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Posted 11/22/15 , edited 11/22/15

Magical-Soul wrote:


Kid2daKrazx wrote:

Being okay with being single?


http://www.breitbart.com/london/2014/12/04/the-sexodus-part-1-the-men-giving-up-on-women-and-checking-out-of-society/

You're not alone, but people definitely think your withdrawal is indicative of a dystopian future.

But let's talk about you specifically, giving up on women because of an overwhelming about of rejection, makes sense, actually. It may be easy for women to say there are NAWALTs(Not all women are like that) in the world. But that'd be pointless.

You're very capable of surviving your life and being happy without a significant other but you will be less happy than you would be with someone else. It's a common misconception that because because Nikola Tesla and the Wright Brothers didn't partner up, that every man can do what they did and achieve success and happiness. But that's simply not the case.

Think about it this way, if you were out and playing the field, you met a couple female friends(friends or friends with benefits, doesn't matter). And eventually you meet up with their friend. She has similar views to your own but slightly different. She was also out of the dating game because the toxic women bred toxic men and she didn't wanna fish out a guy for a 90% chance of a guy who would pump and dump her. And you don't wanna fish out the chance for a 95% chance of a narcissist who want to ride cocks into the sunset.

Even though all the women between you and this hypothetical Honey Badger are typical cunts, but you don't have to meet her directly. Just networking improves your happiness and chances of netting a high quality mate(s). So you can be single and having fun. You don't have to preemptively commit to these women. Stop thinking every woman is "the one" and you won't feel rejected. Don't talk to one at a time.

Vs. right now, if you decide that you're done with the field and you've fully become a herbivore man. You'd have never met their friends, and she would have never gotten to meet you. She would likely get attached to some pump and dumper and been left at square one while you moved into the next chapter of your life. There's more than personal happiness that comes into your social interactions. Sure you'd love to meet this girl. But she'd be happier to meet you.

Now, I'm not suggesting you run out and attempt to "rescue" every stray cat that claws at your pants' zipper. I'm saying that people who become close to you will also be happier, so if you needed more motivation than just making yourself happier. The people you meet will be happy you came knocking at your door.

In an alternate timeline where you didn't quit the dating game. You could have improved the lives of many amazing women. But you never showed up. You didn't leave your bedroom. So their future best friend/boyfriend never came to rescue them. And much like yourself, they have probably given up too.

Just something to think about, since we sometimes act like the only things that matter are things that directly affect us.

Herbivore man?

seems a lot like you're saying "keep trying, you may find the right one"

The only problem is that they all say "no" so...I just find it easier to just leave 'em all alone.
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If you are ok with it, don't judge yourself based on what you think others will judge you for.
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Kid2daKrazx wrote:

Herbivore man?

seems a lot like you're saying "keep trying, you may find the right one"

The only problem is that they all say "no" so...I just find it easier to just leave 'em all alone.


Do you think that you've been forced into being single, or choose to be?

Important question.



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I'm finding this a little tedious.....

Have you tried looking up mail order brides? There's no hassle and it's actually cheaper up front.

Though, you could just move to Russia.
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Posted 11/22/15

PrinceJudar wrote:


Kid2daKrazx wrote:

Herbivore man?

seems a lot like you're saying "keep trying, you may find the right one"

The only problem is that they all say "no" so...I just find it easier to just leave 'em all alone.


Do you think that you've been forced into being single, or choose to be?

Important question.





I honestly think I was forced starting off but later on, I just chose to be.

They alway said no which means (to me) that they'll always say no...if that makes sense.

I made peace with it, honestly but I still get made fun of for the fact that I stopped caring.
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Magical-Soul wrote:

I'm finding this a little tedious.....

Have you tried looking up mail order brides? There's no hassle and it's actually cheaper up front.

Though, you could just move to Russia.


