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Posted 12/15/15
league of legends?
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It doesn't matter.
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Posted 12/16/15 , edited 12/16/15
Do they come with a warranty if you buy them?
You might have better luck at a robot forum.
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Dude/lady, just be yourself. Let the conversation flow. If people like you they'll respond. Maybe not on the first try but keep doing the thing and you'll get somewhere.
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Being yourself .
also if people are bored of not texting you then you are wasting your time you well soon find friends who well love to txt and all
there is no point in even bother with people who think you are boring or are not even giving you the time of day
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Sometimes you have to keep at the conversation, because some people are shy or unconversational. More you talk and continue the conversation they will open up and talk more. I am like that where I am shy but I am very talkie person and open only to my close friends because I feel more open to them and less shy around them (that's mainly because they keep talking to me and that eventually lead to me just started to talking back). Hope that helped
Posted 12/21/15 , edited 12/21/15
if you want to chat with one of your peers, say "hey" and then follow it with "you look about the same age as me, I'm 17" and wait for them to respond, just continue walking and wait for their response, if it's something or nothing at all, simply don't say any more unless they carry on the conversation
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Posted 12/27/15

someloner wrote:

league of legends?


Sorry but that is the worst idea ever... You'll just end up killing each other, XD
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Posted 12/27/15

lukedollo wrote:

number one rule about human interaction, this applies to most people but not everyone.

People are too worried (much like yourself) about how you or the people in the group surrounding you are judging them to even think about judging you.
knowing this should make it easier for you to be confident and calm. People like confident people, confidence builds confidence, and confident people can be depended on for help.
but the most important bit of information i can give is the fact that a few good honest and trustworthy friends are better then a bunch of acquaintances.


Honestly is this exactly correct. Just relax and enjoy yourself. Nothing ever bad has happened if you do something dumb. Just have a laugh, get up, and start again.

Posted 12/27/15
the people that matter will try, that's all that's really to it if you've felt you've tried.
people will come and go.
you didn't do anything wrong.
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Posted 12/29/15
Remember the conversation is not just about yourself! Talk about something random, have a debate and stuffs. Ask them about their opinion.

Be yourself!
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Posted 12/30/15
I joined a board game group. Still I'm not really talking about anything with them. We have had lan party and play some games online too, but that is all.

One thing that makes me itsy bitsy salty is that that most members are guys, like 90% of them.
Still I love board games.

Well I got pal in my class, and one has been around since I was ten, but these people share the same humor.
Youtube poops, haikus, and just general internet nonsense.

I guess forming a clan or group around some activity would bring people together, which would increase the chance for getting friends from 0 to 0,1.
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Posted 12/30/15
Try finding a common interest to talk about. If that doesn't work then they're not great friends.
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Posted 12/30/15

Nalaniel wrote:

I feel like everyone who talks to me doesn't try at all. In most cases, I am the one who has to keep the conversation going. Occasionally, I get pissed because of that and don't even bother trying. Then I realise nobody is texting me... How do you make people enjoy the conversations they have with you? What kind of person are you? What is wrong with me? I know, it'd be better if I talked with a psychologist/psychiatrist, but I am not able to do so.


a conversation between two people that aren't very accustomed to each other has always reminded me of your early experiences in that classic slow dance haha. its like hey, we're both here, but its slightly awkward because I don't want to do something silly and embarrass myself, but if I do nothing its going to be even more awkward then it is now.

so there you have the silent battle. and its not that someone isn't trying when the conversation is on the table, its that they are dealing with that same inner struggle. unless of course one party doesn't give a flying hoot that its quiet and awkward, in that case you will have to do the talking. so long as you continue to get a respectable answer then they may just be more of a listener then talker. you'll know if someone hears something that interests them or they are knowledgeable about because its easy to pick up on hearing the odd word here or there as opposed to sentences on a subject.

its also not about making someone enjoy a conversation with you. you can't "make" people. if they are uninterested they will probably be very short with you. sucks, but it happens. maybe not that the person is trying to act like a dick but they are trying to give you a hint. of course they may be totally oblivious about the fact that they are acting like a dick as well and that's just how they are normally. socially awkward or just a head case. that happens too haha.

there is most likely nothing wrong with you at all. you may look like you are trying to hard and that can freak new people a little because it might seem pretty intense to someone who doesn't know that you're just trying to be approachable. honestly there is no right or wrong way to go about it because there are so many different types of individuals that you'd need some form of telepathy for a first time conversation to run like a well oiled machine. if its someone you want to get to know just try to show them your not just making a pit stop in their life for the next 5 minutes. that wont happen with one encounter either, so don't lose heart and just let you be you.
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Have you tried not being yourself? I imagine somebody who needs friend advice from the Crunchyroll forum isn't someone people want to talk to. Try being a better version of yourself. Be the you that wouldn't get advice from Crunchyroll.
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Posted 1/10/16

dorkyyydiary wrote:
Remember the conversation is not just about yourself! Talk about something random, have a debate and stuffs. Ask them about their opinion.

Very true. Nerds are by definition very interested in some obscure topics, which do not interest most people to the same extent. People will generally try to steer the conversation away from topics they don't have anything to contribute to. Combine this with how nerds generally develop social skills relatively late, and they end up trying to force the conversation in a direction that the other person wanted to get away from.

Pay attention when someone is changing the topic. You may have wanted to add something to a thing that was said earlier (especially when more than two people converse) but nine times out of ten you should just drop it. Learning what not to say is perhaps the most important conversation skill. Keep in mind that conversation is not about "winning" and also not about sharing everything you know about the topic.

That awkward time when no-one has anything to say is an appropriate time to mention something random that interests you. And actually a good indicator that you should change the topic.

Hopefully this is of use. Wish I had it beaten into my thick skull a little younger.
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