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Posted 12/17/15 , edited 12/17/15

neugenx wrote:


Kid2daKrazx wrote:

So I was talking to this guy and the subject of goals and ambitions popped up. I told him that if I don't make it to Space or at least get a little wealthy from book sales, then I'd like to at least visit another country before I die.

Him, being a bachelor, he said that his goal was to find a lady, get married, have a family, white picket fence kinda bullsmack.

We got into an argument because I don't consider that lovey dovey stuff an actual goal because I see marriages as easily obtainable (if you're financially sound or physically attractive) and have more problems than provide a solution.

We cool now, but I just have to ask, considering the circumstances, was I the asshole in that conversation?


Think about it this way...

1. Anyone can book a ride to space these days, so is it really a goal?

http://www.virgingalactic.com/

2. Anyone can self-publish and sell their own books on Amazon these days. so is it really a goal?
https://kdp.amazon.com/

3. Anyone can go to an airport, train station, bus terminal or dock, so it travelling to another country really a goal?
https://www.busbud.com/en/bus-mexico-city/c/9g3w81

How do you feel when someone tells you your goals aren't really goals due to the fact anyone can obtain them?


not really mad because you're just a stranger on the internet :/

but thanks for the links
Posted 12/17/15
Yes you were the asshole in that argument.

Some people want materialism/career as their goal, that's all fine. Some people want love/friendship/children. Not everyone wants the same thing.
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Posted 12/17/15

Kid2daKrazx wrote:



not really mad because you're just a stranger on the internet :/

but thanks for the links


Yvw (for the thanks for the links). I wasn't trying to get you mad just showing you how things must have felt for your friend when you stepped on his life goal. A lot of people look down on marriage like it's a simple thing but as others here have pointed out it's far from it. Think about the toughest videogame you've ever played then multiply it by at least one hundred and you're looking at the realistic difficulty of having a truly good marriage. Cost of living increases, worrying about other lives that are your responsibility, doctors bills for births and/or daily health, cost of not only buying a house but keeping up payments not to lose it, etc. These are just the routine difficulties to "succeed" at marriage. Like you said, anyone can get married. It's staying married...happily that makes the difference.
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Posted 12/17/15
No not really. I think people being to overly concerned with Romance is unhealthy and detrimental.
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Posted 12/17/15

Kid2daKrazx wrote:

So I was talking to this guy and the subject of goals and ambitions popped up. I told him that if I don't make it to Space or at least get a little wealthy from book sales, then I'd like to at least visit another country before I die.

Him, being a bachelor, he said that his goal was to find a lady, get married, have a family, white picket fence kinda bullsmack.

We got into an argument because I don't consider that lovey dovey stuff an actual goal because I see marriages as easily obtainable (if you're financially sound or physically attractive) and have more problems than provide a solution.

We cool now, but I just have to ask, considering the circumstances, was I the asshole in that conversation?


Hmm...interesting topic. I'd say support your friend on trying to achieve a goal on romance. As for the question, yes for you didn't have to put your friend down like that.
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Posted 12/18/15 , edited 12/18/15
The ultimate goal of life is to pass your genes to the next generation so romance (and what it leads to) is the main objective in life. Whether you try to achieve it is another matter.

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