I'm not really looking for any relationships honestly and I have more important things to spend money on aaaaand going to Russia is a little out of my price range (that and I hate the cold).
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Posted 11/22/15 , edited 11/22/15

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If you are ok with it, don't judge yourself based on what you think others will judge you for.


that's like one of my biggest problems is that I let what people say affect me, I mean I grew up with girls telling me I'm ugly and I'm all like "okay, I'm ugly but I'm gonna be the smartest ugly man ever even if that means I'm alone forever"

nowadays it's just "hobbies then sleep"
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Kid2daKrazx wrote:

I honestly think I was forced starting off but later on, I just chose to be.

They alway said no which means (to me) that they'll always say no...if that makes sense.

I made peace with it, honestly but I still get made fun of for the fact that I stopped caring.


I used to get made fun of for not having any friends, by family even. I think at first it becomes difficult to accept in the beginning because we still care about being 'normal' until we just come to terms with ourselves and realize life ain't so bad on our own.

I think you hang out with the wrong people if they make fun of you for it. I think you're pretty cool, if it counts for anything.



I think the best thing you can do, is find a way to stop caring about what they think.


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PrinceJudar wrote:


Kid2daKrazx wrote:

I honestly think I was forced starting off but later on, I just chose to be.

They alway said no which means (to me) that they'll always say no...if that makes sense.

I made peace with it, honestly but I still get made fun of for the fact that I stopped caring.


I used to get made fun of for not having any friends, by family even. I think at first it becomes difficult to accept in the beginning because we still care about being 'normal' until we just come to terms with ourselves and realize life ain't so bad on our own.

I think you hang out with the wrong people if they make fun of you for it. I think you're pretty cool, if it counts for anything.



I think the best thing you can do, is find a way to stop caring about what they think.




'preesh 'yo, (I appreciate that, yo)

I mean, in all honesty, if I wasn't told I was ugly by every girl I asked out, I probably would have cared about relationships more but y'know...after a while of being told "no", "I have a boyfriend", "you're ugly" (most honest rejection I ever gotten), "you're sweet but...no", I just believe that maybe I just need to leave 'em all be.

by the way, what manga is that?
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I made peace with it, honestly but I still get made fun of for the fact that I stopped caring.



that's like one of my biggest problems is that I let what people say affect me,


You're vulnerable right now. That's for sure. It would explain the thread's question.

If we define "weird" as "unnatural" than yes you are weird.

If you define "weird" as what the majority thinks, than yes you're weird.

No matter which way you look at it, it's weird. I would hint at something else being the reason for this thread, but I don't have enough brownie points with you to not get shot down. So I guess I'll bow out now.
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Kid2daKrazx wrote:

'preesh 'yo, (I appreciate that, yo)

I mean, in all honesty, if I wasn't told I was ugly by every girl I asked out, I probably would have cared about relationships more but y'know...after a while of being told "no", "I have a boyfriend", "you're ugly" (most honest rejection I ever gotten), "you're sweet but...no", I just believe that maybe I just need to leave 'em all be.

by the way, what manga is that?


Magi! It's really good.



Appearances are overrated anyway, hah.

Posted 11/22/15

Kid2daKrazx wrote:


PrinceJudar wrote:


Kid2daKrazx wrote:

I honestly think I was forced starting off but later on, I just chose to be.

They alway said no which means (to me) that they'll always say no...if that makes sense.

I made peace with it, honestly but I still get made fun of for the fact that I stopped caring.


I used to get made fun of for not having any friends, by family even. I think at first it becomes difficult to accept in the beginning because we still care about being 'normal' until we just come to terms with ourselves and realize life ain't so bad on our own.

I think you hang out with the wrong people if they make fun of you for it. I think you're pretty cool, if it counts for anything.



I think the best thing you can do, is find a way to stop caring about what they think.




'preesh 'yo, (I appreciate that, yo)

I mean, in all honesty, if I wasn't told I was ugly by every girl I asked out, I probably would have cared about relationships more but y'know...after a while of being told "no", "I have a boyfriend", "you're ugly" (most honest rejection I ever gotten), "you're sweet but...no", I just believe that maybe I just need to leave 'em all be.

by the way, what manga is that?


