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Posted 11/23/15
I love my family.
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Posted 11/23/15
I don't have to like or care about anyone. If I dislike you I dislike you. Anyone has a problem with that they can shove it.
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Posted 11/23/15

Rujikin wrote:

I don't have to like or care about anyone. If I dislike you I dislike you. Anyone has a problem with that they can shove it.


*Shoves you*'
You said I could.
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Posted 11/23/15

Magical-Soul wrote:


Rujikin wrote:

I don't have to like or care about anyone. If I dislike you I dislike you. Anyone has a problem with that they can shove it.


*Shoves you*'
You said I could.


Gah! *gets shoved* foiled by my own saying!
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Posted 11/23/15
No, but you should try to.

I know people have some damn crappy relatives. I have some damn crappy relatives. I've done what I can for them and I've been the epitome of politeness and civility at times, but there comes a time when you just have to cut some people off. Blood may be thicker than water but so is mercury, and I like to avoid mercury poisoning as much as possible.
Posted 11/23/15
Nope...well I know I don't. A lot of people in my family are two-faced and I don't want anything to do with them.
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Posted 11/23/15 , edited 11/23/15
That's a weird question to have to answer.

I think it's ok to not get along with your relatives.
That's not always something you can control.

When you do love your family, however, you often
find yourself in uncomfortable situations where you
have to tolerate other members you dislike for the sake
of the ones you love.

I think it's awesome if you love your family like a... err.. family.
But we aren't always lucky enough to be born into a good family.

For the record: I love my immediate family, but certain members of my extended
family are people I dislike and feel uncomfortable around, but I usually tolerate them
because they are loved by other members of my family whom I love.
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Posted 11/23/15
well, i cant really depend on them when the shit hits the fan, so i love them, but i dont trust them.
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Posted 11/23/15

Pean-p wrote:

Recently, someone has asked me why do I dislike my family members. Usually people who ask me this pull out the "But they're family its okay" excuse when you dislike a relative for treating you badly.

I don't know if its because the family oriented mentality of many people who can't imagine doing anything but loving their relatives. Many people claim its loyalty to those who have raised them and put them into this world. Some people say it gives them guilt because their family has done so much for them. Why is it so frowned upon by others to dislike relatives? There are tons of reasons but, Its not necessarily something I can wrap my head around , so I'd like to hear the thoughts of others.

Can it be boiled down to Culture? Country? Morals? or something completely different.

Is it okay to not love your relatives?


Only when you are a teenager. Then you regret it when they die.
Posted 11/23/15
Nope, you can't force love. I don't hate my family it's more like I feel indifferent towards most of them, since we don't know each other. So a lack of connection is whats happening in my case.
Posted 11/23/15
I love mother that's about it. The rest of my family doesn't really care about me and I feel that way towards them.
Posted 11/24/15
Its like i always said idc who you are. If you do me wrong chances are i wont care for you even family members. No i dont love my family.
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Posted 11/24/15
Before I was born, my mom and some of my family moved across the United States to where we live now. I've never met any of my family who didn't move with them. I don't have any connection to them besides a family relation, so no I can't say I have any feelings for them. I can't say I love some cousins of mine that I've never met, but maybe I will meet them one day and come to like them.

And I don't see a reason why you have to love someone, even family. I guess I'm more of an independent person and I don't believe I have to like people because we have a blood relation. My dad was really crappy so why should I love him? I haven't been in any relation with him in like 5 years so I've come to pretty much forget him.
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Posted 11/24/15 , edited 11/24/15
Why do people think you're obligated to have an emotional reaction from anything? It's like asking if rain is supposed to fall on a cloudy day. It might, but if it doesn't, you can't make it.

If you feel it, you feel it. If you don't, you don't. It's a matter of whether or not the usual stimulus is enough to trigger such a response in a certain person's brain. Sometimes, it is not enough. You either have to amp it up or try a different route to elicit an emotional response.

No, you're not obligated to love your family, although you have a duty to care for them and to not harm them.
You don't have an obligation to be sad at your best friend's funeral. You have a duty to carry out his will if you're the executor/executrix.
You're not forced to be happy when you accomplish a long-term goal. You've just accomplished the goal.
There's no reason you have to panic when under pressure in a dangerous situation. It's normal to but it's hardly beneficial.

I tend to think that emotion-driven responses are less well thought-out, more hasty, more likely to fail. The more logically you proceed, the better off you will usually be.



I care the most about immediate family members. If I've only seen them a few times in my life, I may still feel connected as family but, when it comes down to it, I'd prioritize immediate family members. I remember when I heard that my half-sister died. I felt a strange sense of loss even though I'd never met her but it's not something I'd describe as resulting from love.
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Posted 11/24/15
I love me.
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