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Posted 12/16/15 , edited 12/16/15


Parental relationships are odd. There is an authority relationship that is automatically present, complicating the ability for the relationship to maneuver through struggles in the least damaging way possible.

Personally, I always got along with my parents in casual conversation. As long as we talked about entertainment vs social or ethical dilemmas things were golden. I was raised in a highly evangelical household; I was memorizing the Bible daily with my parents starting @ 5 years old. I was taught evolution was wrong, the earth was 10,000 years old, science is full of holes and can not be trusted, - the usual Right Wing Christian garbage. I turned Atheist @ 18 after falling in love with science and the scientific method of understanding.

So it has been interesting. I grew up believing opposite of what I now believe; I also grew up listening to my family bash the very view I now hold, and say malicious things towards the group (atheist) that I now identify with. (being evil, incapable of morality) - & now that I am older and not just scientifically informed, but scientifically inclined, me and my parents just do not speak. I grew up being taught to receive an education and better myself - now that I have become educated it has become a point of conflict more than anything. I did not work hard to receive an education, a main reason being to be the first in my family to do so, only to repeatedly have to defend modern understanding of reality from ignorant religious parents. So I said fuck em. I am not living my life putting up with the same stupidity I grew up with - I don't fall sympathetic to the argument that because someone birthed me that I owe them my allegiance, or because they did X & supported me through X that it makes everything okay. At some point your own happiness has to be accounted for, and while I am not promoting rash decisions. I certainly would explore options, although I must admit not everyone can be so readily detached.
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Posted 12/30/15
eh,i have an OK relationship with my parents, but they tend to get so disappointed in me liking anime, which has caused me to distance myself from them so that they would lay off a bit, but they also just tend to invade my space so it is a OK relation, but not perfect.
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Posted 12/30/15
It's a decent relationship. There isn't any straight up dislikes. I only wish my parents had a sort of sense for crude humor that I have with my friends. They're boring to hang out with because they'll disagree with anything that makes me look stupid or any joke that is even in the slightest inappropriate.
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If something like that is severe enough, it definitely constitutes. My mother was basically like that when I lived that. Constantly demeaning me to give herself satisfaction. also telling me that I was gonna get raped/assaulted/etc to make me panic as well. The woman is mentally ill, for sure, but at the same time, I can't condone her bipolar (at this point?? I'm thinking that's what she is) ass for doing what she did to me. I'll let her destroy herself before she tries to dumb me down anymore.

Hell, just the other day, she tried to make the devastating effects of a tornado- including the deaths of ten people- all about herself, trying to blame me for something for only the billionth time in my life in her own billionth absolve her own issues- and also because it's apparently "customary" to call your ass of a mother, who you seldom talk to, no less, in the midst of a tornado threat. The tornado didn't even hit near her house, and meanwhile, I was panicking and shoving items into the master closet after its trajectory was supposedly aiming near the edge of my neighborhood. The good thing is that it didn't end up hitting me either, but still, I was essentially made to feel guilty for trying to assure my own safety and calm my own paranoia that my dad, my dog, and I were going to get blown away. That's just one example of her being shitty.

My dad is the good parent. Sure, he is chock full of bad jokes and sarcasm, but he's far calmer and doesn't resort to insults or threats, let alone physical contact, when he's moody or angry. Even though he has a rather time consuming profession that keeps him away from home on weekdays and nights, it beats being emotionally beaten and even physically shoved around to the point where you'd rather be dead.
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Posted 12/30/15
My parents tell me I'm a useless, spoiled brat. The only thing I possess is my brain, I'm too stupid for everyday labors such as washing the dishes and making food. It's true, but I think it's also their fault for not teaching me.
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Posted 1/5/16 , edited 1/5/16



? to this \/ or was that nothing with you to do (sounded like there was maybe someone letting you stay with them or not one of your parents?)
or is it more like never really known him (did he leave you?)


well i lived with my grandma on and off sometimes with other people but my father hasn't ever been in my life by his own choice.
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Posted 1/5/16 , edited 1/5/16
I have really good parents. I've had my share of bad experiences with them...but they're best let go of--especially in the grand scheme of things.

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I don't get along with my parents at all honestly. My dad abandoned myself and my mother when he found out I would be born, and my mother... she has to be the single most ignorant asshole I know >.< I envy those with parents that are decent people. My mother goes on and on about kindness and morals, etc, about everything she has "done" for me and my siblings but every action she has done is with self centered intent and has really only managed to make my life difficult and miserable. the rest of my family is alright though, thankfully.
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Posted 1/5/16 , edited 3/2/16

Nalaniel wrote:

My parents tell me I'm a useless, spoiled brat. The only thing I possess is my brain, I'm too stupid for everyday labors such as washing the dishes and making food. It's true, but I think it's also their fault for not teaching me.


there is no such thing as being too stupid to wash dishes or make food. that is called too lazy, those tasks are the most basic of things i think even a mentally retarded person could do them with a little practice.

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Well in our family I notice that both my own parents ended up in the UK primary because they wanted to escape their own domineering Caribbean parents. Mother had already started on a career before migrating and father's parents were so well of that he could choose whether to work or not because he'd always be supported. When I got to 16 I told my mother that I would be looking forward to moving out when I became of age. Mother is best to have around in short bursts. Anything longer than that is too awkward at best. That's partly because the parents were mostly absent for our very young ages. There was even a time when we couldn't recognise mother for other women because we hadn't set eyes on her for years. She's a workaholic and well into keeping up with career even if it cost her family life. Father was annoying so she left him and eventually found another husband. Mother always remained head of the house so I hardly ever think of mentioning the step father who's now deceased.

She fantastic at her job/career and great at being a help to any local community. Parenting is one of her weakest skills and it has slipped to negligence sometimes though she correctly provided us with shelter, food, lodging and access to education. It was the same with grandmother. People couldn't see why family living with them wouldn't consider them to always be a joy to be around.

It irks me that mother will grumble to friends to let them know we (offspring) aren't calling her every single week. We speak to her but don't check to see how regular this is. Communication should be organic not a chore. We'd grown up sometimes not being able to speak to mother for some years because she wasn't always in the same country we were in. No phone calls or letters to us either. When she was around we couldn't count on her speaking to us daily besides an am/pm greeting. Now she's grumbling about us not being attentive to here. Oh and she still isn't always in the same country as us.
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Posted 1/5/16
Yeah but I don't care, he has his own problems he needs to deal with and being mad wont fix them.
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Posted 1/5/16 , edited 1/5/16

40YearOldVirgin wrote:

It's why nobody ever wants to stay with them after a certain age...
I'm only living with my parents because that's the best option for me right now. If I had a choice, I wouldn't stay with them either.

No matter how old you are, they will still treat you like a child.


This, exactly...

I don't even live with my parents anymore yet if I do dare venture home for the weekend, I'll always get told some crap like "Go and turn off X" (they'll always say this when I'm in the middle of something as well)..... "Why?" ..."Because I said so... do as you're told" type BS... which usually results in me getting out my car keys and driving back home to my own place.

I'm 28, don't live with them, support myself entirely and yeah... it never ends!
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