the chance, yeah, I would.

it kinda depends on the disability.

And I know for a fact that being an asshole isn't a disability.


Sometimes people with disabilities act like assholes, it's a defense mechanism.
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Mirai_Maku wrote:

I realize, of course, that not every individual fits my generalization. But at the same time my experience gives me insight into the life of a disabled person that very few people in all of Crunchyroll share. Don't discount it so dismissively.

Further, you're making the same fallacy that so many others in this thread are making. I said, and I quote, "a girl in a wheelchair." That means she's already disabled before any attempts at dating. Many of you are assuming that a normal person you're dating suddenly becomes disabled. I believe the premise of this thread was, "Would you date somebody with a disability or multiples disabilities?"



Actually, I was only using that as an example but the point is still the same. If someone turns you down simply because they see you in a wheelchair, you're better off not getting into a relationship with such a person anyways. I'm pretty sure most people in this thread are thinking about people with preexisting conditions when they're posting.

If I see someone in a wheelchair or with crutches or some other sign that shows they're disabled, it wouldn't stop me from interacting with them. When you see someone for the first time, your first thought won't be "will they be a good bf/gf?" I don't know why you think most people would hold disabled people to that standard. If I can connect with someone and have fun being with them, it shouldn't matter if they have a disability. I don't see what the problem is here. I would say the same even if it were a mental disability too, but with a few exceptions. Mainly just extreme situations like one I mentioned a few pages ago.

What would you do? You've mentioned how you've been turned down before, but what if the roles were reversed? Would you reject somebody just because they're disabled? If so, it would make you a hypocrite. If not, then you'd be countering your own argument. I assume it's the latter.
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PhantomGundam wrote:


Actually, I was only using that as an example but the point is still the same. If someone turns you down simply because they see you in a wheelchair, you're better off not getting into a relationship with such a person anyways. I'm pretty sure most people in this thread are thinking about people with preexisting conditions when they're posting.

If I see someone in a wheelchair or with crutches or some other sign that shows they're disabled, it wouldn't stop me from interacting with them. When you see someone for the first time, your first thought won't be "will they be a good bf/gf?" I don't know why you think most people would hold disabled people to that standard. If I can connect with someone and have fun being with them, it shouldn't matter if they have a disability. I don't see what the problem is here. I would say the same even if it were a mental disability too, but with a few exceptions. Mainly just extreme situations like one I mentioned a few pages ago.

What would you do? You've mentioned how you've been turned down before, but what if the roles were reversed? Would you reject somebody just because they're disabled? If so, it would make you a hypocrite. If not, then you'd be countering your own argument. I assume it's the latter.


Once again you're ignoring the original question of this thread. I have no doubt that anyone in this thread is capable of becoming friends with someone that is disabled. But the question was whether you would go up to a disabled person with the express intention of becoming intimate with them.

For your third paragraph, I'd need more information. Am I still crippled in your hypothetical? If so, then I'd probably turn the disabled girl down. But this is also predicated that the girl is completely disabled in a wheelchair. Does this make me a hypocrite? No, because having two people in a relationship that are disabled makes any form of intimacy almost impossible. Even kissing or holding hands would be an insurmountable challenge with the physical barrier of a wheelchair separating the two. However, if she is only, for example, missing an arm, then I'd say yes.

If I am not physically disabled myself, then I would accept her proposal. But then again I have a knight in shining armor complex, so being able to take care of a girl would fulfill my desire to be needed. I'm also a firefighter in real life (yes, I'm disabled ~and~ a firefighter, but I only do desk work), and both of my parents were EMTs so I have a working knowledge of medicine and what to do in certain situations.
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Mirai_Maku wrote:

Once again you're ignoring the original question of this thread. I have no doubt that anyone in this thread is capable of becoming friends with someone that is disabled. But the question was whether you would go up to a disabled person with the express intention of becoming intimate with them.


I'm not ignoring the thread's question. I'm only trying to approach this from a realistic standpoint. If it's someone you already know and have a connection with, I don't see why a disability should stop you from walking up to them and asking them out. I honestly don't know why people see this as an issue. If someone rejects people because they're afraid they'd have to make sacrifices for their partner, clearly they shouldn't even be in a relationship.


For your seconds paragraph, I'd need more information. Am I still crippled in your hypothetical? If so, then I'd probably turn the disabled girl down. But this is also predicated that the girl is completely disabled in a wheelchair. Does this make me a hypocrite? No, because having two people in a relationship that are disabled makes any form of intimacy almost impossible. Even kissing or holding hands would be an insurmountable challenge with the physical barrier of a wheelchair separating the two. However, if she is only, for example, missing an arm, then I'd say yes.

If I am not physically disabled myself, then I would accept her proposal. But then again I have a knight in shining armor complex, so being able to take care of a girl would fulfill my desire to be needed. I'm also a firefighter in real life (yes, I'm disabled ~and~ a firefighter, but I only do desk work), and both of my parents were EMTs so I have a working knowledge of medicine and what to do in certain situations.


