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Post Reply Why do people not care about others?
Posted 12/7/15 , edited 12/7/15
People normally don't care about other people that they've not created an emotional bond with. Some, have a more difficult time than others when it comes to emotional attachment, due to how they were raised, or due to events in their lives that have made them far less trusting of others. I do not care for my parents, I do not care for any of my friends, and I do not care for anyone here, because none of them, and none of you have done anything to affect my life in a way that makes me consider you valuable to my emotional well-being. I am emotionally unstable, so I either attach to people too fast or not at all, depending on the person. That is really the only definition of emotionally unstable. The person or people that PrinceJudar mentioned are typically people who get lumped in under the emotionally unstable diagnose, with people like me, but what makes them do what they do are usually due to other reasons. I am far less dramatic (externally), and would just dump you, and ignore you forever, never to talk to or about you ever again. You wouldn't be able to tell that I was struggling with extreme inner turmoil, and would instead paint me as uncaring, even though the opposite is likely more true. Emotionally unstable does not mean that I suddenly start crying out of nowhere, although, I can suddenly blow up and pull a man out of his car and repeatedly bash his head in with the car door for driving up behind me and honking at me (as you can tell, this have actually happened). I do respond like someone with PTSD, depending on the situation, because PTSD is basically what emotionally unstable is, just, due to a life-time of reasons, not a single event.
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When I do something nice, it's to be nice, not because I actually care...
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Just slap it out of them and take em for a ride forget everything while free yourself and others!



Anyway really many likes to put them into the millitary to learn themselfs in a few ways.
and appreciate life and "care less" about others or others on them (cind of how naruto grew)
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When I do something nice, it's to be nice, not because I actually care...


When I do something nice, it's because I care enough to be nice.
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It's important to care, but it's also important to understand that some people are just completely bent on destroying themselves, and perhaps taking you down with them. So, you can only do so much to help others. If you feel that (in general, not you specifically) you can't stop caring at times, it makes me think that perhaps you are familiar with some of the other people's suffering to a certain degree, feel identified with them, and in a psychological sense, you feel that you are saving yourself by saving them.

As to an example of hopeless cases, I've known quite a few people with "incurable" diseases or conditions, and when a cure is offered, they shun it or avoid it giving no explanation; recently, a guy from where my sister works had one of those, and instead of taking the treatment, he actually decided to waste away and die. Another lady that I know is also sick, and she never, ever, takes what others and I have told her will cure her. 'Funny' thing, both of those cases come from very religious backgrounds that idolize suffering and martyrdom.

So there you have it, in my opinion, you can't go on caring about everyone, just care about those who care about themselves first. Otherwise, that sadness is going to eat you up.
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Posted 12/7/15
The problem might be that their not related and don't know the person... Maybe if they met the person, then maybe they would care a bit more.

I for onw wouldn't really know what to say to someone asking for advice in such a situation. But maybe I would if I knew the person, so go and introduce your friends to the suicidal person...
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Okay to my experience no one cares until that person is gone then its just an uproar about it and becomes the main talk. I had personally lost an old friend of mine 6 months ago to suicide. And even though we werent friends that much anymore if i knew she was suffering i would have to myself to her house and be there for her. But i didnt get the call til someone told me she was gone. Something in my mind clicked around this time and she was in my thoughts i thought maybe because at one point of time it was because she was my best friend. But i didnt realize it til i heard the news when she came into my head was when she passed. Minds can be powerful things sometimes. This girl was bullied to the max and ik her life at home was never the best.

I cant stand why people just dont care about another, i do tho. You can be my worse enime go through a rough patch like that and id still be there. Ive been on that other side many times, been to counseling for it. I wish it on no one.
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it's good to be generous. you get a lot more out of being generous. it shouldn't matter how small or how big you think what you're doing is because you're just a tiny spec. it really means nothing if certain people don't care for you. your feelings are going to be a distant memory one day so what's the point of wasting your time getting sad today?
Posted 12/7/15
There are lots of diverse people. Some are bright and chipper, some are practical and functionary, others are jaded and cynical. There are the diplomats and there are the individualists. Its a bit borderline to think a person is all good or all evil imo. A hard life can lead to dark places, but it can also lead to excellence. Some people are simple, but most are complicated. Best to rate them on an individual basis after you get to know them first.
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The problem is you will never be able to help someone unless they want to help themselves. Its a great thought to want to help others but be careful not to cause grief for yourself in the process. Due to someone else hurting themselves, you have already decided to stop talking to your friends. Because they have a different opinion on this subject does that mean you should completely disregard them?
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I've met quite a few manipulative people like that. I know, because I'm incredibly manipulative apparently.


