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Posted 12/7/15 , edited 12/7/15
So i asked some "friends" about this person how they were suicidal and i told them i liked them (which is half true) to stop them from hurting themselves or worse which they were doing.

I asked for some opinions and they didn't care or said let it go and give up.

How can people give up like that....and not care about someones suffering?

I don't understand..i want to stop those i know from suffering whenever i can i want to stop those who i don't know from suffering and hurting themselves yet most people are cruel and don't give a shit they don't mind if someone dies.

Can someone explain this to me as i don't understand

I lost alot of "Friends" today because of my beliefs and my want to help everyone that i can i don't understand...

They all believe in giving up and only caring for those close to you.


What's wrong about never wanting to give up even if the situation is impossible to fix and caring about people whether you know them or not .... to me that's just cruel and cowardly.

Maybe i just have to much empathy compared to other people but i just don't understand how....people can pass by someone crying or suicidal and look the other way and not want to help.
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Posted 12/7/15 , edited 12/7/15
I understand you entirely, I have been surrounded by mental illness for basically my entire life (im only 16 but still), I dated a girl for 2 years, my mum fostered her so i was living with her for most of that 2 years, she had various mental illnesses and i have talked her out of suicide multiple times, and even though she did something to me i could never forgive i would still be there today to help her and i help a lot of people with there problems, usually ignoring my own in the process, multiple people have told me to give up and stop helping people because they think i should focus on myself more, but i don't know if i could live with myself if i let the people around me, friends or not, die or be in pain, when all they needed was a helping hand. So i too can never understand how people could be so cruel, but people are just like that, I've seen the cruel side of people many times and because i seem to be to happy to help i've been taken advantage of multiple times, But honestly people are just like that and i don't think there really is a reason for things like this, it just happens.

But if you feel like someone is not worth giving up on, then don't listen to them, be a good person and show her/him that the entire world isn't going to turn there backs on them and that you are a kind person, because the entire world around you can be cruel and bitter but that doesn't mean that you have to be.

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Posted 12/7/15 , edited 12/7/15
When it comes to suicidal people, my theory is that if they are already at the point where they feel that there is completely no point in living, I personally think any words I will have to say is useless. If they have their minds made up then there really isnt anything I could do, I could lie and say it all will get better someday, but its not even worth saying. But thats just my 2 cents. Also bear in mind im a borderline savage at this point and the only empathy I feel is toward children and animals.
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While i respect your opinion on the matter i don't always think thats the case, I have bipolar and a while ago, i was in the state of my life being horrible and not worth living, one single person extended there hand to me and that has made all the difference, they talked me out of doing stuff like that and now i can sit here today and enjoy my life, of course its no where near perfect and i am not always happy but im still here and i want to keep fighting to see what i can make of my life, so while i do think some people can be just at that point as you say, it never hurts to extend a hand.
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Posted 12/7/15 , edited 12/7/15
I cant speak on suicidal people (my friend that committed suicide did it out of nowhere, seemed happy, was popular, had a girlfriend and just got a new job, etc) but one thing that i can tell you, when you get older you will probably care less.
Its in my nature to be caring and considerate, i often consider others and try to help others but over the course of time you will find that trying to help other people will cost you time and money and you wil get burnt.

I mean some people are genuinely in need, its good to help those whom need it, we all need help sometimes.
Your a good person and friend if you feel this way but unfortunately kindness can be a weakness and some people need help more than others.
Some people cant even help themselves and i get over it. But i am a grown man so when i see other grown men who cant even take care of themselves or take responsibility for their own actions and stand on their two, i get fed up.
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Posted 12/7/15 , edited 12/7/15
Some either:
1. think its a joke or nothing serious
2. What should we do? and so what let it pass over time.
and more? 2nd was not that great anyway.

also they can't be sure if they are really in danger and sometimes think they should "man up" and move on.

still what could you do sometimes its hard to even help them, but be supportive (not in the bad way) COULD help.
Posted 12/7/15
Maybe it's because they don't think they have the ability to help suicidal people, I know I don't.

If someone were suicidal or clinically depressed, I wouldn't know what to say to them, besides listening to their stories and the likes. In times like these, I feel like professional help might be better.
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I dont get how some dont care about others as far as not having a conscience and no respect or regard for others , only care about themselves but i do understand how people feel that they have enough of their own problems to constantly help others.
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I am young and you can call me idiotic, but i will go out of my way to help people and i feel like i will do that for a considerable part of my life, while i can understand a lot of the points brought up here, i think that it is worth trying to help someone
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Posted 12/7/15
hmmmm

it's kinda like, "care about peeps that you have no control over or watch anime "

It's not cruel that peeps choose to spend their time differently. You guys just chose differently is all

I'm stubborn as hell myself so I know the feeling of never wanting to give up. I learned when it's "impossible" you gotta look at it from another angle.
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(if I am not mistaken)
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Posted 12/7/15

MrAnimeSK wrote:

I dont get how some dont care about others as far as not having a conscience and no respect or regard for others , only care about themselves but i do understand how people feel that they have enough of their own problems to constantly help others.


If someone has there own problems i can 100% agree to them being not willing to help, me being who i am will push my own problems aside to help someone and at times it seems stupid, but i don't feel right if i turn my back on someone like that

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Posted 12/7/15

Dillex wrote:


MrAnimeSK wrote:

I dont get how some dont care about others as far as not having a conscience and no respect or regard for others , only care about themselves but i do understand how people feel that they have enough of their own problems to constantly help others.


If someone has there own problems i can 100% agree to them being not willing to help, me being who i am will push my own problems aside to help someone and at times it seems stupid, but i don't feel right if i turn my back on someone like that



Yep iam am/was the same but if you end up with some of the people that i have had in my life it will change you. Not 100% but it will.
Wait until your older and have your problems and responsibilities and less time. You'll see.
But hopefully you dont end up going through some of what i did.
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Posted 12/7/15

MrAnimeSK wrote: But hopefully you dont end up going through some of what i did.
take this!



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Posted 12/7/15 , edited 12/7/15

Freddy96NO wrote:


MrAnimeSK wrote: But hopefully you dont end up going through some of what i did.
take this!





lol?
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