And that's what I'm trying to tell you. If the roles were reversed and the girl was the one crippled instead of you, you would still go out with her despite her being crippled. There are a lot of people who would turn her down just for that reason, but there are also a lot of people who wouldn't, at least not for that reason. It looks like you only have experience dealing with people who fall into the former.

Besides, how can you know for sure most of those girls turned you down because of your wheelchair? Obviously I don't know who these girls are, but I don't think they would've accepted if it was any random non-disabled guy. People in general don't just go out with people they're not attracted to. It'll be even harder if it's someone you barely know. I know I wouldn't go out with someone I don't know or someone who I haven't gotten close to. It doesn't matter if all their limbs are gone or if they're the healthiest person in the world. My answer to them would be "no" regardless.
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Depends on the disability, depends on the person, I'd have to evaluate on a case by case basis, and even then there would probably be exceptions. To answer the question yes, but with disabilities is a very broad category.

Being someone who was legally deaf as a child, but had a reversible condition I can emphasis with people who deal with situations like this. Interesting thread.
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Depends on what their disability is. I mean is I'm not physically attracted to someone its probably not gonna last, so I'm not gonna lead someone on knowing that eventually I'm not gonna be happy.
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Mirai_Maku wrote:

For those of you saying "Love is love," I say to you: Bullshit.

The main problem with dating someone with a disability is in the initial stages. Do you honestly believe yourself unbiased enough to see a girl in a wheelchair across the room and think to yourself, "I bet she's a great person, I'm going to go over there and talk to her" when there's girls around you who are not disabled? I doubt it.

I've been physically disabled and in a wheelchair for most of my life. I have yet to have a girl develop a crush on me, even though I spent most of my time in school talking to girls. I've asked out dozens of girls, and yet I've never had a date in my life. Reactions generally range from an explanation that I'm "too much like a brother" all the way to the girl looking around the room like she's on Candid Camera and then darting off. At least one girl had the decency to calmly explain to me that she would never be comfortable having a boyfriend that isn't normal.

Forgive me, but I don't believe many of you would, for one instant, go out of your own way to ask someone out that's already disabled.


To all this i have to say Love is love.

people will fall inlove with someone no matter there disabilities honestly to see someone in a wheelchair and go "im avoiding her" is rude and disgusting.

Sorry you have had a bad response to your disability but love being love isn't bullshit.

I would happily date someone who is disabled because it doesn't make them less of a person and honestly fuck being normal.
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KarenAraragi wrote:


LoneStarAndroid wrote:


KarenAraragi wrote:

Would you date somebody with a disability or multiples disabilities?

Would you yes or no ?

Any particular reason why would you date somebody with a disability or multiples disabilities?

Have you ever date somebody with a disability or multiples disabilities?

Me personally, I don't have problem with it. To me love is love.

I think if I where to go out my way to look for... let say a dating site for people with disabilities. I will look for Blind or deaf people to date.

I also must say this. I been playing Katawa shoujo. And I have gotten curious about it. One reason one my sister know sign language. My sister has teach some of it to me but I no good a all but that mostly my fault. I should put more effort into learning it.

By the way. Katawa shoujo is a visual novel where you date girls with disabilities, your MC including has a disability too. I know a few people with a disability also too. Manly the heart one.

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Hisao Nakai is a normal high school student, currently in his final year of high school. One day Hisao receives a letter from parties unknown in his locker and waits at the written place for the sender. The person who wrote the letter turns out to be his crush; while speaking to her, he suddenly collapses. He awakes in a hospital bed, and is told by the doctors that the reason he collapsed is due to arrhythmia, a rare heart condition that causes his heartbeat to sometimes become irregular. Due to this, his parents have enrolled him in Yamaku, a school for disabled students of all kinds.

Personally in my opinion is a good visual novel that handles the subject of disabilities very well, and it feel realistic.



Man, that's an interesting question. How far are you in "Katawa Shoujo" novel? As for the question, that's hard for me to answer.


I am in the mute and deaf girl route. Helping her make walls I think for the festival or something.


Wow. I'm guessing the novel must be really good. I've never dated somebody with a multiple disabilities or with a disability before.
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Well they feel like real people. And since I know a few people who were or are still disable. I can tell is very realistic. Well that my opinion others may disagree thou.
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Echoing one of the general sentiments here: most physical disabilities are okay; most mental ones are not. Personality is most important for me, and - though I've got nothing against people with mental disabilities in a general sense - I don't think I could be attracted to someone who didn't have a normal rich and likeable personality. For physical disabilities, it mostly depends on how much help they'd need. Taking care of people gets taxing to me quickly, so I don't think I'd be very happy with someone who needed my help too often.

Side note: Emi is best girl.
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If I like the person, sure.
Otherwise, no.

Sorry for such a simple answer.
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