Bleh. It's mostly the people that have told me they're harming themselves or going to harm themselves because of something I've said or done. However, they never say it directly. They're just 'Oh btw, I'm cutting myself now. Don't worry I'm fine.' What kind of raging asshole does that?

Then I've had the 'please don't reject me if you do I won't live!' *talks for an hour about how he's always wanted to kill himself and life problems*

Dicks.





Holy shit....that is disgusting e.e i hate people like that.

Makes me sad some people honestly use suicide for a pity party and want attention as i hate people like that.

It just makes it harder when you have friends like my own who actually do try to hurt and kill themselves and have genuine mental health problems. :/ because no one takes it serious because of all the idiots doing it for pity.
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idk what to tell ya man only that you're a better person than me and i am sorry that you feel saddened by the basic state of human nature.

that said, in my personal experience some people don't care about others because they don't feel like anyone cares about them. You may be surprised by how many people that are surrounded by loving friends and family still feel isolated and lonely, which makes empathizing with others difficult.
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Posted 12/7/15 , edited 12/7/15

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It's not whenever people care or not because secretly they generally do care but have a wall separating this emotion from what they're ready to accept to care. Your friends really just did a cost benefit analysis on the situation and came to the conclusion that they'd rather not get involved. Humans aren't selfless, they're all selfish.


I try to be selfless and not selfish it just pains me that people would rather be selfish all the time. Others health > mine IMO


I understand how you feel Im the same way. Sometimes though you have to realize you cant always help someone as much as it hurts and as much as you want to give all you can, in the end you'd only be hurting yourself. When it comes to suicide you cant always help someone once there in that mental state the best you can do is be there for them but once someone has decided they don't want to live its hard to pull them from the brink.

Keep on being a good person though don't listen to anyone that tells you not to be kind and compassionate. We as people should be living our lives to bring good things and good thoughts into the world. The fact that you are already selfless means you have reach a place 80% of people never will. I'm talking about all people when I say that compassion and selflessness is the key to real happiness.
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Ryulightorb wrote:


GrandMasterTime wrote:

It's not whenever people care or not because secretly they generally do care but have a wall separating this emotion from what they're ready to accept to care. Your friends really just did a cost benefit analysis on the situation and came to the conclusion that they'd rather not get involved. Humans aren't selfless, they're all selfish.


I try to be selfless and not selfish it just pains me that people would rather be selfish all the time. Others health > mine IMO


I understand how you feel Im the same way. Sometimes though you have to realize you cant always help someone as much as it hurts and as much as you want to give all you can, in the end you'd only be hurting yourself. When it comes to suicide you cant always help someone once there in that mental state the best you can do is be there for them but once someone has decided they don't want to live its hard to pull them from the brink.

Keep on being a good person though don't listen to anyone that tells you not to be kind and compassionate. We as people should be living our lives to bring good things and good thoughts into the world. The fact that you are already selfless means you have reach a place 80% of people never will. I'm talking about all people when I say that compassion and selflessness is the key to real happiness.


You are right you can't always help but being there is still enough.

But you are right and thanks
Posted 12/7/15

Ryulightorb wrote:


PrinceJudar wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:

I've met quite a few manipulative people like that. I know, because I'm incredibly manipulative apparently.


Bleh. It's mostly the people that have told me they're harming themselves or going to harm themselves because of something I've said or done. However, they never say it directly. They're just 'Oh btw, I'm cutting myself now. Don't worry I'm fine.' What kind of raging asshole does that?

Then I've had the 'please don't reject me if you do I won't live!' *talks for an hour about how he's always wanted to kill himself and life problems*

Dicks.





Holy shit....that is disgusting e.e i hate people like that.

Makes me sad some people honestly use suicide for a pity party and want attention as i hate people like that.

It just makes it harder when you have friends like my own who actually do try to hurt and kill themselves and have genuine mental health problems. :/ because no one takes it serious because of all the idiots doing it for pity.


Ryulightorb, you're like Kirito, but with character development..

awh everyone already answered your question, yh put bluntly; A LOT of people dont care about majority of people, each has different reasons.
my reason for not caring is because i played through swkotor waaaay too much, at first i helped everyone & cared unconditionally & was broke all the time <--i didnt mind.. then i wanted to beat Bendak Starkiller[to finish a mini-quest] which involved dark side points [i felt super guilty] then came credit-farming, then going dark-side all the way to see the dark-side ending... it came to the point where i felt instant-joy when i found out killing the annoying scientists was optional, i took my time with them .. yeah im a crappy person, nice but crap
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