I doubt you are as ugly as you think man.
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I made peace with it, honestly but I still get made fun of for the fact that I stopped caring.



that's like one of my biggest problems is that I let what people say affect me,


You're vulnerable right now. That's for sure. It would explain the thread's question.

If we define "weird" as "unnatural" than yes you are weird.

If you define "weird" as what the majority thinks, than yes you're weird.

No matter which way you look at it, it's weird. I would hint at something else being the reason for this thread, but I don't have enough brownie points with you to not get shot down. So I guess I'll bow out now.


naw man, say what you want to say, if you think it's gonna offend me, you won't.

Trust me, I'm a black virgin from the South, if I can live through that, I can live with something a person says.

The point of the thread was to like...see if I'm not screwed up in a bad way for thinking the way I do and I guess I wanted to see if there were more people out there like me...

but yeah, say what you wanna say, yo.
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naw man, say what you want to say, if you think it's gonna offend me, you won't.

Trust me, I'm a black virgin from the South, if I can live through that, I can live with something a person says.

The point of the thread was to like...see if I'm not screwed up in a bad way for thinking the way I do and I guess I wanted to see if there were more people out there like me...

but yeah, say what you wanna say, yo.


It's not bad. Wouldn't worry about bein' normal. You'll screw yourself over with that kind of junk hah.




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Kid2daKrazx wrote:


Magical-Soul wrote:


I made peace with it, honestly but I still get made fun of for the fact that I stopped caring.



that's like one of my biggest problems is that I let what people say affect me,


You're vulnerable right now. That's for sure. It would explain the thread's question.

If we define "weird" as "unnatural" than yes you are weird.

If you define "weird" as what the majority thinks, than yes you're weird.

No matter which way you look at it, it's weird. I would hint at something else being the reason for this thread, but I don't have enough brownie points with you to not get shot down. So I guess I'll bow out now.


naw man, say what you want to say, if you think it's gonna offend me, you won't.

Trust me, I'm a black virgin from the South, if I can live through that, I can live with something a person says.


Well, this is going to be an assumption.

Constant rejection made you rationalize that you're okay with being alone. In the past, there was obviously some version of you that did want to have sex and/or relationships with girls/women. There was the biological and social pressure to get a mate.

After all the rejection. You hamster-thought your way into believing you liked being alone even though it wasn't your choice. Right now, if a decent quality woman decided to pursue you. You have doubt in your mind that you'd reject a healthy young, attractive woman under the pretense that you are happy alone.

The reason for me commenting here is because unlike most people. I try to get into the head of the poster instead of taking their words at face value. If you were a woman, I would have thought this was from scorn, but since is from a man, it's from bitterness and general low morale from the lack of success.

There is something destructive about telling people lies and having people reinforce those lies to destroy you further.

You: "I-I like b-being alone..."

Crowd: "Do what makes YOU happy, fuck listening to everyone else." And "Being alone is fine, do what you want."

Those aren't genuine answers, as they are reinforcing what you're saying. But if you felt this way, this thread wouldn't exist. There comes a time when someone must see through your deception and fish out your real problem because it does seem to affect you(you admitted to it). You are an animal, you are a human. You would enjoy love/sex/compassion/companionship like everyone else and you do want it.

You can sit here and tell me. "I like being unhappy and not doing what I want." But obviously, that makes no sense and I'm not gonna buy it. And neither should anyone else.

27 years old is kinda late to sex but not too serious commitment. You aren't an old man, you aren't expected to be out of the field. Your biological drives and imperatives are still very much at your side waiting to be used. You are far from "officially done" with women.

Again, this is assuming. But I'd bet my money that I'm right on nearly everything.

Being desperate isn't a bad thing, it's there because it wants you to act before it's too late. Don't let yourself down.
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