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Posted 11/29/15
I have been dating my Girlfriend for about 4-5 years now and i have actually gone down to visit her on her birthday and graduation and countless times im told online relationships never work out. Anyone else in an online relationship and get tired of hearing that?
Posted 11/29/15
Only if you don't meet them irl. When they refer to internet relationships, they mean those like TalHotBlond.
Posted 11/29/15
Nobody says that you can't be in an online relationship when you're both too emotionally and socially inept to function in society, they're saying that when either one of you have any realistic expectations what so ever to move on to an actual relationship, which, in most cases do involve some level of physical intimacy, or eye contact, you're screwed, because at least one of you are going to reject that idea, being that they are too ill to work on their oh-so-very-obvious case of avoidant personality disorder.

Of course, there's always going to be that funny 60 year old married man who's got a joke ready regarding a lack of physical intimacy, even eye contact, I'm sure.

Well, that's my take on it. Feel free to reject what I said using whatever methods of rationalization you deem necessary. Bye.
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Posted 11/30/15 , edited 1/22/16
Well, congratulations on getting me to write my first post on CR. All I can say is that I was in a similar situation to you, I was in a long distance relationship for a while before getting the chance to be with my wife in person. These things do work out but they take a lot of timer and dedication, but for my own experience I'm glad for the literal distance; I don't think i'd of been in a dateable shape in real life, having the internet to slow things down I think managed to sand off some of my rougher edges.

Just remember to keep positive and enjoy yourself regardless of what happens.
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Posted 12/1/15 , edited 1/22/16
People say lots of things.
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Posted 12/1/15
Depends on who you are with and how the relationship started. If you met them face to face and now its LD itll be hard to maintain because you lose the physical aspect of it and at the point if you are used to cuddling with them, kissing them, holding hands, etc. now you are on a task to build a body out of words and descriptions which in itself is a strain but if you had it from the start its even harder being away from them. if it starts online you get to know them so quickly and grow together emotionally so much quicker than in person since there isn't as many distractions and usually (from my experience) in an online relationship you are talking daily constantly so you just become close so quick which can make being apart hard but worth it if they are the right person. not to mention when you add visits to the equation it becomes a game of money and managing it so you can visit them at the right times at the right places because one bad visit could mean a lot more than one bad date in a SD relationship it has you and the other person questioning if you are truly for eachother rather than "we all have our bad days". by no means am i saying online relationships arent worth it because they are! there is so many people on this planet and the odds of you finding someone compatible with you on the internet vs irl is sooooo much higher!! and its great for many things!! but its a strain and should not be a permanent arrangement if you are serious about the person you are with! to experience emotional growth is great but you need physical growth as well learning their body and how they smell or how they make weird noises when you poke their ear while they're asleep!! and thats why it just doesnt work some people because they dont have this physical bond with their significant other!! which is ok for them too!! preference is everything!!! anyways ye I've been rambling for waaaaaaaayyyy toooooo long lol so ye...preferences of touch butts...go my people into the world!! and touch your partners butt!!! whether over online or in person!! touch the butt and cherish it!!
Posted 12/2/15
Doesn't and hasn't worked for me. So I doubt I'll ever do it tbh. I just have the ability to go see whoever.
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Posted 12/2/15
I was in one for 3+ years. She lived on the other side of the continent until both of our lives career wise went in different directions. Everyone I know was super supportive, and never said it couldn't be done.
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Posted 12/4/15
Online relationships n long distance relationships are two different things. I personally don't count online ones but I've been in a long distance one and no it didn't work out. Had the potential to tho but sometimes the timing are just off.
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Posted 12/8/15 , edited 12/8/15
I was in one for 2 years and it ended when I realized that waiting for several years to meet was too much and I was losing hope and decided to try dating offline And honestly, I don't regret the choice I made. I think LDR are very healthy and can work if you take care of the relationship. I think pairing with someone who you don't plan on meeting for years is extreme and the chances of things working out are slim, but it's possible if there's enough communication and everyone is being fulfilled in some way. Ideally, the best chances of a LDR surviving is when the goal isn't years far away. Meeting people from the internet is AMAZING and really helps you explore the world and all the people in it. Try being in a LDR that you're willing to wait for and don't have to wait too long; a few to several months is fine, years is pushing it.
Also, I think LDR's last longer if you meet offline regularly. Like, you meet someone who isn't so far that you both can plan to meet in person a few times in the course of six months at least. It's kind of asking for trouble to jump into something like this for someone you've never actually met before. CAM and MIC chat are very useful tools for this though, I realize.
Posted 12/8/15
I don't feel as though people relate online that well. I think connections are best established in reality.
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Posted 12/10/15
I dated a girl in the UK once, I had known her for 7 years prior, and within months, I had saved enough to go visit her. It was flat out magical. Long distance relationships have potential, but contact is key. Miscommunication can be disastrous.
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Posted 12/10/15
The reality one faced might not be the same for you. As one other poster pointed out, people say a lot of things. How committed you and the other person are plays a big part. How long until you can meet, how far apart and what is feasible within a certain time frame..
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Posted 12/11/15
I know a lot of people who had met online and are now living together. It can work.
Posted 12/11/15
this thread makes me happy and scared at the same time.
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