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Posted 11/27/15
So I would like a discussion about how to handle heart break.
Please only positive advice. No negative comments or else it will be deleted.
You can talk about your own experience or maybe an experience that you have seen through a close friend or family member. Describe what happened. No need for names or anything, just describe how you(they) felt and some positive ways you(they) handled the situation. I look forward to what you all have to say and hope to get through my own heart break at the moment. Also maybe someone else is going through a similar situation and it could help them too. I sure hope so. Thanks!
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Posted 11/27/15
Um, I'm not exactly sure as to what heartbreak you are talking about, but I'll try and share.

When I was in my teen and young adult years, I trusted many people, both in terms of friendship and romantically, but got betrayed many times; I was devastated, and felt like things were not going to get better, like I was surrounded by evil.

How I got over it? Well, I said (insert rude expletive here) them, and then I was worried that my heart would turn to stone or something to protect me from the evil ways of people; but it turns out, my heart actually became warmer (softer?) in some ways. Pretty weird huh? I also became more open, so the opposite of what I expected happened. Yet, at the same time, I also became quite merciless, to the point of scaring myself at first.

I think that means I also learned to recognize idiots better and to value people that show a bit of kindness a lot more.

Posted 11/27/15
The best way to handle it is really keeping your pride, Think positive and move on. Doesn't mean turn to someone else the way you were with that person before but even making new friends help.
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Posted 11/27/15
Thank you very much for your comment. :D

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Thank you, this helps! :D
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Thank you, this helps! :D


Your welcome(:
Posted 11/27/15
I don't handle heartbreak well at all, regardless of whether its a lover, a friendship turned sour, a pet that died, you get the point. What I want to say is that I can empathize, but in regards to offering easy solutions, I come up short My advice to you though is to remain as confident and resolute you can be to overcome this ordeal and try to gain insight into understanding how it happened. Good luck to you.
Posted 11/27/15
You can read my experience in the spoiler or just read my advice. Whatever you wanna do. I hope either helps.



Give it some time, don't bottle up your emotions, and talk it over with a friend. The first few days after the break up are generally rough, but things get better. You just gotta remember that this isn't the end of the world even if it may feel like it. Better things await you in the future.

I apologize if my experience or advice sounds scatterbrained and cliche.
Posted 11/27/15
Time will heal, try and not force or rush to heal, allow yourself to feel what it is your feeling, lying to yourself about what happened isn't a good idea, acceptance of what happened is key, and beating yourself up isn't going to help you heal, self-punishment in general isn't going to help you heal, for example let's say you scrape your knee, your not going to keep messing with it, cause if you do it's not gonna heal it's just going to say inflamed, what any sensible person would do is to mend to it and aid in it's recovery.
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Thank you very much for sharing that with me. I think it helps! no worries about sounding cliché, I do it all the time. haha but it really does help me feel better. :D
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thank you also for your advice. I like the metaphor! I love metaphors! haha :D
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Posted 11/28/15
Allow yourself to cry, be it alone or with someone you trust. Try to go through life as normal and do things you enjoy. Get a hug from a friend if that is possible.

But most importantly, remember that this will pass and it's a natural part of life to experience heartbreak of various kinds. This is probably not the first time and it certainly won't be the last. And you need the downs in order to appreciate the ups, that's just how it is.
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You're welcome! I'm glad it helped!
Posted 11/28/15
It's not easy to overcome and most oftenly turns to hate . The best advice I can give is to keep your self worth . Knowing you have worth and are worthy of love can help you to move forward and allow someone to see that worth.
Posted 11/28/15
This may not really help but... I've only been in one relationship, and damn, I loved that girl. I loved her too much. I got so nervous around her that I straight up wouldn't go near her. I know better now. I was completely changed. I pretended like the whole thing was a joke, like I was going to break up with her anyway, besides, I never liked her in the first place, right? I'm now a very excitable and outgoing person who laughs at almost everything, quite contrary to my former self. However... no matter how hard I try to convince myself, I haven't liked another girl since that day.
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