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Posted 12/5/15

qualeshia3 wrote:


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Not really. My uncle died several days ago. Don't give a shit about that old coot.


Did you not like your uncle?


He was alright. Saw him perhaps every month or two.
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Honestly the pain is definitely dependent on your relationship with the person. If you're somewhat close, but not really... You'll likely feel saddened with sympathy but you'll have an easier time getting back on your feet. If it's someone you really love and care about, to me it's like you have part of your soul ripped out. You can try all you want to deal with it, but when someone like that leaves there'll always be an emptiness inside of you. It's not really a physical pain, but a deep emotional wound that can take months to years to scab over although it'll never really be the same as it was before the loss.

A problem I have is that the loss hits me hard, and then I instantly go into a regret mode. I start remembering everything I ever did wrong to them, every time I could have seen them or visited but chose not to, every time I had said or thought a hurtful thing. To me, that's what hurts more in the short run, and usually causes a spiraling depression for a while. Over time, though, I've tried to do what I can to mitigate those feelings and do what I can to make sure I won't have regrets later.

So I guess to sum up... The word "loss" probably describes the pain best. Something was there, and now it's not, and there's an emptiness that primarily only time can fill. It leaves you at a loss for words, a loss for emotions... It's devastating.

Sorry about all the words, I've been pretty close to my grandfather and he appears to be approaching his death bed fairly soon so I kinda wanted to put my thoughts on the subject into words maybe as a way to better prepare myself.
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Oh God, she looks like a big lego block xD
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Do you mean die?
Or drift apart/going separate ways?
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Posted 12/5/15
depends on how close you are (or rather, were) to said person.
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Posted 12/5/15
Matters how close they are.

When I lost my Grandfather I was a mess for weeks and still out of it for months after. I was the same when a very close friend passed away.

But various other members of my family or those 'friends of a friend' type of people I had met maybe once or twice if at all? It was more of a "Oh... Yeah I... kind of remember them." thing more than any sort of feelings involved.
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Posted 12/5/15

saksiss wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:


saksiss wrote:

Not really. My uncle died several days ago. Don't give a shit about that old coot.


Did you not like your uncle?


He was alright. Saw him perhaps every month or two.


Oh, okay.
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Posted 12/5/15
its rough losing a family member the feeling of a finale its over done your life is never the same
Posted 12/5/15
Attach.
Break apart.
Stay detached forever.
Posted 12/6/15
Dunno. But I'm sure my nonchalant personality will completely break down when I lose someone.
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It's a roller-coaster of emotions for an undetermined amount of time. It also depends on your relationship with that someone, plus everyone experiences grief in different ways. I lost someone very close to me recently and it's been a wild ride. Some days are ''normal'' while others I just have to sit somewhere and cry for a long time. I sometimes wish I could've done things differently, I try to think of some way that their death could've been prevented, "if only I had done this or that, maybe they'd still be here.", "I wish I didn't do x/y/z because maybe THAT contributed to it", but it's useless thinking about that. Losing someone close to you sucks a lot, but it does make you grow stronger/more mature - at least in my case it did. Everyone experiences loss differently.
Posted 12/8/15


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i lost my father last year

wasn't really painful. More relief than anything
Posted 12/8/15
Very painful, especially when they go young

Rest in peace my brother...
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