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Post Reply Your friend turns out to be trans
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Posted 2/15/17
I will probably still love them, that is if I loved them already. I don't think it's okay to inflict mental/physical pain without any sort of dire measure, nevertheless someones way of being. I think it's just fine to be trans/whatever you identify the person with. Someone can do, act, or do what they please as long as it doesn't get in my way, I couldn't care less. I'm all accepting of whatever doesn't strike me as a bother
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I'd still love them 100%. They are who they are and it really isn't up to me to decide that. They're still the same person as before, just with a different gender identity. I have a personal friend who is in the transition period and I love them with all my heart.
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Its depend on the situation.. I mean if you're dating someone that you thought was female her whole life turned out to be lied.... I'll feel betray, sick.. and angry!

Because that not right to play people life like that, especially when you're dating them, you should tell them the truth that you used to be guy/female before having relationship.

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yeah, i dont care at all.
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Posted 2/16/17 , edited 2/16/17

JanusCascade wrote:

Its depend on the situation.. I mean if you're dating someone that you thought was female her whole life turned out to be lied.... I'll feel betray, sick.. and angry!

Because that not right to play people life like that, especially when you're dating them, you should tell them the truth that you used to be guy/female before having relationship.



While if a friend told me this I honestly wouldn't be bothered one bit. While I've never had a friend come out as trans to me, I've had two friends come out , one as gay and the other as bi who didn't tell me for a while, and honestly it didn't really change anything between us.

However, I agree that the scenario above would be completely different. When you wish to pursue a relationship stuff like this should be dealt with from the get-go so that the other person knows and can make an informed decision whether or not they still wish to pursue that relationship.

To answer OPs questions directly:

I don't turn my back on friends, inflicting mental or physical pain on anyone because they are different in one way or another is never ok, I'd probably be more invested in learning about trans people so I could better understand where my friend is coming from, and I don't believe in judging people based on what group(s) they identify with (race, religion, sex, gender identity, sexual orientation, etc.), but rather solely on their character and their loyalty as a friend.

Posted 2/16/17
That kind of revelation would be on par with knowing how many shoes they own.
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I think transformers are kinda cool though
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No bearing at all. If anything, I'd admire them even more and feel honored that I was included in the process. People get shunned and assaulted over this stuff.
Posted 2/16/17
I don't care. I'd still be their friend.
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Girls night out would get a lot more exciting
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We'd do the same thing we'd always do.... Laugh at internet memes, play MMOs, and go bar hopping for the best Mojitos in town. Good times as always, doesn't matter the change.
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26 / M / San Diego, CA
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As long as they're not hurting anyone else or themselves who cares what they choose to be or do.
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19 / F / MANKAIカンパニー
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I wouldn't really care tbh; I mean, they're the same person that I've always known, so does it really matter?
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Nalaniel wrote:

What would you do? Will you still love them no matter what? Do you think inflicting mental/physical pain on trans people is okay? Does this turn of events make you consider learning more about the trans topic? Maybe you think it's only okay for them to be trans because they are your friend, other trans people are still freaks?


They were my friend before and they'd still be my friend after. It might be a bit of a shock at first if it was unexpected and I'm sure I'd screw up the pronouns for awhile (and probably get ribbed about it knowing my friends). Self-defense and consensual scenarios aside I don't think it's okay to inflict pain on people period, trans or not.
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Acknowledge the gender of their birth, remain friends, discuss mostly non trans topics; inflicting mental pain is wrong, trans has nothing to do with it.
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