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number one rule about human interaction, this applies to most people but not everyone.

People are too worried (much like yourself) about how you or the people in the group surrounding you are judging them to even think about judging you.
knowing this should make it easier for you to be confident and calm. People like confident people, confidence builds confidence, and confident people can be depended on for help.
but the most important bit of information i can give is the fact that a few good honest and trustworthy friends are better then a bunch of acquaintances.
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Nalaniel wrote:

I feel like everyone who talks to me doesn't try at all. In most cases, I am the one who has to keep the conversation going. Occasionally, I get pissed because of that and don't even bother trying. Then I realise nobody is texting me... How do you make people enjoy the conversations they have with you? What kind of person are you? What is wrong with me? I know, it'd be better if I talked with a psychologist/psychiatrist, but I am not able to do so.


I see that is troublesome ell if your looking or people to hat with feel free to add i promise you it wont be a mistake/waste of your time.

lol

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I usually ask people questions and build on that. I try to get to know them. And if the conversation isn't going anywhere I just stop talking to them. Some people aren't your people. There's no need to force conversation.
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Nalaniel wrote:

I feel like everyone who talks to me doesn't try at all. In most cases, I am the one who has to keep the conversation going. Occasionally, I get pissed because of that and don't even bother trying. Then I realise nobody is texting me... How do you make people enjoy the conversations they have with you? What kind of person are you? What is wrong with me? I know, it'd be better if I talked with a psychologist/psychiatrist, but I am not able to do so.



i like your taste in music. How did you discover genesis? They don't get played on the radio much.

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This probably won't work for you but I'll post it anyway.
Being someone who dislikes social events and doesn't like to talk much, I'll give some tips I tend to live by when I'm forced into it.

1) Try to give of an approachable attitude. Try to appear upbeat trough out a conversation even if it's only an act.

2) Be be mindful of your body language. If you fidget a lot when you talk it will make you look nervous of even disinterested in the conversation. If you do this try keeping your hand where they can't be seen like clasping them behind your back or put them in your pockets.

3) Have a shared interest. This is the most important, there's absolutely no point trying to force a conversation if either party doesn't share an interest in it. Doing so will just make you seem demanding or worse annoying and as result they may attempt to avoid talking in the future.
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Find people who are interested in talking with you. You might just be talking to people who really don't want to speak with you.
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Posted 12/14/15

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Nalaniel wrote:

I feel like everyone who talks to me doesn't try at all. In most cases, I am the one who has to keep the conversation going. Occasionally, I get pissed because of that and don't even bother trying. Then I realise nobody is texting me... How do you make people enjoy the conversations they have with you? What kind of person are you? What is wrong with me? I know, it'd be better if I talked with a psychologist/psychiatrist, but I am not able to do so.



i like your taste in music. How did you discover genesis? They don't get played on the radio much.



There's this neat German radio station I listen to every day that plays all the greatest hits from the 60s, 70s, 80s and 90s. 70s and 80s most of the time, including Genesis. I'm talking about Phil Collins Genesis, not Peter Gabriel.
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If you're being yourself and it's not working out, then don't worry. You'll meet someone soon enough that'll have similar interests as you. Btw, I don't listen much to Genesis but there's this one song I like from them. It's called In Too Deep if I'm not mistaken.
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Posted 12/14/15

Nalaniel wrote:

I feel like everyone who talks to me doesn't try at all. In most cases, I am the one who has to keep the conversation going. Occasionally, I get pissed because of that and don't even bother trying. Then I realise nobody is texting me... How do you make people enjoy the conversations they have with you? What kind of person are you? What is wrong with me? I know, it'd be better if I talked with a psychologist/psychiatrist, but I am not able to do so.


Find people with similar interests/hobbies. When talking with strangers, you gotta have some level of charm I guess lol. I mean, I work retail so making conversations with people is easy peasy, even if it's supposed to be a part of my job. And I'm already pretty social anyways.
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I have this exact problem. Luckily, I've found two friends who I'm still hanging with after months. But seriously, no one seems to be trying to make friends. It's funny because I go out of my way to contact people who are especially seeming friendless and want to change it, but then the conversation just goes nowhere. And the sad thing is....... the conversation was premature when it ended, so it's not like... the chemistry was the issue xD

So yeah, I don't get it either. I still get texts from some people but I just know that if I even bother to put out an actual response and try to really engage in conversation with them, they'll only respond with a sentence or less and nothing past that lol
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Posted 12/14/15

vessel wrote:

If you're being yourself and it's not working out, then don't worry. You'll meet someone soon enough that'll have similar interests as you. Btw, I don't listen much to Genesis but there's this one song I like from them. It's called In Too Deep if I'm not mistaken.


Beautiful song indeed.
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Yep yep,, Peter did better solo.
Im just happy you dont like the Bieber.. LOL (sorry, i was stereo typing your age)
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Posted 12/14/15

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Yep yep,, Peter did better solo.
Im just happy you dont like the Bieber.. LOL (sorry, i was stereo typing your age)


I agree with both of your statements. I just don't like rodents that eat wood and can kill you with those big teeth.
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Posted 12/14/15
Pull your pants down and helicopter your cock
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Posted 12/14/15

Nalaniel wrote:


hicksvilledave wrote:




Yep yep,, Peter did better solo.
Im just happy you dont like the Bieber.. LOL (sorry, i was stereo typing your age)


I agree with both of your statements. I just don't like rodents that eat wood and can kill you with those big teeth.


Latest rumor is bieber is dating a Kardashian.. I usually dont wish ill on others, but,,,,,,,

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