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I've been asked to go live in Sapporo
Posted 12/3/15


I think you should look into this. http://www.us.emb-japan.go.jp/english/html/travel_and_visa/travel_and_visa_index.htm
I also think you need to go to your local Japan embassy and explain the situation to them. Then ask wherever questions you need answers for.
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Posted 12/3/15 , edited 12/3/15
Looking at the situation from the information given.

You say travel and living expenses will be covered, but for how long?
What will happen to you when your relative passes on? You yourself are already saying that once you go, there's likely going to be no turning back and forgive my saying, but you aren't at an age anymore where you'll easily find a job.
Are you given any guarantee that in the unfortunate event of your relative passing on that you will have enough financial support to enjoy your own retirement? Whether it be in Japan, or back home.

Apart from that, you're asked to go live in a country where you've never been before, I don't know how well you speak or understand its language because that is going to be a thing.
Sapporo doesn't get a very large amount of tourism so expect most people to barely speak English if any at all. (Most signs are in English though, I don't think that has changed a lot since last summer.)
I have a feeling that if you take the leap that you may be living in a birdcage for your own remaining years.

Personally, if I were to be asked the same, every single fiber of my being would probably say no unless I can get written guarantee, vouched for by several legal parties, that I will have enough means to support myself for the rest of my own life. Both financially as well as medically.
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Posted 12/3/15 , edited 12/3/15

Urboistar wrote:


Timmn wrote:


Urboistar wrote:

I don't mean to be rude. But shit, man.. You're 61, you calling the relative elderly makes me think they're like 80 or something.


Well, he is 86, from what I understand he's in relatively good health presently.

Wait a second, are you calling me elderly? Well, you are only 18, just barely out of diapers.


Oh shit.. Rekt me



Hilarious, good natured jabs xD

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Posted 12/3/15

George_z wrote:

Looking at the situation from the information given.

You say travel and living expenses will be covered, but for how long?
What will happen to you when your relative passes on? You yourself are already saying that once you go, there's likely going to be no turning back and forgive my saying, but you aren't at an age anymore where you'll easily find a job.
Are you given any guarantee that in the unfortunate event of your relative passing on that you will have enough financial support to enjoy your own retirement? Whether it be in Japan, or back home.

Apart from that, you're asked to go live in a country where you've never been before, I don't know how well you speak or understand its language because that is going to be a thing.
Sapporo doesn't get a very large amount of tourism so expect most people to barely speak English if any at all. (Most signs are in English though, I don't think that has changed a lot since last summer.)
I have a feeling that if you take the leap that you may be living in a birdcage for your own remaining years.

Personally, if I were to be asked the same, every single fiber of my being would probably say no unless I can get written guarantee, vouched for by several legal parties, that I will have enough means to support myself for the rest of my own life. Both financially as well as medically.


I have to agree with with all of this. Having been to Japan twice myself, I can say getting a job there at 61 is going to be harder than it would be here in the US. Things work a little differently in Japan as far as the job market goes.
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Posted 12/3/15

George_z wrote:

Looking at the situation from the information given.

You say travel and living expenses will be covered, but for how long?
What will happen to you when your relative passes on? You yourself are already saying that once you go, there's likely going to be no turning back and forgive my saying, but you aren't at an age anymore where you'll easily find a job.
Are you given any guarantee that in the unfortunate event of your relative passing on that you will have enough financial support to enjoy your own retirement? Whether it be in Japan, or back home.

Apart from that, you're asked to go live in a country where you've never been before, I don't know how well you speak or understand its language because that is going to be a thing.
Sapporo doesn't get a very large amount of tourism so expect most people to barely speak English if any at all. (Most signs are in English though, I don't think that has changed a lot since last summer.)
I have a feeling that if you take the leap that you may be living in a birdcage for your own remaining years.

Personally, if I were to be asked the same, every single fiber of my being would probably say no unless I can get written guarantee, vouched for by several legal parties, that I will have enough means to support myself for the rest of my own life. Both financially as well as medically.



THIS.

It's easy to say "I'll take care of everything" but when the time comes and years pass by, you will see how words are easily gone with the wind.

I would not trust my life to someone I barely know or to someone saying "I will take care of everything" because they will probably do it in the beginning only.

If you don't feel 100% sure of this, don't go. trust your gut. Or wait until you retire, in that way you will receive the financial help you may need later on in case things don't work out over there.

Good luck!

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Posted 12/3/15 , edited 12/3/15

Urboistar wrote:

I don't mean to be rude. But shit, man.. You're 61, you calling the relative elderly makes me think they're like 80 or something.


Lol trolls maybe? Reminds me on someone i know haha
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Posted 12/3/15 , edited 12/3/15
I don't trust anyone who says that they'll take care of everything. Why would they?

I've been to Japan before. It's a hard country to live in if you're not a fluent Japanese speaker. Japan is an extremely prejudiced country. Yeah, no gun violence, so you can likely walk the streets of Sapporo at night without a problem, but finding English speakers is not always easy. Many Japanese people say that they speak English, but depending on where you live, their reluctance to do so may be non-existent. I find that the further south I travel in Japan, more Japanese people speak English. In Tokyo, few will try to engage you in English.

The visa requirements are strict. I don't know what kind of connections your relatives have, but Japanese immigration laws are very strict. You just can't go and live there. You have to file a lot of paperwork. Japanese police can and do occasionally ask for ID, which means you'd have to show them your passport. If they find out you're out of status, they haul in you, fine you, put you in prison and then deport you.

Japan's medical system is different. Treatment is only free if you are a Japanese citizen and you have your national ID card on you. Otherwise, you pay. Japan's public medical care is not as good as its private care, and in many areas, they can not offer you the same treatments you could find in the US. Remember that you'll probably be dependent on private health care as you'll want a physician that speaks English. But, there is a reason that people from all over the world come to the US for medical treatment...our prices might be insane, but some of our physicians, such as oncologists, are some of the finest in the world.

Not all the signs are in English. I've been in several train stations and historical places where there were no English signs. Almost took a police elevator once because I could t read the kanji. Not all places are easily accessible and there are often flights of stairs instead of elevators and escalators.

I would stipulate that you go for a visit first for a couple weeks prior to making a decision. Assuming you're a U.S. Citizen, you can go under the visa waiver program for up to 90 days. Go during the Winter or Summer. Because then, you get to see Sapporo at its coldest or most humid.
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Posted 12/3/15
i wouldnt go if i hardly even knew the man
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Posted 12/3/15
Pretty much those money and social issues.

If this was offered to me, I'd jump on it, but I know a little Japanese and I don't look too different from them so I'd sort of fit in. If you don't at least look like you belong there, you're in for a bad time.
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Posted 12/3/15 , edited 12/3/15
I went to Japan for 10 days when I was 17, and the culture shock was pretty major. It was a fun adventure, sure. But I was very happy to be able to go home at the end of it. Granted, I wasn't super into anime and Japanese culture stuff back then. But still, I really think you'd want to at least visit for a week or so before making a call like that.
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Posted 12/5/15
I'm going to meet with his lawyer Tuesday, he will fill me in on all the details and answer any questions I may have. So, we'll see what happens.
Posted 12/5/15
Go for it leave this obese burger eating country behind and leave your life in the hands of a person you've only met twice in your life
Posted 12/5/15
Just think, you may have to wipe his butt for him.
Posted 12/5/15
He wants you to be his wife.
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