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Posted 12/14/15 , edited 12/14/15
My younger brother who passed away when I was 18 and he was 17.

It is a painful feeling. But I know he would prefer I soldier on than wonder what might have been. But there is one lesson I learned from it. Cherish those around you, I made the mistake of always thinking we would all grow and age together. I was very wrong.
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As for me, vine always helps in overcoming my lost.
Posted 1/18/16 , edited 1/19/16
I'm used to it. I've had deaths in the family, and a close friend of mine to a genetic wasting disease. _

In any other context than death, its almost humourous in comparison. People are just cheap, as is their conversation, and who they are attracted to that suits their fragile little egos at the time. I think they are human waste.


Posted 1/19/16
I lost a close friend last year from a heroin overdose, & it hurt like hell on so many levels. I can't listen to Bob Dylan's "Simple Twist of Fate" without bursting into tears.
Posted 1/19/16
As if I'm gonna die
Posted 1/19/16

melodyXXnur wrote:

As if I'm gonna die


-She nods softly- It can be such a terrible feeling.
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Posted 1/19/16
Very painful... especially if it's a person close to your heart... and that it happened recently...
Posted 1/19/16

TowaElise wrote:


melodyXXnur wrote:

As if I'm gonna die


-She nods softly- It can be such a terrible feeling.


This thread make me feel emotional.
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Posted 1/19/16
Idk, I've never really lost anyone I've been really close with. Not to long ago a good family friend passed away, but all I felt was a bit empty. I was more concerned about how my family would take it than my own feelings. Like, to me, someone passing felt weird more than it felt sad, like I could imagine the person's voice and the fun conversations I had with them, but the idea that I would never truly hear their voice again was weird.

Same thing happened when I realized that my middle school friend had died from cancer, I got that feeling of shock like when you realize what happened, but never felt sad only the shock.

I think the thing that makes it not hard on me is because I feel like the end situation of dying and drifting apart is the same. I feel terrible that I think like this, but I've became super close to and drifted away from friends so much due to certain circumstances from sports and traveling that neither affect me. I always feel for everyone else though, not everyone has the same outlook in these situations, and I know how hard it is on some.

Posted 1/19/16

melodyXXnur wrote:


TowaElise wrote:


melodyXXnur wrote:

As if I'm gonna die


-She nods softly- It can be such a terrible feeling.


This thread make me feel emotional.


Aww.~ -Pats your head- It'll be okay, it just goes to show that your a nice and sensitive person.
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Posted 1/19/16
kinda hard to describe, tbh
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TowaElise wrote:


melodyXXnur wrote:


TowaElise wrote:


melodyXXnur wrote:

As if I'm gonna die


-She nods softly- It can be such a terrible feeling.


This thread make me feel emotional.


Aww.~ -Pats your head- It'll be okay, it just goes to show that your a nice and sensitive person.


-sniff- thanks sis.
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It's hard to grasp, and is different for everyone.
For me- I don't cry or get a tight chest or anything, I just.. feel like I'm missing something important, for a while. I prefer to keep things as good memories, not sad ones.
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Posted 1/19/16
The death of a loved one doesn't make you stronger. What it does do is give you insight. You almost immediately realize the level of importance they had with you. There's no more taking them for granted. Beyond the memories and what they may have left you, they'll no longer effect your life. Forgive me as I digress a bit with this post.

Sometimes people drift away. They open up to the people that mattered most to them and you have plenty of time to tell them how you feel. It's sad, but the both of you can still count something fortunate. Most the time(or so it feels), you don't get much chance or never even see it coming. Those hit the hardest. Once you realize just how real it is. More insight is gained. Time feels more precious. With relationships you care about most you learn the value of sincerity. You don't want to leave so many things unsaid. You don't want to end on a sour note for an indeterminate amount of time. You realize that argument you're having right now, isn't that important.

There's a metaphor I like of a tree. It can be used for losing love or dealing with death. Imagine yourself as a tree. You grow and have a relationship with someone important. Then eventually or suddenly you lose them. Your experience is carved deep for all that time you spent with them. It can be nasty and infectious, but eventually you compartmentalize, harden, and continue growing. The reminder is always going to be there. If you're given enough time though, you can grow to where it's not such a large mark relative to your new size. It's part of your remarkable past supporting who you are today.

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Posted 1/19/16
I'm already devastated just from the though of it. I haven't lose anyone yet so far, be it from dying or from breaking ties. And I don't wanna go through that, but I know I'll have to eventually Dx
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