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Posted 11/22/15 , edited 11/24/15
Being okay with being single?

I mean, I got rejected all the time back then and I just stopped approaching women, the way I see it, if they were interested they would have approached me like how they approach their future boyfriends.

Since I've decided to leave the girls alone, I've been happier and a little more progressive in life but I face scorn from peers because I refuse to "go out there".

The scorn makes me feel like I'm different in a bad way and I guess I need reassurance to show that I'm not like y'know, broken or something.
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Well I have sort of the opposite problem, women approach me all the time. I have without fail shot them down every time as I have no interest in a romantic relationship at this period in my life. So I don't think there is nothing wrong with it, life is about more then romance.
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Your peers are just simple, OP.
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Ranwolf wrote:

Well I have sort of the opposite problem, women approach me all the time. I have without fail shot them down every time as I have no interest in a romantic relationship at this period in my life. So I don't think there is nothing wrong with it, life is about more then romance.


lol at least you got options when you start to care about it

I agree though, life is more than romance but I wouldn't know it hanging out with other people.

It seems to me like everyone's in a relationship like it's some kinda exclusive club or something and a significant other is the way in and the girls are like "jeez Kid, you're too ugly" and I'm like "okay" before I go back to writing my stories.

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Ranwolf wrote:

Well I have sort of the opposite problem, women approach me all the time. I have without fail shot them down every time as I have no interest in a romantic relationship at this period in my life. So I don't think there is nothing wrong with it, life is about more then romance.


lol at least you got options when you start to care about it

I agree though, life is more than romance but I wouldn't know it hanging out with other people.

It seems to me like everyone's in a relationship like it's some kinda exclusive club or something and a significant other is the way in and the girls are like "jeez Kid, you're too ugly" and I'm like "okay" before I go back to writing my stories.



Would those stories be fanfics involving the people that just rejected you and yourself?
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No desire or no confidence? Many of us turn down relationships because we are afraid or uncomfortable. Now there's nothing wrong with it, but if you don't try, how will you know you like it?
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Kid2daKrazx wrote:

Being okay with being single?

I mean, I got rejected all the time back then and I just stopped approaching women, the way I see it, if they were interested they would have approached me like how they approach their future boyfriends.

Since I've decided to leave the girls alone, I've been happier and a little more progressive in life but I face scorn from peers because I refuse to "go out there".

The scorn makes me feel like I'm different in a bad way and I guess I need reassurance to show that I'm not like y'know, broken or something.


Hey I'm in the same boat Cap'n, this is the way I see it . If you're living a happy life by your own rules then you're doing the right thing. I'm just plain not going out there either at the moment because I'm happy with the way things are going. I'm going to work to make a living and enjoying how I spend my time off. Nobody is telling me what to do but me and I'm FINE WITH THAT.
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Complete inaction is further reducing your chances. You have to know you're still desirable even if you now prefer the single life. It's good for your mental health. Go lead on some chicks without the desire to be with them
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PeripheralVisionary wrote:

No desire or no confidence? Many of us turn down relationships because we are afraid or uncomfortable. Now there's nothing wrong with it, but if you don't try, how will you know you like it?


I think it's a combo of both

they all shot me down so I just said "I'm too ugly to date, so screw it".

started my attempt to overcompensate hence why I'm learning so much stuff and trying to write stories and things like that.
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nah fam, you're not broken. loads of ppl don't date and don't want to. your peers just haven't realised there's more to life than pussy yet
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Sir_jamesalot wrote:


Kid2daKrazx wrote:


Ranwolf wrote:

Well I have sort of the opposite problem, women approach me all the time. I have without fail shot them down every time as I have no interest in a romantic relationship at this period in my life. So I don't think there is nothing wrong with it, life is about more then romance.


lol at least you got options when you start to care about it

I agree though, life is more than romance but I wouldn't know it hanging out with other people.

It seems to me like everyone's in a relationship like it's some kinda exclusive club or something and a significant other is the way in and the girls are like "jeez Kid, you're too ugly" and I'm like "okay" before I go back to writing my stories.



Would those stories be fanfics involving the people that just rejected you and yourself?


and no, I like writing action stuff that has like no romance whatsoever.
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supaspem wrote:

Complete inaction is further reducing your chances. You have to know you're still desirable even if you now prefer the single life. It's good for your mental health. Go lead on some chicks without the desire to be with them


what's to stop them from not being interested?
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Kid2daKrazx wrote:

Being okay with being single?


http://www.breitbart.com/london/2014/12/04/the-sexodus-part-1-the-men-giving-up-on-women-and-checking-out-of-society/

You're not alone, but people definitely think your withdrawal is indicative of a dystopian future.

But let's talk about you specifically, giving up on women because of an overwhelming about of rejection, makes sense, actually. It may be easy for women to say there are NAWALTs(Not all women are like that) in the world. But that'd be pointless.

You're very capable of surviving your life and being happy without a significant other but you will be less happy than you would be with someone else. It's a common misconception that because because Nikola Tesla and the Wright Brothers didn't partner up, that every man can do what they did and achieve success and happiness. But that's simply not the case.

Think about it this way, if you were out and playing the field, you met a couple female friends(friends or friends with benefits, doesn't matter). And eventually you meet up with their friend. She has similar views to your own but slightly different. She was also out of the dating game because the toxic women bred toxic men and she didn't wanna fish out a guy for a 90% chance of a guy who would pump and dump her. And you don't wanna fish out the chance for a 95% chance of a narcissist who want to ride cocks into the sunset.

Even though all the women between you and this hypothetical Honey Badger are typical cunts, but you don't have to meet her directly. Just networking improves your happiness and chances of netting a high quality mate(s). So you can be single and having fun. You don't have to preemptively commit to these women. Stop thinking every woman is "the one" and you won't feel rejected. Don't talk to one at a time.

Vs. right now, if you decide that you're done with the field and you've fully become a herbivore man. You'd have never met their friends, and she would have never gotten to meet you. She would likely get attached to some pump and dumper and been left at square one while you moved into the next chapter of your life. There's more than personal happiness that comes into your social interactions. Sure you'd love to meet this girl. But she'd be happier to meet you.

Now, I'm not suggesting you run out and attempt to "rescue" every stray cat that claws at your pants' zipper. I'm saying that people who become close to you will also be happier, so if you needed more motivation than just making yourself happier. The people you meet will be happy you came knocking at your door.

In an alternate timeline where you didn't quit the dating game. You could have improved the lives of many amazing women. But you never showed up. You didn't leave your bedroom. So their future best friend/boyfriend never came to rescue them. And much like yourself, they have probably given up too.

Just something to think about, since we sometimes act like the only things that matter are things that directly affect us.
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Lol.

Anyway, being single is pretty awesome actually. Just depends what you want out of life. the important thing with being a loner is finding plenty of hobbies to keep busy. So long as you do that, it can be quite the rewarding lifestyle. Your worst enemy will be boredom.

If you still hang out and have good friends it'll be easier. Not having anyone can be long quiet, but I find it pleasant in its own way, almost necessary.



Just depends what you want out of life. Listening to others tell you what you want out of life will just make you depressed over matters you normally wouldn't.
Posted 11/22/15 , edited 11/22/15
Girls are..
being single sucks, but so do humans.

EDIT: I see you are from Louisiana too..
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